Discussions of the day

Seems to be an increase of homes with no lawn or garden, I like a bit of both, some people at work say neither for no maintenance, what would you like if you could have anything? (you still have to maintain it)
gordy
I also like a bit of both. Trouble is Councils are approving these cement properties because they make a lot of money in revenue. One house, one block, front and back garden with garage turns into 3-4 properties with just a garage and not enough room to "swing a cat" so to speak. I feel claustrophobic just thinking about it. No trees, no garden, no bees, no fauna or flora. We are destroying our planet and environment. So sad.
Jan 06, 24

In today's society, it is so different growing up compared to the olden days. Now take this as an example, you're getting married & it is the biggest day & memories of your life to last forever. I was brought up that the man usually leads & also is the man of the house. You get married in his church & take his surname to be yours. Usually this what happens, but not many times, unfortunately. I in my opinion I am so against the rule of women keeping their surname, once they get...
Neo
I advise not to as if you ever want to change back, it is a pain in the backside to prove that your current name matches your original name on your birth certificate AND it costs you lots of time and money to change all your ids from one name to the next (and for people that are remarrying a million times and do it every time for passports, bank accounts, drivers licenses, work id, social security, Tax, property and vehicle ownership, shares etc, I have no idea why they waste their time and money).
If you REALLY want to change your name, at least keep SOMETHING in your name that matches your birth certificate so you can prove that you are you.
Dec 23, 23

If you found out a friend of yours was incarcerated for a crime he/she committed, whether knowingly or unknowingly aware of the consequences: would you support him/her and continue being that person's friend?
BLM
Since I was incarcerated as a juvenile delinquent - my answer - would be YES - I would unequivocally support the person - regardless of the circumstances! I know 'how' the criminal justice system works in the USA. Former president Donald John Trump has evaded the consequences of his actions because he has money, and Donald John Trump is white. (Donald John Trump has admitted he knew that he wasn't cheated out of winning re-election in 2020). The criminal justice system in America is 'broken' at the juvenile level and the adult level. Furthermore, not one person was convicted in the 'Banking Scandal of 2008' - which costed countries on this planet trillions of dollars (and the major players in 'Banking scandal of 2008' were WHITE)! In addition, not one person was convicted in the 'Savings and Loan Scandal' of the late 1970s and early 1980s - which costed the USA billions of dollars (and the major players in 'Savings and Loan Scandal' were WHITE)! So much for the argument CRIME - doesn't PAY!
Nov 18, 23

When you have very strict parents/carers, are you making your children more rebellious? I believe yes, because the children eventually get really tired of the way you are with them. You need to be calm & explain the reason you chose for your child, in doing something in the way you want. Perhaps the child would understand more & if they state another way, why don't you compromise to solve the issue in a better way. I find being too hard on them, it leaves them with wrong...
NZSCORPION
As a severely beaten and abused child I call BS on this. I didn't rebel I chose not to be like my parents and to this day i choose to help people when and if i can. Childhoods only influence the weak willed. Life is a choice every step of the way.
Nov 19, 23

My mum was a shorthand typist at Dunedin hospital She also worked on the telephone exchange then she became a bank teller which will probably become a thing of the past soon too My grandfather worked on the railways in the King country and enjoyed reminiscing his young days What job titles do you know of that don't exist in 2021
Elizabeth J 447888
What about the dunny man, before the days of sewerage. Yes, I am that old. I have a faint memory only of those days. The man who used to bring ice for ice chests in the days before refrigerators.
Oct 13, 21

So Halloween is coming up, and my teenagers want to go trick or treat. I've never done anything like this, so I'm seeing what are other people's thoughts on this, is it safe... should I worry, or should I just offer them a Halloween party at home?
Bill C
Another American waste of money imported to NZ and Oz by retailers who are just money grabbers. It means nothing to Kiwis or Ockers and is unsafe in many areas where children as young as 5 are allowed to go and knock on complete strangers doors, and have not got a clue what to do when someone says "Trick" to earn sweets. They just expect a handout. It is rubbish when many people are struggling to put food on the table, and also contributes to tooth decay in our youngsters,, many of whom already have tooth problems.
Oct 09, 23

Research tells us that many people are marrying later in life, but why are some bucking the trend and getting hitched in their early 20s? Do you happen to know anyone of those that make up 11 percent of Australians marrying young for better or for worse?
GB
I got married at 23 to my child bride 22. At the end of this month will be married for 57 years. Still going strong.
Sep 18, 23

Early motor vehicles were powered by steam, and drivers needed to have somebody walk before the vehicle waving a flag, to warn others of impending danger. We have come a long way since then, and no longer need to waive those flags. Similarly, when Nuclear Energy was in its infancy there were risks and accidents, but whether you realise it or not, Nuclear Reactors are everywhere now - both on and deep down in every ocean, as well as in most major city...
Andrew C 287196
Nope! It's a massive disaster waiting to happen (as Russia found out, Japan nearly found out). It is also far more polluting then every other form of energy creation combined - nuclear waste takes millions, if not billions, of years to disappear and they have no idea what to actually do with it. There are no nuclear reactors in New Zealand and the government long ago banned nuclear-powered ships (including the US Navy) from even visiting here.
Jul 04, 23

Skin specialists warn that soap and detergents used in baths and showers can remove vital oils from your skin...this could lead to skin complaints. Wrinkles and ageing the chemical companies respond by making shower products that make you at least as greasy after your shower... Ecologists warn that we need to conserve water...and having everyone showering or bathing on a daily basis is an extravagance the Earth does not need... Now Hollywood has joined with some...
Lachelle B
Hollywood? The owners of five+ bedrooms, three+ bathrooms, swimming pools, manicured lawns and three+ cars in the driveway with only two people living there? Oh yes, they definitely know about saving water \ud83e\udd23.
Aug 19, 23

From not having your finances in order to rush through the inspection process, common mistakes made by homebuyers can derail the path to owning your dream home. How to avoid common home buying mistakes?
LA
Wow! Such a GREAT TOPIC in these times!
1. If you can\u2019t pay off a credit card each month STOP dreaming
2. Assume your mortgage will increase by 25%
3. Assume the \u201cbread winner\u201d may get sick with no insurance or financial help. Do you have a contingency fund?
4. Don\u2019t waste your money on \u201cHome Inspection Companies\u201d\u2026unless you fluke out and get one that has a lengthy PROVEN track record ( lol\u2026they all say they do) \u2026.save money and get the info you need by getting a reliable plumber , electrician, roofer, buy a moister meter and potentially more experts in their field accordingly to spend an hour instead
I could go on\u2026.if anyone wants me to keep advising\u2026let me know. My list goes on:)
Aug 03, 23

