Discussions of the day

Has anyone else noticed how online shopping has become cheaper than shopping in store in your hometown? I'd like to shop local, but the prices have skyrocketed in my town
lippy loo
Never shop on line. I need to try clothes on, feel the quality of the product also. However, I rarely buy clothes so it does not matter too much to me.
Mar 05, 24

I've been a social smoker for 3 years now and tried to go cold turkey for the last 2 months but finding it difficult. Thinking maybe switching to a vape would help. Who has experiences with using a vape? Is it worth it ?
Rosemary E 383382
Put the money you would spend smoking into a locked container. Given the price of them the money will soon amount to enough to buy something you need or maybe reward yourself with a weekend holiday or one of your "dreams". You may have to cut back over a few days or couple of weeks. You may need encouragement from your family and close friends.
Feb 03, 24

I am getting sick and tired of companies just using chatbots on both phone (if you can get a number) and computers. You have trouble explaining to them the problem, and then you have to wait for ages for a real person to get back to you. If ever. What do you think of them?
Stephen 1449391
Maybe someone could start a course to teach people to just talk like a chat bot. New job opportunities?
Feb 21, 24

A multi-storey car park in New York has recently collapsed...they generally don't do that...and a report in the UK advises that the weight bearing capacities of our car parks needs to be substantially revised....most cars have become a lot heavier over the last 30 years...and all the new electric models weigh at least 30% more...often double or more...many current carparks were never designed to take this kind of weight when full.....scary stuff?...
Bugalugs
Just what is this obsession people have with buying these huge, heavy vehicles? vehicles designed for Off-Road use are being bought but never do morwe than take the children to and from school, do the weekly shopping. General Motors released a Monster Vehicle called RAM, a vehicle which dwarfs all others, designed for heavy Duty Work but like the smaller, but still massively heavy and big, are never used for Work but also to take the chhildren to and from school and go to the Supermarket. Not only do they tear up the roads but they eat fuel and, in Australia where they are being dumped because other countries are banning their sale they pump out more emissions than any others. I was in a Supermarket car park the other day and one of these monster vehicles took up Two parking spaces.
Do people buy these tanks because they have such low self-esteem they make them feel bigger and better than everyone else?
Governments should ban their sale becuaes, for the most part, they are totally unnecessary.
Feb 10, 24

Having a pacifier on hand is very handy to have, or maybe not. I see & understand when a baby or a child needs one, but if you can even better if they are not used to it. In my opinion, I would never introduce this to any child or baby for many reasons. I was so lucky that my children never had it. What I really find that is disgusting when you're in public & you see a child about 3 4 yrs old & still have one. Don't parents know it is really bad for their gum & new teeth...
maltija
Many people come on here talking crap. I do not believe what some people say. They think they are perfect. Just everyone is different and what is not good for many, it maybe good for others.
Jan 25, 24

All families come in different way of life, such as having kids behave, obeys, helpful etc. then you have families having kids that they want a servant for them, don't obey, spoiled like a brat & claim to be rich. When these type of children fall into bad habits, it is so hard to steer them into the right direction. Parents/carers can or can't control children many times. How do you feel by teaching them a life lesson that is away of all gadgets that distract them at all hours of...
Pennye R
I live on a farm and my grandchildren are learning to grow their own food, taking care of animals, working together, and reaping the rewards of hard work. I wouldn\u2019t change it for anything.
Jan 21, 24

How do you feel when you find out, the person you're dating, in their 30s & still living with their mother? Do you find this is strange & weird? Many adult children, these days, are still living much longer with their parents or either parent. Is it really a problem, as to me, it can or there is a suitable reason to why they still live all together. In today's world there are many reasons that this does happen, will you just judge a book by the cover, or will you understand...
Missy Wyld
nope. need to learn to stand up on ur own 2 feet...manage finances do ur washing, etc etc not hangin onto ur mothers apron strings
Jan 08, 24

Do you think dark tourism is immoral or moral in your country's social norms? A dark tourist would be somebody that is from a country that shooting a gun is illegal. So they travel and go shoot a gun in a different country. A dark tourist destination would be a body farm. Last would be travelling to nuclear blast zones, towns that were evacuated during the bomb, and they never returned because of the high levels of radiation. In your comment, please state the country in which...
Albal
Dark tourism I have heard about is people paying huge sums to go to Africa and shoot big game that is fenced in on reserves. Where they have local guides and transport so they can chase down the animal. Lets get rid of their high powered rifle and give them a spear and have to chase the animal for miles until one or the other is exhausted, and have to fight to the death. Then they can skite how good a hunter they are!
Jan 03, 24