My husband s co-worker recently had a stroke and he is only in his 30s. He is still suffering from the post-stroke effects but started coming back to work full time because he is the breadwinner for his family and his kids are still very young. He knows the stress from work is probably the trigger for his stroke, but what other options does he have? One can argue that your health is more important, but there are bills to pay. It is easier said than done to just change the job....
WonkyandProud
In 1989 when I became unable to work due to a nervous breakdown, my husband kept telling me I couldn't quit my job because we would lose our house. I realized that, and I worked and worked until one day, I was on my way to work, and I just knew I couldn't go to the office one more time. Therefore, I had a complete breakdown, and I haven't been able to work since because of anxiety and depression. These are very difficult disabilities to prove. However, with a lot of determination, I did manage to get retirement Social Security disability. It took several months, but I had enough vacation and sick days saved to keep my paycheck coming until the disability kicked in. It was so difficult, and I have not recovered from it. I had a wonderful government job that I loved, but my boss pushed and pushed until my brain completely shut down. I could not even comprehend anything my husband was telling me, and I cried constantly! I spent 3 months in the Psych Center! Finally, they let me go because I was better, but nothing more could be done for me at that time. I tried to sue the government for causing this, but I lost my case. They blamed it on the fact that my father had died during that same time period. I was not permitted to take time off to even visit Dad in the hospital where he was dying a painful death from bone cancer! I regret that to this day! We were in the process of building a new office building and no leave was allowed. I wish I had stood up to my boss, but I just couldn't! I still have not come to terms with how he treated me. He even made negative remarks about women, and he made no effort to hide that the men had more respect that the two secretaries! I wish that had been brought up at the hearing, but my attorney prohibited me from mentioning certain things. You can't beat a government attorney. They play so dirty. They even said that I married my husband, who was older than me, as a father figure. That was so not true! I knew this man for 15 years before we got married, and I never believed Dad was going to die. I could NOT accept that! Thanks for letting me vent. I hope it helps. I still want to talk to my boss and tell him how he ruined my life. My job was my pride. After that, I lost my self-esteem. I realize now that who I was shouldn't depend on the job I have. It is defined by the person I am, and I'm proud of who I am now! I hope this helps someone. Don't let people define who you are. They don't know you!!! God Bless you all!
Jul 27, 23

With all the needs in infrastructure and the health sector, why is so much tax money spent on various sports? I believe that elected officials should be more concerned about their constituents instead of entertainment for a minority group.
Crazy Chef
I think that they actually spend too much money trying to get minority groups to take the COVID vacation.
Oct 24, 21

In previous generations, children left home at 18 years old and became independent. Now with student debt and the increasing cost of renting and buying a house, we are seeing the rise of the 'Boomerang babies' who stay or move back home for well into their 20's. Is this good for our communities and have you noticed it in yours? Do you know any 'Boomerang Babies'?
Teri 1282723
For many reasons my two sons haven't left our home. One is on the autism spectrum and will always need help, the other works part time and has committed to looking after his brother when I'm gone, none of us could afford rent on our own, plus other stuff I don't need to get into. We are all respectful of each other, never raise our voices, and contribute to the bills in a fair and agreeable way. For us, this works beautifully.
I realize other families will have their divorces or loss of jobs or financial issues, etc. and need to come home for a while. Home should always be a safe place to come to when extra help is needed.
Just don't let them take advantage and use you without contributing what they can - financially, with chores, repairs - while they're with you.
Jun 27, 23

What are some of the weirdest things that you can think or remember about?
FastBird
When a woman changes to being a man and partners with a man who has become a woman, and the woman who changed to male, but only had top surgery, has their baby.
Visually that disturbs me.
Aug 16, 22

What's a TV series you watched that you found really gripping/can't wait til the next episode?
Sand
There has actually been a few: Game of Thrones, Breaking Bad, Better Call Saul, Happy! and Black Mirror.
May 30, 23

We just received ours Friday. We became eligible Monday and I was able to sign up online Wednesday. I got online around 6 AM and was one of the first to sign up for Friday.
Therese C
No way!! It is not a vaccine. It is mRNA gene therapy which will permanently alter your DNA.. It has been rushed and skipped animal trials. It has not been fully approved and is ONLY being used under so called "Emergency measures". No long-term side effects are known and many have had severe reactions, permanent injury and death from this vaccine world-wide. They have said it will not stop you getting covid, becoming ill with covid OR transmitting covid to others. In fact they say we will still have to social distance, wear masks and still have to quarantine at our own expense if travelling. So what is the point for a virus with a 99.97% recovery rate without a vaccine?
Mar 04, 21

I've seen every age of child up to I'd say 7yrs, nursing discreetly or being handed a bottle or pacifier. Do you think there's a "reasonable" age that an infant/ toddler should be weaned off all of these ways to feed or get comfort? Or is this strictly a woman's choice, and we should respect that choice and not get involved with our own opinions?
Christine M 323842
How about we don\u2019t look for reasons to judge other mothers. It\u2019s a bloody hard job. When children are little you are doing the best that you can, while the world looks upon in judgement, and people feel they have the right to approach you and tell you what to do. WRONG!!!
We need to support mothers and the choices that they make. Different families, different children, different values, different circumstances, different cultures will all lead to different choices.
Apr 26, 23

The Koala Rescue services are a voluntary group that rescue check up upon...and transport injured koalas...and then return them to their natural habitat after they have been cleared by vet services in Australia. If you phone them to help an animal, or help them in any way, you are recorded as being a MOP....member of the public...."yes the MOP said that he looked distressed" ... that sort of thing. Does anyone else have funny code names for things that no-one else knows?
PEN15
Our tech support had a code they used when they were called out to fix something that wasn\u2019t actually a technical fault, but just a user error.
PICNIC.
Problem In Chair Not In Computer.
May 23, 23

Been with my husband 9 years, married for 4 years. My question is how do you keep the fun alive in your marriage. I'm finding specially with COVID, its been harder to try keep the fun/adventure alive. We don't go out as much as we used to due to COVID. Just wondering if anyone has suggestions, advice or tips to keeping things fun and new.
Herb Gardiner.
I have found it best to have a wife who is a good cook, a wife who is good in bed and one who has a good job.
Most importantly it is best to make sure the three never meet.
May 25, 21

At what age do you think is appropriate for youngsters to have their own (adult) personal computer, laptop, tablet (considering Parental Control)? My daughter got her first (adult) tablet when she turned 3 and then the first PC desktop when she was 6. All with parental control. She has limited screen time during the years. I noticed creativity, skills in using different applications and researches, projects, etc developed exponential during years. Now she has a...
Smiley
No tablets in our house. I don't see a use for them as we have phones and laptops that do everything needed.
Our kids get their first laptop when they start High School (about 12yrs of age) and they get their first mobile phone when they turn 16 years old.
We have parental controls on their school laptops and monitor their phones until they turn 18.
It is far to easy to get addicted to technology and cyberbullying is so very real so limiting social media and some games can keep our kids safe.
May 13, 23

Fats are coming back in favour...and people are using a bit less salt and that is fine... While sugar has been identified as really bad...for some reason fruit was really good for you...as was fruit juice....but now Fructose the sugar that exists in it...in fairly massive quantities..is REALLY bad for you...so don't eat fruit anymore...what do you think?
ShawneeBaby
Like I've said before, it's all genetics. Small children get cancer, old smoking drunks live past 100.
Just eat what you enjoy and forget the rest.
Apr 18, 23

Calgary Alberta, Canada is where I call home Calgary is a great place for families to live because it is clean and safe, relative to other big cities. It has the most extensive urban pathway and bikeway network in North America. You will never run out of gorgeous places to explore, for hiking, mountain biking, and fishing in the summer and skiing the list is endless. Calgary gets the most sun of any of Canada's major cities. This year Calgary was ranked the 3rd most...
Chosen
Auckland. Was good but has gradually deteriorated as a result of the many hundreds of thousands of immigrants that have been allowed in over the recent years and yet there was not the infrastructure to handle it. As a result blocked motorways, deteriorating water mains etc, schooling shortage, housing shortage etc etc. So now we all work in the city but escape to our holiday homes near the beach when we are not. All sad but true.
Apr 16, 23

When you purchase your clothing, is it important to you to have brand name labels for your own security and others to see? Or will you wear and purchase clothes that don't have designer labels and prices, but are nevertheless, still decent and nice looking and comfortably fitting (and age appropriate)?
Christine M 323842
I wear whatever I bloody well want too. If I like it, it\u2019s a good fit, I can afford it, I think it will last, I\u2019ll get it. Purchasing cheap disposable fashion or clothing is nothing to be proud of.
Age appropriate? Not interested in people\u2019s preconceived ideas of what I should or shouldn\u2019t be wearing.
Mar 27, 23

Do people today have a more self-centered attitude than in past generations, putting their own wants and desires before anyone and anything else?
Luna
Everyone has this trait but it just depends to what extent. There is nothing wrong with putting your needs/wants before others because you have to do what it best for you and look after yourself. But don't do it at the expense of others. There needs to be a balance.
Mar 29, 23

Is it okay to put a kid in time out? I have read it all the good and the bad effects of putting a child in time out. Putting all that aside, how much damage is really being done to a child s self-worth when one is being sent to time out? Please let me know your opinion on when and is it appropriate to send a child to time out?!
Andrew C 287196
Wait. The Politically Correct numbnuts deemed smacking was "bad" and now time out is deemed "bad" as well?? No wonder we've got 10 year olds with hammers robbing liquor stores and 14 year olds doing ram raids late at night ... there's absolutely zero penalty for doing something bad. :-\ There's absolutely nothing wrong with a sensible smack on the backside (and no, that's not the same as beating the kid with a weapon).
Mar 18, 23

With the unpredictable economy and increasing mortgage rate, would you rather stay as an employee or start your own business?
BLM
I prefer my option. I retired on a 100% disability (other words my monthly federal civil service retirement checks (USA) are tax free) - I have been retired for over 24 years and counting - Life is Good (anyone for me :-))!
Mar 11, 23

Should those under the age of 18, be subjected to curfews if they are out and about...esp late at night... without an adult present? My thinking is it would help lower the crime rate...if there was a law in place! It's too easy for them to get up to --mischief, use fake IDs to get into... Pubs and clubs. Steal cars, and commit break and enter In residential and business premises. Isn't it time... the law was harder and more protective of our younger generation?
allinyourNCbc
monkey see, monkey do, if you have children and you are an asshole, chances are you will raise assholes,,,
Mar 30, 22

When I was younger I thought when I get older that is a good time and I'll get freedom to do whatever I want. But now I got freedom but I want my family to guide and motivate me to be on track. Now I know family members importance. Is anyone feels the same? I think when we have somebody by our side we don't know their importance and as soon as we lose them we desperately want them.
Lorraine F
I have learnt many of life’s lessons with guidance from those close to me but also through stepping out on my own to learn the hard way
Jan 05, 22

A number of research study show that alcohol is harmful to health. If it is beer red wine, spirit all contain the active ingredients is ethanol. So, why there shouldn't be statutory warning on alcohol bottle as it is there in cigarette. As in smoking, cancer or other health condition is not developing in each and every one. However, as science follow the statistical based data, it is accepted that cigarette smoking in injurious to health. Similarly, alcohol may not produce...
APB
Putting a health warning on cigarettes was as pointless as applying it to other items...you can make the product have ugly packaging..but people will smoke if they want to (until the majority bully them into not doing at all)..and the same applies to alcohol...I really don't like our current smug society...we used to have a democracy...but now we have a majority bullying everyone else to conform...its not just cigarettes or alcohol...its what you should think and what you can say...its creepy and terrible...1984 and worse...
AND I really REALLY hate it...I'm glad I'm getting older and won't have to put up with all this shit that much longer...and I never imagined that that would be the case...
HEADS UP.....what you are allowed to eat is probably next...but by that time you'll probably be so beaten down and compliant that you will barely even notice....welcome to your future..
Dec 18, 22

Recently I saw an article that a woman calls for "only adult flight" after she experienced a few hours flight with a screaming child. Well, it was a bit brave from her to say that. Yes, it's not fun when a child screams on a plane, but what parents actually can do? They never know how the child is gonna react, and sometimes it can be unavoidable to fight with a child. I do have small child on my own he is 4 y but never been on plane because I don't want to go thru any...
Crazy Chef
I have 4 kids and when they were under 5 Flying with them was extremely challenging, especially from New Zealand to Texas. I personally think rather than complaining about the kids..why not offer to help or invest in some decent ear plugs!!
Sep 16, 22

More jobs seem to be available to work from home. Is this a good thing or does working from home cut people off from everyday people to interact, and it's going to be a negative change. Is working from home better for mental health, or do we need to interact with people in person to stay mentally healthy?
JP
I have worked from home for over 5 years, At the beginning it was hard but once I got into a routine I found that from a productivity perspective I was much more productive. I was able to manage my increasing workloads and I have had no mental health issues as I still get to interact with colleagues via TEAMS and ZOOM. I appreciate that working from home is not for everyone but I think that COVID has brought home the possibility for employers and employees to work together to make sure that both benefit from the arrangements.
Oct 18, 22

The weather seems to be getting much colder in Winter and hotter in Summer - Is this Climate Change or just that we feel it more in our bones etcetera as we get older?
Christina C 466456
Our bodies change a lot over the years so no doubt we will feel a lot different at varying ages. Our ability to repair, hormone differences, body composition and even the weather contributes to how we feel. So there's a lot of factors.
As for arthritis it is an 'inflammation' disease and we know that there are a lot of lifestyle changes we can make to improve and sometimes eliminate the issue. Firstly changing diet can have a dramatic effect for some people. Did you know that turmeric has such powerful antiinflammatory chemicals in it that it matches nonsteroidal anti inflammatory drugs? There are a number of other foods that reduce inflammation as well like foods rich in carotenoids/beta carotene or vitamin A - a powerful antioxidant. Vitamin E is also good not only for it's antiinflammatory properties but also due to its role in collagen production which we all know is important for joints. Good sources of vitamin A are sweet potatoes, carrots and leafy greens - basically all the bright, vibrant fruit and veggies. For vitamin E there nuts like almond but also cold pressed extra virgin olive oil is one of the best sources of vitamin E you can get. Also vitamin C is a powerful antioxidant and also crucial for collagen production. Another good food for joints is gelatin which is basically denatured collagen - have about 20 grams of gelatin powder (the regular/plain/unflavoured gelatine powder that you use to make cheesecake/jello etc that you find in the baking section at the supermarket) a day which should give adequate levels of glycine for good levels of collagen production. I prefer food source of gelatin over supplements industry products as the food industry has much more stricter quality control than the supplements industry which is not as heavily scrutinised, which is one reason why most registered dietitians recommend getting your vitamins/minerals from your diet over supplements.
Another important factor is body composition, particularly the type of fat that is in your body - white fat (stored fat) is highly inflammatory while brown fat (fuel) is antiinflammatory. So losing excess fat should be top priority for joint pain management. We can either exercise, diet or get cold/start shivering more (up to 13°C seems to be the magic number where your body starts using white fat as fuel to try and keep warm) to convert white fat to brown/metabolically active fat. So the cold is actually good for you in this case!
Another method to manage inflammation is intermittent fasting as fully fasting (zero calories) contributes to repair and antiinflammatory processes within the body.
Finally moving more/cardio and building muscle helps to support your joints by strengthening muscles and bones so that they can handle some of the load.
Hope this helps :)
Aug 21, 22

When it comes to music, what decade do you think the best music like bands or solo artists come from, *1950's , with Buddy Holly and the Crickets, Bill Haley and the Comets, Elvis Presley, *1960's, The Beatles, Cream , Led Zeppelin, Jimmie Henricks *1970's, The Eagles , ELO , KISS ,AC/DC Alice Cooper *1980's,, Robert Palmer, INXS , Motley Crue, Madonna 1990's.... 2000's.... 2010...
writerrochelle
I was born in 1947, and graduated high school in 1965, so I really loved the 60's the best! There were also the Kingston Trio, and the other Folk Music stars of that era! I Loved Folk Music, also Bob Dylan, Donovan, Mama's and Papa's, ABBA, just to name a few. Good Ole Days! ;-D
Oct 09, 22