While watching a lot of clips on Facebook and mainly on animal rescues. I sometimes come across what appears to be fake and possibly cruelty to animals in the making of the clips. People get paid for these clips. Have you encountered anything that may be questionable in either clips or news?
Graham A
It's more the question of what isn't fake on Facebook!! The influencers are fake...done up fake, giving fake reviews about products they are paid to give fake reviews for etc etc etc. It's a disgusting place and is has no moral boundries. I can't believe people think it is important to post pictures of 'look at me having a cup of coffee' etc. The stupidity of posting pictures of their new car with number plates showing, their new house with a street number visible, their real birthdays, telling people they are going away for 3 weeks over Christmas to the newest trendy place, the designer dog they just paid $6,000 for...it goes on and on and when they get robbed they blame everybody else.
I was a member years ago until I figured 90% of Facebook is just inane crap and all about money and letting people know that you are bored because you have nothing to do but read the stuff posted.
I HATE SOCIAL MEDIA...it's just dumbing the world down.
Dec 17, 23

I have just been reading about an existing service...for older people...where the local authorities can go through with you...your eating and drinking habits...exercise patterns in fact every facet of your life really...and with their experts... come up with the perfect plan as to what you should be doing...it is very likely that none of these people are very old themselves.....the service is totally free...and at the moment at least...you do not have to do what they say or...
NZSCORPION
SCARY just more invasion of privacy and data collection by an entity that is probably not an authority in that particular field.
What's wrong with the world where people want to be told how to do things and when to do them, the communists do not rule the world.
Sounds like 1984 is coming true all be it 40 years later. I'm not a sheep like most of the world seems to be, I like to think for myself which is part of being free.
Dec 08, 23

Should school be a chore? Why can't learning be fun? I think that the way children are taught at school is too methodical and processed, it's a critical time for our kids, I was lucky enough to have great teachers who along with factual information I was also taught me why this information is important for instance I had a maths teacher in high school who took us to putt, putt to teach us speed and angle in relation to ball to the hole 95 percent of that class scored BS or...
APB
I had a few gems as teachers...but not many...I had a lot of fun at school but I wasn't supposed to be enjoying myself..so a fair bit of the time resulted in mad people hitting me with canes...over the bottom or across the palms..and a stream of half hour detentions after school..but none of it worked..I didn't get depressed...or give in....I still had laughing fits...I still had fun...that's what kids do!
...kids are VERY resilient..,and you cannot cure them of being REALLY happy,,I'd lie on the floor laughing and could not get up!..
....I am not sure how our current batch of little angels would cope with that...they would probably need therapy...(these days I might get therapy or medication for being optimistic defiant and happy...it is probably a medical condition...like everything else)
many of our current batch were really damaged during covid because they didn't see their friends....it affected their communication skills and their abilities at school....I wonder how they would cope with the Blitz....
or being in other interesting places...we might be raising a generation of babies that never want to leave home...
sorry BB I'm wandering off course here!
Dec 01, 23

From regular panic attacks on day-to-day basis to an unexpected panic attack before for example flying - how do you manage your everyday life? How do you overcome anxiety?
Joy G
I have suffered from anxiety for over forty years. I have tried everything that I come across. I take medication but it doesn't seem to help much. I have tried many hypnotherapist, talked to many counsellors, psychologist, psychiatrists. I have tried numerous herbs, CBD oils and medications, relaxation techniques, crystal therapy, and the list goes on. I still have anxiety. I don't believe there is a cure. There are techniques to help after anxiety hits but no idea (sadly) how to overcome it.
Nov 28, 23