The Australian Capital Territory has announced that petrol cars will not be sold there after 2035. Isn't that a huge overreach? For one thing the price is prohibitive, then what about the infrastructure for charging. I'm not sure, I want an electric car, hybrid perhaps, but fully electric? Along with the power problems we are currently experiencing, will there be enough power for everyone to charge their electric car? While I have my own garage with a...
Rhian C
Sorry boss I can’t get to work today we had a power cut through the night and i don’t have enough charge to get to work! A new Excuse for those wanting a day off! Also what if fire ambo or police ran out of charge oh way to job.. eeek
Oct 06, 22

As parents get older & children grow into adults we generally expect them to become independent & this reduces the load on parents. However, when children have disabilities which affecting their ability to become & remain independent, the expectation and reality of parent's lives can be that they are caring for offspring into adulthood. There are people, (mostly women) who may also be caring for their own parents as they age. Others may be caring for their spouse or...
Claude H
I am 89 & bloody independent. I manage & don't want to be a burden on my family. They deserve a life of their own
Sep 22, 22

My daughter was a victim of getting bullied at school. There were always a view girls that would walk past her d either say something wicked or just bumped into her, so she would lose her balance and either fall or landed against the wall way wall. She wanted to change school's, but couldn't. We went to the school and talked to them, but nothing changed. The last option was to go see the principal of Hastings Girls High school, but she said she will sort it...
Nanone
The same thing happened to my granddaughter and the school was useless. They even tried to pick on her younger brother and she intervened but she was the one in trouble. Schools don't do the right thing for their pupils and it just seems to be a few that are bullies and they get away with it. If more is done in school we could stop this instead they just sweep it under the carpet and hope the parents go away.
Jul 23, 22

Have you stopped hugging people, or stopped kissing people when greeting them? We have stopped shaking hands and probably won't ever again, but I stopped wearing lipstick because of wearing a mask. I thought there was little point, but I keep forgetting to put it on when I go out now. I get dressed, then once I'm out I remember I haven't put my lippi on. Am I the only one?
Jania S
What pandemic??? We never gave up anything for a lie and everything is a lie until it is proven. For us we refused to be cowed by a lie... Also fortunate that we saw the world before it fell down the rabbit hole and became stupid on steroids, So as we always had a simple life we continued.... as before.
Jul 18, 22

How trustworthy do you believe our MEDIA are today? I read quite a lot on News sites and Newspapers, and am constantly amazed at how selective or biased the view's or judgement of these Journalists. Why don't they just shut up...and stop trying to influence the public by what they write! Once NEWS was all about publishing the facts, now it seems journalists often just want to express their biased opinions, and mislead the public from the real truth
Mopos
The media in general have never been trustworthy but! it is happening more and more nowadays. I agree with you Zing.
Jul 11, 22

Psychedelic drugs have a long history in medicine and popular culture, and they re now being researched as possible treatments for mental illnesses and other debilitating conditions. But are psychedelics ready to go from underground to mainstream medicine? And what lessons can we learn from the strict regulation of medicinal cannabis?
Sand
Returned US soldiers with PTSD use such drugs whilst in session with a psychologist. Results are good. Why would big pharma offer anything better than nature? As for medicinal cannabis who can afford it? To all the judgemental straightjacks out there: The war on drugs started with racism. It was to harass Billie Holiday because she wouldn't stop singing 'Strange Fruit'. It has nothing to do with craziness or addiction. Ancient humans took psychedelics it is in our genes. Do I do psychedelics? No. But if anyone wants to it is not for me to judge.
Jun 03, 22

Are we in denial about alcohol? Why do you drink and how much in your opinion is too much? Are the guidelines for no more than two standard drinks per day realistic?
Jellypony
Depends on if it is hard liquor or not. We have 2 beers and some times 2 wines and occasionally we drink every day but only for a little while and then we stop and go back to our 3 nights off a week. Some would think that was excessive. We enjoy our drinkies and nibbles. I don't care what other people think, we do as we please in our own home and we are no threat to any one. We are careful and we manage our own health and I don't think it is doing us any damage (yet)? We are here enjoying life and we are happy. I don't judge others so why should they judge us.
May 13, 22

Every now and then... it's mentioned on the News...of people scamming innocent people out of their hard-earned savings. With so many people accessing the internet daily, and phone's being used by everyone, what is really being done to prosecute those guilty of fleecing innocent people out of their money? You can complain to police but many don't seem to want to know, too hard, too busy, or they don't have enough people to investigate every fraud case they receive. Should...
Judy CH
We were scammed out of $53,500, It was a scam that hardly anyone knew about, we were building a new house through GJ Gardners Manawatu, we had sold our house brought the land and they started building, we had to pay progress payments and the first invoice arrived for the slab down, we knew it had been laid about 10 days before so were expecting the bill, when it did arrive my husband was really sick with pneumonia and a blood clot in his leg, we were backwards and forwards to the Hospital and Dr, lab for tests etc then another email arrived and said when do you expect to pay this so we thought maybe we had missed another email or the accountant had been late sending it so went to the bank to pay it, they told me to go home and do it online, normally we would have gone to Palmerston North and payed by cheque and got a reciept but it wasn't an option as it was a long drive with my husbands condition. About 10 days later we found it was a scam, GJ's denied it was them who were hacked, though we learnt later it was and it had happened to them about 3 Months before but they didn't bother to let their Customers know, the money went into the mules account which had always been in overdraft, the ASB bank never questioned the payment even though it wasn't made out to her, they then let her transfer the money to two bank accounts in Australia. They would not help us at all. If it had been their money they would of had it back in a flash, The police in the City where the mule lived interviewed her and said or she hasn't got any money so we won't prosecute!. We asked the Minister of Police for help he didn't want to know. The Police Woman Detective in the town where we were renting really pushed for the woman to be charged which she was after about 2 years. She has to pay money back a little bit a week but if she stops paying I don't think we can do anything. Every payment I make now I check that the bank account belongs to the company I am paying. A little while ago the Government was caught out by the same sort of scam. Most people I have spoken to about it were not aware of that sort of scam and said they would have been caught out. The Banks don't care because they are too busy ranking in money.
Mar 26, 22

My husband just passed and while the service was beautiful the cost was very high even though it was a basic funeral. What do others think it is worth pre-paying
Grommie
Our family have a particular stance about funerals. Funerals are for the living, not the dead. People attend funerals because they see it as "the thing to do". We come into the world and just about no one knows, so why not leave the same way? Who benefits from funerals?
Many people who attend funerals are hearse chasers after a free lunch.
I know of a funeral director whose wife runs a flower shop and they have a daughter who is a caterer. Talk about tie up the whole swindle.
If you prepay, the money just sits there, earning nothing. If the funeral director decides to sell the business, often you'll find the new operator pays you back your money because it has moved away from being enough to cover the cost. Or worse, they say nothing and send your family an additional bill.
Mar 09, 22

Interested to know how both retirees and employed fill any spare time you have or your day if retired. If you have children/grandchildren do you spend a lot of time with them? I simply relax for most of my time - more so because of covid.
Rob
Gardening, housework, home maintenance. I am a retired widow and there is so much that has to be done when you are on your own.
Jan 27, 22

Is it possible to stay true to your internal compass (morals, principles, scruples, values, etc)? Life (society) is constantly pushing you off-course. In the end, I went with the means justified the end (your goals in life). I did not stay true to my internal compass - but I did get what I wanted out of life! Do you think an individual can stay true to herself or himself internal compass?
mary c
I have been drawn t0 0thers needs first since i was y0ung- but n0w kn0w i get my 0wn rewards being there f0r 0thers, my keybrd nt wrking- u cn guess which Ietter!! frustrating!!!
Jan 11, 22