We love traveling, and have just done a big trip to Europe and The UK. While we were there we were asked a lot about Australia and of course we told a few pork pies (exaggerated truths). What is the best one you have told? The one we used to tell American sailors (before internet) was that the Harbour Bridge was closed every day at 5pm for the Kangaroos to cross. It was amazing how many believed it. While crossing from Spain to Italy by...
lippy loo
Heck we do not have to tell Porkies, our truths are enough. We have the most deadliest spider/s, deadliest snakes 9 of the top 10, Kangaroos that attack, Dingoes that attack, Sharks, Sea Snakes, Stingers, Blue Bottles, Stonefish, Box Jelly Fish, Salt Water Crocodiles, Cone Shell, Blue Ringed Octopus, Paralysis Tick, and the list goes on and any one of these are deadly. The European Honey Bee is also a baddy. Never had to make anything up. However, one American asked if we could see Uluru from the Sydney Harbour Bridge and of course I said yes but I did educate him after I took the mickey.
However on the plus side we have a beautiful country with unique animals, flowers, trees, etc. A huge rock in the middle of the country and the largest coral reef, we have wave rocks, canyons, deserts, water falls, mountains, stunning beaches and wide open spaces. Our country is diverse with so much beauty to see.
Actually, Kangaroos have been known to cross the Harbour Bridge so not such a porky.
Nov 22, 23

Spent a few days in Sydney, and I'm not so good on my feet, so used a lot of very expensive taxis. Overhead one driver actually asked for a tip and got himself a five dollar reward. This was wrong of him to ask for, as none of the others did, what do you think?
BLM
I don't believe in tipping (I don't tip, and I don't feel self-conscious when I don't tip). Your employer (taxi drivers are employees) - should be paying you enough - so a customer shouldn't have to TIP YOU (known as subsidized your wages/earnings)! For as I am concerned - this individual (described in your scenario) needs to get a "real" job that doesn't involve tipping!
Nov 10, 23

I've done a fair bit of travel and found that despite negative media about some Countries, they are actually fantastic!!, what are your experiences?
BLM
Why would you trust the 'MEDIA' on any subject - PERIOD! (Example: Fox News settle a civil lawsuit for 787.5 million dollars based on the fact - Fox News was blatantly distorting the TRUTH (aka outright lying that former President Trump was cheated out of his re-election bid in 2020)). The MEDIA is in business to make money - by any means necessarily - the end (profits) justify the means - (aka capitalism) - which has nothing to do with giving you unbiased facts so that you can make informed decisions!
Nov 05, 23

On August 15, 1971 if my memory serves me correctly, president Nixon temporarily suspended the redeemability of USA notes back into gold. So from that point, the currency issued only has the promise of the government to make good on those notes. If you take a look at the indebtedness of most countries governments, this temporary action by president Nixon is fast becoming a world nightmare. Do you think it's about time to re introduce gold and silver to back currencies, or do...
BLM
One, your memory doesn't serve you correctly, the first president to take the USA off the gold standard was FDR in 1933. Two, you are deliberately confusing personal debt with the debt of a country (a stigma comes with personal debt - not the debt of a country). Three, every 'country' on this planet has debt (including Saudia Arabia, Kuwait and China - supposedly the three richest countries on the planet). Four, not any countries have enough gold (in reserve in their country) to cover its debt (including China, Saudia Arabia, or Kuwait). Five, if the world economy went back to the gold standard, the world economy would immediately go into chaos (and a full-scale depression). Six, you 'never' hear international banking firms, international accounting firms, international law firms, or international think tanks (firms), etc. advocating for a return (back to) the gold standard. Seven, your plan will only work if you are advocating for ANARCHISM. Eight, cryptocurrency is a digital currency designed to work as a medium of exchange on a computer network that is not reliant on any central authority, such as a bank or government - to uphold or maintain it - aka a 'SCAM' on the streets of USA (in rough neighborhoods). Last, cryptocurrency 'only' works if you are 'gullible and greedy' - it is not a long-term viable solution to replace a monetary system that doesn't work (anymore 'except' for the benefit of the rich or the super-rich) - aka CAPITLISM.
Oct 27, 23

As a freelancer, I'm seeing more and more AI technology surface. I get excited but at the same time have doubts. What are your thoughts on the future in AI technology?
Bernie
Too much - too quickly! How is the average person supposed to know "who" has given the information to AI? One big scam!
Oct 23, 23

We are lucky to live in a world where most medicine can cure your discomfort. However, the cost of living is so high that it has become a problem for people to buy medicine in drug stores. Certain medication that can crucially save others' lives is extremely expensive, and it is harder to afford with tax implemented. The ideal solution is to have insurance to cover your medical expenses. But for someone who struggles to find jobs with benefits, this cannot be the case. Not...
NZSCORPION
If you took tax off medications then some other sector would want tax removed as well and then everyone wants tax gone. Taxes pay for all your other necessities.
I'm sure most 1st world countries have systems in place to help the less fortunate.
Most medicines do not cure they merely help fight the ailment you are struck with.
Oct 21, 23

Ok, everyone has one or two little secret tricks they implement around the home to make life easier.... Did you know you can freeze milk? I recently discovered this gem, and now I never run out! Works best with a good quality one. Just put some into a smaller clean bottle in your freezer for up to 3 months, It may turn a yellowish colour in there but defrosted in the fridge overnight again, voila back to exactly the way it was ! Chillies also good to freeze and no they...
BLM
As you get 'older' - you will have to fight 'everyday' the urge to become a 'pack rat'. The less 'stuff' you have in your apartment (or house) - the less cleaning you have to do on routine (or everyday) 'basis'.
Oct 04, 23

Sydney is going to have a advertising campaign to try and convince residents to stop flushing undesirable objects down their LOOS. It blocks the sewage pipes when they do this, and it's not good for anyone to have this happen. Wipes are not permitted...but its many other things being flushed including oils and even toiletries...etc. Do you think some do this on ---purpose...or do you think they are just thoughtless and careless?
Pongo
This is a pet subject of mine, I’ve been in the plumbing business for over 50 years and in that time I have seen strange articles stuck in drains
Often children put toys in the loo and in England there was a man at the water treatment station employed to look for still births. One really common article was a sanitizer that hung on the rim of the loo. It was just small enough to disappear from sight but never went any further. The clear water could pass but solids would accumulate . I must have cleared hundred out over the years until they made them bigger
Jan 07, 22

Betrayal is a breach of trust and can feel very much like grief. Is it possible to truly move on? Have you ever undergone a huge betrayal? If so, how have you sought to process these lies?
BLM
If you are having difficulties moving on (from betrayal) - try conversing with a mental health specialist/professional.
Sep 11, 23

Hello everyone. So I have a 6-month-old boy and was wondering is it a good thing to put your child through daycare or is it pretty ok just to wait till kindly? New at this :)
Evie
Get married (if you're not) and Raise your own kids. There's a good reason the traditional nuclear family worked so well.
Triggering in 3...2...1...
Sep 09, 23

My twins are 9. They would like to walk home from the bus stop, is 9 too young to let them do this?
Bugalugs
Depends on how mature they are. Do they know Never to speak with anyone they don't know or who have not visited their Mum and da at home?
I thinke Lorne M, below, has got it right. Safety in numbers.
They Must also klnow that there is to be no wandering off simply because they feel like it and that they Must come straight home and then, with your permission go off with other kids so that Mum/Dad knows where they are going.
Sep 08, 23

There are reports of children on a large scale refusing to go to school, and it has been labelled a medical condition. Is it really, or is it simply a case of children being children? The problem has blossomed since the Covid lockdowns, when I suppose children found all sorts of things they could do at home rather than sit in a classroom and listen to a teacher. Specialists are asking for more money and resources to deal with the problem, but shouldn't parents just tell their...
Pennye R
It\u2019s because parents are letting their children get away with everything. If there are problems at school, then investigate and deal with them. Allowing children to avoid facing problems will only create more problems for them later in life.
Aug 28, 23

If your neighbor's lifestyle bothered you, would you say something to them? Many people like to smoke cigarettes and marijuana, which I have nothing against. However, if you are one of those people who do not do either, but your neighbors do it non-stop, and it affects you, would you let them know?
Roslyn A
I had a neighbour who used to complain about me for digging a hole for a tree at 5pm, sanding a wall at 9am and other petty things - yet I was up earlier than her and at work earlier than her and in bed later than her. I say, leave your neighbour alone!
Jul 31, 23

Do you think genetically modified food is making people obese? It seems that when people use more and more genetically modified food they put on weight quite fast. Whereas those people who only eat food grown locally and meat that has not had hormones added don't put on weight so easily.
BLM
If you don't trust 'genetically modified food to be safe, then don't buy genetically modified food. However, this is a capitalistic society (aka profits over people)! What do you expect when it comes to making money (short cuts are going to be involve to raise the profit ability level)?!
Jul 10, 23

Falling victim to a scammer is an awful feeling. It s not only the theft of money or personal information that stings, the thought of being tricked by lowlife crooks is enough to enrage anyone. Statistics show more than 95 per cent of Australians are exposed to telephone, text and internet scams each year. Even more alarming is the amount of money these thieves are stealing from us. Last year it exceeded three billion dollars. Is there a meaningful solution to stopping scammers...
Lt p
Prison, hanging, electrocution, firing range\u2026\u2026I am getting so tired of people trying to screw over innocent people. And wasting my time answering their stupid calls.
Jul 07, 23