How old is to old to sleep with childhood toys. In the internet say 34% adults sleep with they childhood toys and 44% keep they childhood toys living. Is wrong to keep the toy or sleep with its. Or is something feel saved to be close to the remember with love.
Frank N
You're never too old for most things (like perhaps you can be too old to suck a dummy). I'm 73 and I'm definitely not too old to work! I enjoy it
Feb 21, 21

At the moment we are all mostly at home. I try to walk each day. I have certain programs I like and most of the time on my computer. I might bake a cake another day I might vacuum. I frequently talk to family over skype. Talking with someone helps lift my mood. I try to talk to people while out it tends to help both of us even though brief. Usually dogs help. My dog is having the best time since I am mainly home. It is amazing how the boy makes me smile. The worst is for the...
Smiley
Quite a few years ago now, i noticed a neighbour's papers were still on the front lawn. He was an avid better, ex-jockey who loved to follow the horses and have a flutter. He never missed collecting his paper.
We notified the police who found him dead in his chair with the TV still on.
We hope he had a bet on a long shot and had won a large amount. We hoped he'd had a heart attack and died without pain due to the shock of winning. (We don't actually know how he died though.)
As for the current world situation.I have barely left the house for months now. There are too many self centered, selfish people living around here so going for walks in the neighbourhood or park does not leave me feeling safe due to other's behaviour.
I do not have skype nor zoom. I chat to friends most days by text/sms or online messenger services.
I have not had pets for over 20 years now and find that in itself very lonely.
I think it is important to stay in contact with neighbours, especially those who may not have access to family/friends or those who tend to not be very social.Even a little note in the letter box or a little posy of flowers from your garden left on their doorstep could brighten their day and make them feel not so lonely.
Sep 18, 21

What do you do to save Money? Favourite budget recipes, buying in bulk, any tricks or tips? Im always on the look out for bargains and ways to save.
misfortune8
I stock up on non-perishables at sale time. I've never paid full price for hair colour or washing detergent: I wait until they're on sale for 50% off, then buy two or three packs. I buy new boots at the end of winter sales & sandals & swimwear at the end of summer. I'm more concerned about comfort & quality than the latest fashions. For larger items like furniture, I wait until post-Xmas or end of financial year sales. I also sew a lot of my own clothes - that saves a LOT!
Aug 07, 21

I'm living in America, and it's almost on a daily basis, that a food sold in a grocery store or health food store is being recalled. For salmonella, etc. It just makes me wonder, why are so many foods being recalled, so often.. Are companies cutting costs, at our expense? And, have you ever been a victim of a food recalled product?
AlbertA K 456302
Here in NZ we are reasonably confident that our team of consumer and health services take food safety very seriously and only order recalls when absolutely necessary.
Jul 12, 21

Are you a person who regularly would pay top dollar for this kind of treatment?
just me- NZ
Also my friend had an angry look between her eyes, and she wasnt an angry person at all. 2 botox treatments later, just eased that look, she can still move her face, but that deep angry line has softened. Looks good and natural.
May 21, 21

How young is to young for a child to play 15+ or a 18+ game? I know of few parents that let their 5-7 year olds play these violent games, my son is 11 and a half and I've only just let him start playing the 15+ games but not the 18+.
Disie
That's just wrong. I'm no prude by any means, but these go too far. They're just too realistic with no consequences. It's a bad lesson and one taught by lazy parents
Apr 22, 21

Do you believe that when our loved ones are gone that they can still see us and watch over us and that they try to communicate with us? Do you believe that mediums and psychics can honestly speak to the dead? Or do you believe that once they are gone thats it. They are gone. Theres no communicating with each other and theres no such thing as ghosts or spirits?
Lia
I do believe in the afterlife.My sister recently passed away peacefully and I feel her presence with me every day.
Apr 10, 21

People who know they re infected but still choose to carry on as normal infecting others Should these people be punished as law breakers your opinion please
Glen O 298805
Why stop at corona virus. The flu kills people too, more young people than corona as well. We should fine and jail anyone with the flu as well. How about some one who knowingly keeps bees they are known to kill some people if stung lets throw them in jail too. Ohh wow just imagine how much we could fine the CCP for knowingly letting it out. Not quite sure how we would jail the CCP though
Jan 18, 21

Governments are suspected of keeping important information under lock and key , sometimes for many years. It is not just a conspiracy theory either. Are you concerned about what secrets your National government might be holding? SECURITY, UFO'S, SPYING, etc! What do you think?
BLM
A very good question! NOTHING is too sensitive (or dangerous) that it needs to be kept a secret (mishandling of the pandemic by former president Trump - his administration believe that pandemic was a hoax created by a too liberal press). However, it is a great way for ANY government to avoid disclosing their corruption (or incompetence) issues (military cost overruns for new weapons or weapon system). It is better for the public too know the facts (Biden won the election - USA) - instead of coming up with conspiracy theories (Biden did not won the election - USA) which people (in any country) - begin to believe (with horrendous results) - USA: 01/06/2021 - storming of the Capital building in Washington, D. C. The TRUTH (facts) should always see DAYLIGHT -without being twisted by any government!
Feb 08, 21

You know in amongst your family or friends there is always a moment or a story that gets spoken about all the time. To you, you might feel very embarrassed and mixed emotions. For me when I was young there was a time, my mum, sister and I were on a bus heading to town. A fly was annoying us and was dopey. It landed on my lip, I blew to blow it off but didn't realise when I did it, I accidentally exhaled and ate the fly. My mum and sister saw, laughed and me. I was...
Flamingo
Many years ago while eating at a posh restaurant my dress snapped at the shoulders and I was sitting there topless
Jan 08, 21

I cannot believe it is 2020 and capital punishment still exists throughout the world, particularly in America. It's barbaric and does not belong in today's world.
Sammi
l think that if you do the crime than you should pay for it. Why should the family if the murdered victims have to pay for the killer's keep while they have lost their lived one or some child molesters who has no intention of changing, they are a waste of space and resources, they should be put down.
Sep 27, 20

Where are you going to travel to once the world opens up to tourism again? I'm definitely on my way to Africa as soon as I can.
Carolyn 395035
You do realise that COVID is on the rise again, and because of this no-one will be going anywhere for a while. There are also people who believe it is all a farce and so therefore not wearing masks and demonstrating in public without masks. These people are crazy. Honestly who cares about human rights when a mask could save lives.
Jan 04, 21

Have you ever served on a jury before? I have not, but I know people who have. Some of them even got paid to serve because the trial went longer than expected. Would you like to be on a jury?
APB
In Australia you can refuse if you can think of a good reason...they are supposed to choose people at random....they tried to get me three times....I think after that they gave up....I said it was against my principles and I refused to let my opinion put a total stranger into jail...
Jun 06, 26

Do you find it hard to forgive someone that did you wrong? Is it easy for you to apologize when you did wrong to someone else? I find it very hard to forgive someone and I'm a big enough person to apologize to someone if I did wrong.
Phyllis 1708060
I have no problem apologizing if I have done something wrong or said something to someone I shouldn't have. But forgiving and forgetting? That's hard because at that point trust is gone. There are some who will rip a strip off of you one day and then the next day say Hi and think that everything will go back to the way it was, everything forgotten. It doesn't work that way for me. I can't forgive what I don't understand. Without an explanation it won't go back to the way it was. I can go back to being civil. To anyone on the outside looking in it will seem friendly enough. Anything to keep the peace right? But on the inside it still hurts and will never be forgotten, making me as White Hair said below, very cautious going forward.
May 24, 26