If you could change one thing in the neighborhood you live in, in an effort to make it a better place, what would it be?
Larry S 382961
Clean out the drug dens,put road horns off the streets. Make councils do what they are paid to do and not bend to minority groups
Jun 24, 23

Does anyone else experience seeing things from their dreams in reality and get a deja vu moment ? Or am I just tripping, ha-ha Happens quite a bit for me ...
Peechy
Allllllll the time, worst thing for me is I'll say something then it happens, eg phone rings or dings, son drops an egg on the floor etc etc etc
Jun 18, 23

Which age group has been the most challenging for you as a parent? Some people say it's the first 8 weeks, others say it's the terrible 2's or troublesome 3's and others may say it's the teenage years. Each age group has unique challenges, but which age group have you found to be more difficult?
sherry s 714699
2 and 13, See when your sweet baby turns about 13 aliens come and take that baby away and leave its evil clone and you don't get your baby back until it has babies of its own. Overnight you are the enemy and your child's evil clone is on a seek and destroy the enemy mission.
Jun 14, 23

Easter Holidays are fast approaching. What traditions or special things do you do for the holiday? We tend to spend the few days as a family trying to reconnect. Usually everyone is off on their own things and work, so it gets a little hard to see everyone. The 4 day break is a nice time to catch up and enjoy the company... and eat some chocolate.
merricat
My family used to get together for all the major holidays, but since my Mom passed away, we hardly ever see each other. So sad, really.
Apr 06, 23

It amazes me how some people can 'transform' themselves with make-up, fake lashes etc. I struggle with mascara don't even get me started on blush 'rosy cheeks' disaster! What's your 'going out for the night' look?
allinyourhead
i never liked a woman i went with that i did not recognize the next morning, only care for real women, the beauty is always inside,,,,,\ud83d\ude09
Jun 16, 23

I was dating an addict for several years. I eventually kicked him out of my home. I have since joined a site of families of addicts. So my questions is - should you stay and support the addict when their behaviors impact your lifestyle? I left for my own mental health, but I have heard both sides. People that say if you love them you would stay, others like me who had enough and left. Curious about what others think?
Dada WA
An addict to what? Crosswords? sport? Please when asking a question make it clear. I assume you mean drug addict? There are many addictions.
Apr 10, 23

My wife loves these reality TV shows and as a devoted husband I have sat through quite a few hours of reality TV which to me is nothing like the real world, so I don't understand where the reality title comes in, love is blind, perfect match, farmer wants a wife and many more, I have watched, and I have an opened mind, I just don't get how the men act or the females talk, is it just the way now or is chivalry dead?
Lachelle B
Should be called 'Desperation Shows'! 10 women vying for one man, have no qualms about kissing him when he was kissing someone else an hour ago. Willing to have it all hang out, spend hours on make up and hair daily. You don't see blind, deaf, disabled people... on these 'reality shows'. Chivalry can take a back seat, should start with common decency and having enough self respect to dress appropriately. There are already too many botoxed and duck lipped women on the planet. Looking 'normal' will be the new 'in' thing one day, then you can call it a reality show.
May 20, 23

Why is it hard to get off of drugs? The older people get. Does anyone have or has had this problem? How to deal with this ordeal
Pearlz
I don't drink alcohol, I have never smoked, I don't play the pokies and I have never tried drugs so why people become addicted I have no idea, and while what others chose to do is their own business I am growing tired of their lives over flowing into mine. In both Sydney and Melbourne there are injecting rooms set up for people who chose to use illegal drugs while I have to have a prescription for Mersyndol and they are about reduce the number of tablets in a packet of Panadol from 20 to 16 and will reduce the number of packets you can buy at a time to 2. So the majority of us have to suffer for the actions of a minority.
May 09, 23

So you decide on a washing liquid or powder for your washing machine...but however much you paid...you really need another additive to get your clothes really clean ... and the colours bright ... and then you need another product to wash your machine AFTER washing your clothes ... this is getting really silly ... why not just have one product that does the lot ...or are we just being conned? What do you think?
Wombat
My hubby does the washing. He used to bleach all the whites. Now he just washes them in napisan and they come up white so we do not need several products
Apr 22, 23