I m so torn on embracing it or getting it dyed. How have you coped with greying? What dye is best to cover it up without having to dye it all the time, or how have you embraced it and made it work for you?
Cindy N 315785
I have learnt to embrace my blonde hair slowly turning white. I am nearly 60. I use a toner shampoo to make it really white.I have friends who get foils the same color as their hair roots now, to help with the transition. Hair dyes are so toxic. Better to embrace your naturalness if you can
Feb 24, 26

I have put my name down to trial a stage III double-blind study of a new drug. It means that it has been tested twice previously on humans. It is for people who have artery disease. Would you be willing to test a new drug? I guess if somebody had a disease such as cancer you would be clutching at straws and try anything that gave a glimmer of hope. The side effect is weight loss, which I could do with a bit of. So I guess I would soon figure out if I were on the...
Pearlz
I hope they are going to pay you. It isn't something I would do because I was once given a brand new drug that had been tested but had \ud83d\ude1ca bad effect on me and I suffer to this day. I have had bad effects from new drugs twice and both times I was accused of not following the instructions and ignored by the drug companies. However, when people started dropping dead from the drug I had stopped taking it was removed from the market. I guess I was lucky that I didn't get something worse than a blood condition from it. When the other company put a Covid vaccine on the market I was very wary because I know from personal experience they don't tell the truth about adverse reactions, but when I was locked out of everywhere because I was unvaccinated I gave in and accepted it. Thankfully I had no adverse reaction. Hope it all goes well for you.
Feb 16, 26

For me, yes. Parents should be concerned about sports betting because it is highly accessible to youth, addictive, and increasingly normalized, often leading to financial, mental health, and legal issues. One in five adults with serious gambling problems started before age 18, highlighting the long-term risk of early exposure. What would you say? Should parents worry about sport betting?
Liane H
Not just parents ..everybody should be concerned . It doesn't get anywhere near the recognition it justly deserves. You don't see ads for crack cocaine every hour on the T.V now do you ?
The flimsy measures they throw in after the ad are even more insulting to imply Gambling responsibility lies with the punter. All these products are simply set up to be addictive and harmful and not a thing is being done about it .
Watch your children closely, it's very dangerous game . If they are doing it alone as opposed to socially once in a while then ..even more reason to be concerned. Not just a money issue either, it eventually takes up that person's entire headspace exactly like drugs and or alcohol do and it does not discriminate (age or gender or intelligence !).
Feb 11, 26

What were your favourite subjects at school? My favourites throughout high school were English, Drama & History. In early high school Commerce was fun, in later high school Economics was tolerated only. My hated ones were Religion & PE/ sport. Both, of which were a complete waste of time to me, though I didn't mind cheering on friends who were into sports. How about you?
BLM
I don't have favorite subjects, favorite teachers, or fond memories (of school) when I was in school - elementary (K thru 6), junior high school (7 thru 8), or senior (night) high school (9 thru 12). I was 'FORCED' to attend segregated schools and learned to SURVIVE (despite) getting an 'unbelievable lousy public education' (only in the USA aka MAGA (lol))!
Jan 24, 26

We would be playing games outdoors, doing arts and craft projects, filling the house with the aroma of baked goods, etc. What about you? How do you spend Sunday with family?
Bugalugs
Today? Nothing. My parenst and all my siblings are dead, my other relatuives, neices, nephews etc. all live 100s of kilometers away and we only catch up once or twice a year. But don't get me wrong I am not complaining, do not feel lonely or hard done by. I keep busy and so y week-ends are a time to relax, go to the beach - doesn't matter what the weather is like, like the smell of the sea (usually great), the sound of the waves and the Seagulls calling. I don't believe in any religion or after life so these quiet times on the beach are my version of heaven!
Jan 03, 26

When you buy something from a supermarket under the label 2 for the price of one ... say the normal price is $10 before they put it on special. So you get 2 expected to pay $10, and you come to the counter and the charge you $10.40 is that fair, or you are being ripped off? What do you think
misfortune8
In Australia, if an item scans at a different price to the shelf, take it to the service counter & show the receipt & you get the wrongly scanned item FREE! If you buy multiples of that item, only the first is free, but they will refund the extra amount you paid for the other products. I've got a better-than-average memory & actively look out for specials, so I get items free from time to time.
Dec 07, 25

I recently took my car into the dealership's service garage for limited work, i.e. replace summer tires with winter tires and an oil change. I was told in advance it would cost $450, but the garage performs an inspection before it commences work on the car. After the inspection, the garage said that a number of other work items needed to be performed and the estimate inflated up to $1700. This was not the first time that such inspections inflated the cost and work to...
BLM
I do not own a car. I do not drive (vision difficulties). Not my issue (I do not know or care whether it is a fix up or a rip off). However, my suggestion is to switch over to using public transportation (no more inspection fees). I use public transportation!
Nov 14, 25

More and more businesses are asking for payment upfront before the job or service has been performed. What happened to the practice of completing a job or service, then sending an invoice for work well completed to everyone's satisfaction? What if something goes wrong? They already have their money in hand. It makes it more difficult to complain about a shoddy job afterwards. What is your experience in this regard? ...
ALE
Part of is the cost of materials so when you are paying up front, the contractor or service can buy the materials needed to start or complete the job.
Nov 03, 25

Please share anything fun things to do with technology (that is not something that is a usual thing to do with it). I think it is fun to give online translators things translate from English to another language and then have that result translated into another language and so forth (like internet Chinese Whispers) until you get to a point where you can't be bothered any more, and then you ask it to translate the final result back into English and see what it ends up saying. ...
Norman M
I kept on forgetting my password, so I changed it to \u201cinvalid\u201d. Now if I forget my password, and type the wrong one in, my computer tells me: \u201cyour password is invalid\u201d, and then I remember!!!!
Oct 02, 25

I was at the dentist today, and we were talking about how teeth don't get better with age. This started off a discussion about what does get better with age. Of course, wine was mentioned. He said his cooking was getting better, and his assistant said she was less anxious about what other people thought of her. I thought I was better at considering other people's points of view than when I was young. What do you think gets better with age?
writerrochelle
Knowledge and Wisdom get better with age from our experiences. Unfortunately, by the time we are smarter and wiser, we're usually too old for it to matter much anymore! ;-D
Aug 24, 25

Imagine humans successfully settle on a new planet. To ensure a fresh start, the community decides to create one founding rule that everyone must follow. What do you think that rule should be and why? Should it focus on equality, environmental care, peace, or something else entirely? Let s get creative your rule could shape the future of an entire civilisation!
Lachelle B
Supposedly the most intelligent species (self labelled) yet cause the most destruction. We have no right to do that elsewhere.
Aug 12, 25

What s the one food everyone seems to love but you secretly (or loudly) can t stand and why does it feel like admitting a felony every time you say it out loud?
blunder boy
my missus loves tripe to me it tastes like 3-day old chewing gum she has cooked it many different ways and i have found many different ways to avoid it
Aug 10, 25

The idea of giving someone an awesome gift is always forefront of our minds when a new baby is on the way, but how much should you really spend?
Sheree T
It would depend on how much you can afford. I like the idea of a gift basket with a variety of items.
Jun 29, 25

Regardless of how well you think you remember things, all of our brains are full of memories of events that never happened so-called false memories. And that, according to science, isn't necessarily something to worry about. What would you say? Do we remember things the way they really happened, or the mind can play tricks on us?
Cute
I guess we all see things differently and what one sees the other doesn't. My mum used to exaggerate when she was telling stories about her childhood and her sisters would say that's not the way I remember it.
Jun 16, 25

Should there be stricter building regulations in fire-prone areas, including the use of materials like metal roofs and stucco walls, and a reduction in the amount of wood used? Additionally, should every house in these areas be required to have a water reserve for fire emergencies? Finally, should escape plans and properly maintained vehicles be mandatory?
LRK
I think with the fires in California that could have been avoided if the state would have done their job and do brush clearing year round or controlled burns, the fires could have been smaller and easier contained. I think we should rebuild but look at material being used.
Jan 25, 25

Are you taking vitamins for health reasons? Some experts say that vitamins are useless. We should be able to source essential vitamins from our daily food. Now, however, there are warnings about Vitamin B6 causing peripheral neuropathy in large doses. Should we continue with our regimes or look more closely to check whether we are doing more harm than good? What do you think?
Kathleen 1396104
I have cancer. Vitamin d was recommended and folic acid for my hair. It is thin but I have not lost it yet.
Jan 15, 25

Our perception changes as we grow older. What's something you realized about a family member once you got older?
Teri 1282723
My second daughter wanted to (very cruelly) cut ties with me around 15 years ago. It really hurt me and I tried for years to fix things but then over time realized how abusive and manipulative she really is and has been for most of her life. I was finally able to let go and it feels really good to acknowledge that now I have 3 kids and not 4.
Nov 12, 24

We often hear about the negative aspects of the internet and online activity, and they are all valid. But for me, the positives outweigh those negatives. I am 64 and have been "online" for at least 30 years now. These are a few of the positives for me: Connection with family and friends, especially when the connections cannot be in person. Educational - the internet has opened up huge opportunities for learning, through online study, easy access to information,...
BLM
The internet allows us to shop online for things we need. The internet allows telecommuting options for employers. The internet provides us with plenty of entertainment options. The internet provides us with online job opportunities. Last, everything you mentioned in your scenario. Question: Since you mentioned you have been online for at least thirty years - Did you start off - using dial-up internet or high-speed internet. I can still remember using dial-up internet in the earlier 1990s :-)).
Nov 14, 24

I made my first Christmas Cake for this year yesterday and realized that I have been making this cake for 60 years. I have made it so often. It has been a birthday cake, a wedding cake and of course every year I make a lot of them to give as gifts for Christmas. What's the recipe you have been making the longest? Then there is my Nana's Christmas pudding recipe. I took over making that for the family 30 years ago. I still have to make 3 each year. I don't know how...
Angie
I made a wicked as beef mince and mushroom Lasagne.. layered up between homemade tomato sauce made with loads of garlicand melted cheese between pasta sheets & home grown tomato paste \ud83c\udf45ditched meat recently, and so then started making a mean as vegan lasagne \ud83d\udc4d\ud83c\udffc and also my fav... Lentil soup
Oct 27, 24

For me, decent housing improves health, education, and work. It provides a sense of safety and belonging. Without a decent home, it is difficult to contribute to society. Because housing is so vital to our "mana" and wellbeing, it is a human right. How is it where you live, and what are your thoughts?
merricat
Where is it written that we have the "right" to expect a home, or shelter? From our earliest ancestors, they had to hunt and gather what they needed to survive. They hunted animals for food, and they used the skin and bones to build shelters and make clothing, using crude tools made from other parts from the animals they hunted. Eventually, they made better tools, allowing to build better homes using more natural elements, rocks, wood, mud, eventually metal. They had to work for everything that needed. There were no free handouts. Why should any able humans expect anyone to give them anything that they didn't work for?
Sep 25, 24

Animals are euthanized every day because people don t want to adopt them instead they keep breeding over populating the world, then more than half the litters end up over populating the shelters creating an even bigger list for euthanasia. Can t it to be a law?
Christine M 323842
Yes, the people who run puppy farms should be euthanised. The people who purchase them and don\u2019t get them desexed should be euthanised. The people who dump them because they are too much work should also be euthanised.
Sep 18, 24

We've all seen the effects of social media in day-to-day life, and now many children are being given phones and downloading many inappropriate social media apps. Should they be allowed to be on them? There are already age restrictions on these apps, but many people ignore them and get them any way.
BLM
I don't have children - NOT one of my many issues! However, some 'adults' should never have access to social media - example - Donald John Trump.
Sep 16, 24

What do you think if you're travelling down the road and several people blinks their light to notify you of the police is ahead? Do you think it is out of generosity or the people is saving you some money from the city or state from charging you a fine?
Andrew C 287196
Such signalling means the idiot drivers slow down for a short stretch and then simply speed up again after passing the police camera. The best option is to signal a "camera" even when there isn't one, then the idiot driver slows down for longer. Even better, let the idiot drivers get caught, fined, and even potentially have their license removed. *THEN* the roads will be much safer for the rest of us who actually obey the road rules and speed *limits*.
It's very very simple: If you can't obey the road rules, then get off the road!
Sep 15, 24

I have recently been invited to a Hens' Party. No worries. I love the tradition. However, this time I was asked to pay $125 for the privilege of going to an event at a swanky hotel. I ended up paying, because I simply did not want to miss the occasion. What would you have done? Do you think this is too expensive for such an event?
just me- NZ
I personally think that was a bit rude asking you to pay that to attend, mind you I am in my 50s, so things have probably changed since my day of hens doos.
Sep 07, 24

Do you make your own compost? If not, why not. Save the planet and your local rubbish dump
just me- NZ
Our rabbit eats our vege waste, and a friend of the family takes our rabbits waste to put on his garden.
Jul 21, 24

I have been paying for Private medical insurance for years. Every year, the rates go up with less cover than when I joined. Now, when I need an eye condition covered, they will not pay. I discovered that many eye conditions are now no longer covered. What is happening? As soon as payouts for common ailments become too expensive, the funds drop this cover. I am angry. I feel that I have wasted my money. What do you think? Has your fund surprised you in any way-good or...
Elizabeth J 447888
If i had the foresight to have put the money aside that I have paid in fees over the years, I could have paid for all my medical expenses and had plenty left over.
Aug 28, 24

Whether answering captchas for accessing sites, work reasons, authentication purposes, it is incredible how awful these tests are and the bots often mistake an actual human with a bot spam. Not just the annoying ones where the picture of x takes up so many spaces but the grainy pictures that are hard to see (or maybe the object is in the picture, but it is so tiny and in the background that it is impossible to spot). Then we have the audio ones, where the person's voice...
Cat Claw
My biggest frustration is trying to set/reset passwords. It used to be simple. Now you need a minimum of 6-8 letters with numericals, upper case, lower case, symbols, can't re-use old passwords, etc. I can spend up to half an hour trying to come up with a password that a website accepts & one that I will remember. Then by the time I have come up with my unique never used before password, I promptly forget it. Then the cycle starts all over again. Yes, I write them down. And what I mess my notebook looks like!
Aug 21, 24

I have been searching for a job, for about 6 months now, with the same result every time I've applied. One of the main requirements when applying for a job is having a driver's license. I haven't been able to get my driver's license for a number of personal reasons, but this has restricted me to jobs that I'm not interested in. What should I do about this?
Katzeye
Same thing has happened to my son, always asked about drivers license.I suspect it's so the business knows they can rely on you to get to work and on time.A lot of people take public transport now rather than drive to work but they don't seem to take that in to consideration.
Aug 07, 24

I am not sure if this could be a topic, but how do you forgive someone who took away the life of someone you love? It is now 40 years since my brother died by a drunk driver. The hatred that spewed from me was just horrible. I just had hatred and anger in my heart. Four years later things changed. I became a mom and realised the hatred I had was only hurting me, not the drunk driver. Fate was with me that day, it was just before Christmas and the transit bus I...
Charlie B 182908
Thank you for sharing such a personal and profound story. Forgiving someone who has caused such immense pain is incredibly challenging and deeply moving. It takes a great deal of strength and compassion to reach that point. How have you been feeling since that moment of forgiveness?
Jul 29, 24

That's a personal choice, but don't cut your spending so far that you make yourself uncomfortable or miss out on the experiences you've always dreamed about. You certainly shouldn't be turning down the heater or putting off a roof repair to save money so that your kids have more to inherit. What are your thoughts? Should you spend your child's inheritance?
Gypsy
An inheritance is a gift, it's not something that is owed to you. To all those people who are waiting for their parents to die so that they can have the money that their parents worked hard for, I say: Work hard and earn your own money! A survey was taken, (not sure which country) and the greater proportion of the people surveyed were; 'waiting for their inheritance'.
I wonder if those same greedy people would be happy to scrimp and go without, just to save money to give it to their children? Probably not!
If our parents are fortunate enough to be financially secure after they retire they should be allowed to enjoy what is theirs, after all they don't owe us anything, in fact we owe them.
Jul 22, 24

Have you ever been involved in a road rage incident?
Liane H
Yeah where's Lizzy got to? That young lad just looks like he's missing his side of fries at the Maccas drive thru ,, hardly a rd rager....
Jul 23, 24

For me, they can shut up and actively listen. They re not just waiting to speak. They have a sense of balance in the conversation. What are your thoughts? What screams "highly intelligent person"?
Liane H
There's a few various traits , one would be being intuitive and able to communicate someone else's thoughts ,feelings or jumbled words to another who is not understanding them .
Being a night owl is commonly placed with people of intelligence as they like their own quiet time to let their imaginations run or to pore over desired projects ..
Lastly is a well timed sense of humour.
Jul 18, 24

I decided to pay for Stan Sport this year, so I could watch the tennis games of my choice and also all the exciting Olympic Games in Paris. In recent years, I have been disappointed with Free to Air TV because I ended up missing many crucial games. They seem to be too selective and restrictive and do not offer full coverage of all the events. What do you think?
Graham A
The fact that you watch Stan Sport is exactly why you can't see a lot of sport on FTA TV anymore! I am not sure why you think you need it to watch the Olympic Games as it will be on FTA TV.
Heaps of sporting broadcast rights have been bought by major broadcasting companies such as the disgusting Murdoch empire and it is then locked away behind a paywall. The minnows like the Australian FTA stations just cannot compete with the money offered by the majors and THAT is why you can't see things like F1 or MotoGP anymore on free to air. The likes of Stan Sport, Kayo etc means no pay...no view.
It's nothing to do with being 'too selective and restrictive' it's because people will pay Stan Sport to watch events and so it becomes a money making proposition. It's that simple.
Jul 10, 24

Kia Ora fellow Rewardians If you could, (go back to being 19 years old), & give yourself any advice... what would it be? I'm 52 years old and if I could tell my 19-year-old self anything, it would be "Don't worry, or stress about your future... live life to the max and have fun, be happy, learn to grow your own vege and if you're not sure what direction your path is headed, it doesn't matter! Just go with the flow and figure it out a few years down the...
Nel
This is a bit of a difficult one because everyone's life experiences are different. I mostly achieved a lot in my life through studies and a career. As I entered my mature age, life was completely turned to a different way. I was compelled to start new studies again to enter a different career path This time I had to do it by looking after a family as well. It was very challenging, but after many years when I look back, I feel very happy about my life's achievements. The advice someone can take from my experiences is, to be resilient and focus on the task. Have a down-to-earth, positive attitude towards life! You may never fail! \ud83d\ude03
Jun 21, 24

Recently, my family and I were trapped on an escalator at a major Hardware store, when the wheels of a trolley caught at the bottom of the escalator. People started to panic as they were pushed into one another. It was a very frightening experience. Fortunately, my daughter-in-law knew how to press the stop button to our great relief. No one was hurt, just shaken up. Surely there should be more education about safety and access to emergency buttons when necessary....
jer
The main thing that's required when using an escalator is common sense. An escalator is designed for a 2 legged person to stand on and hold the handrail as it moved the person up or down. They are not meant to transport wheeled objects.
Jun 23, 24

I keep seeing artificial intelligence being pushed on society lately. Do you believe there are more cons than pros with this? Honestly, it scares me how it's coming into life a lot lately.
Andrew C 287196
"Artificial Intelligence" is an oxymoron. A computer cannot possibly "learn" nor be "intelligent" in any way at all - a computer simply follows the instructions the programmer gave it. The whole artificial intelligence bandwagon is simply nonsense and most of it is nothing but pure gimmickry by greedy corporates trying to get fools to buy yet another updated, higher priced device they don't actually need and have no idea why they want it. \ud83d\ude44
Jun 10, 24

Does higher education determine success? Many assume that university is the determinant of success, but opinions have changed as many people now embrace the fact that there are other alternatives.
Warrior Woman
So much depends on the individual person and what they want to achieve in life. University is not the be-all and end-all for everyone. We need skilled tradespeople, artists, actors, designers, gardeners, chefs, drivers, etc. who need to learn from professionals who also learned 'on the job'.
Jun 03, 24

When you finish a relationship, need some time to get use to be yourself again, because you have being with someone during a while. But which is the best moment to start dating again? Maybe you are not looking a relationship, maybe you are just looking for a distraction, or maybe you want to found the love again but you kind of feel guilty to try it again because everybody is telling you that it's too soon to start something. But what If you already have overcome it?
lippy loo
Each person has their own time table. Me, I dated a few guys but after a few I decided it was no longer for me. I have not dated now in over 25 years and happy about it. Some people though like the twosomes. Never listen to other people. If you make a mistake then you own it.
May 18, 24

Do you get bullied via social media? And these people hide behind fake accounts to harass you How would you deal with it? I'm currently experiencing this, and I called this person out because I know who it is, but she keeps at it
Linda 1473555
If you give an opinion and get trolled, dont answer back, stop reading comments and leave the site. Go get fresh air and communicate with real friends. Dont give these people any satisfaction.
Apr 18, 24

So I just witnessed my neighbour across the road reverse (slowly) down his drive. And a cyclist was racing down the footpath. They collided with each other. Everyone is okay and was civil. (Bike completely damaged) But what do you think about cyclists on the footpath? I believe they should stick to the road for many reasons
Sammi
I'm in my 70's and when l rode my bike in my youth we were not allowed to ride on the foot path. It was against the law. So why are they ride on foot paths now. They are called FOOT PATHS.
Apr 12, 24

There are laws that state that something "on sale"...HAS to have been originally sold at a higher price...but there don't seem to be any rules on what "a limited time" is...are there?...and I see a few stores having these sales for several years at a time....shouldn't they be stopped from doing this?...or is it just buyer beware?...or a "bit of fun"....what do you think?
PAPARAY
When I worked at a supermarket they would have a 10 items for 10 dollars sale. That would be 1 dollar for each item. But here is the thing, some items were 89 cent at the regular price. we employees would tell certain customers this and they would tell others.
Apr 07, 24

It may be something complicated or something you dismiss because you find it just so easy to do, but it may not be for many others around you. What is that one thing you do that is just so easy... for you?
Kirsty H 1016139
Weirdly enough..
Untangling cords. My kids think it's funny. My hands just twist and gently pull tangled cords apart without much thought. 3 sets if Earphones, untangled in under a minute. They were a mess.
Xmas lights.. easy!
I get secret joy from it all too!
My secret weird superpower (well..close to!)
Mar 30, 24
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