I'm a young lady born and raised in Louisiana. Down here, we love to cook. We have gumbos, etouffee, sauce piquant, all the seafood, and rice and gravy's. Louisiana is known for its gumbo and the crawfish. I would love to know what food comes out of the state (country) you live in!
Pearlz
I live in NSW Australia and our native foods are Barramundi, kangaroo steak, crocodile sausages or witchetty grubs. However, we also claim Pavlova, Lamingtons and Anzac biscuits. I'll eat the Barra, Pav, lamo's and the bickies but I won't even try the others.
Apr 12, 23

In Australia, we have medicare to help cover health cost. Should there be medicare for your pets too?
Bugalugs
Why do so many people expect "The Government" - But READ "Other Taxpayers" to pay for everything now? People have children and they expext other Taxpayers to foot the cost of Childcare. Why? People are earning combined salaries of well over $AU200,000.00. Let them cut their wallets so that they can pay All their own Childcare Costs. Our Parents and Grandparents managed to have children and bring them up themselves and none of them had anything like the Incomes that people have today. Think on this, if you will. Today the Unions are asking for a Pay Rise of 7% for the Lowest Paid Workers, a rise which will make their Minimum Weekly Pay $AU812. Compare that to Old Age Pensioners who worked hard for 50 and more years, paid all their Taxes, raised their children and got No Financial Assistance from any Government were recently given an increase of 3.7% which brought the single OAP up to about $AU560 per week.
Yes, by all means extend what was, dishonestly, touted at the time as "Universal Health Care" aka Medicare to cover all Dental and Optical Expenses, but including Pet Care is a step too far. What will they be asking for next? That other Taxpayers pay for all their Food, Alcohol and Illegal Drugs? Their Motor Vehicle expenses?
Fortunately we still do not live in some sort of-Socialist-cum-Communist State such as China. Did you realise that under the Chinese Communist Party Dictatorship you have to get permission from it to move from your village/town/city of Birth to another? That is what those calling for "The Government", read TAXPAYERS to cover Pet Care under Medicare will end up getting.
Apr 01, 23

OK...we are moving away from diesel and petrol powered vehicles into electric and other forms of power...the vehicles we have are already now looking very much the same...and boring.....what about a fresh start? The new vehicles DO NOT need to look anything like the old ones...how about something radical? How about a new type of vehicle that is really fun?...or is that expecting too much from our current carmakers?
Liane H
I miss my little convertible Peugeot.206 such a cute car and easy to zip in and out of parking spaces.
Mar 17, 23

You have just been asked to be married. Would it bother you if your diamond engagement ring or wedding ring set was designed and produced in a lab? Or would only a real diamond be acceptable?
PEN15
I just don\u2019t understand the appeal of expensive jewellery. As long as you like the way it looks and feels, then why would you care how much it\u2019s worth?
Mar 14, 23

The Whole World is a Stage and everyone plays a role. My favorite role is being a Villain. What is your favorite role?
Neo
All the world's a stage, and all the men and women merely players: they have their exits and their entrances; and one man in his time plays many parts, his acts being seven ages.
William Shakespeare
Mar 19, 21

We seem to be lowering our speed limits on the open road, I understand the road toll is high but haven't we got more cars, slower speeds means longer trips which means more tired drivers, I think better driving education would work more
Judy CH
It is easier than getting drunk or drugged drivers off the Road, and then in NZ we have unlicensed drivers, unregistered cars, unwarrented cars that they don't seem to want to get off the Roads a friend of ours live next to a family that have 5 cars that shouldn't be on the Roads but it seems that they care more about catching people for doing a bit over the speed limit. I thought that a car with bald tyres and no brakes would be more dangerous, and I know a few people that have web cams in their cars and have shown the cops pictures of cars overtaking on blind corners or running red lights but nothing gets done about that. Speeding is easy money for the Government.
Jun 20, 21

Do you think Valentine's Day is a day for romantic gestures, or only there for businesses to profit from?
IdentifyAs
I don't think we have chivalrous gentlemen anymore, or they have been put off by these women who don't have the slight bit of feminine wiles. I was married to a pig who was incapable of even uttering a kind word or compliment. I did have a young man who gave me his seat at a funeral and another older gent who opened a door for me. I was very grateful and thanked them. and yes it is too over commercialized. You don't need to spend a bomb or be ostentatious to tell someone you love them.
Feb 14, 23

What was the most embarrassing moment of your life, and how did you react to it?
block head
When I locked myself out of the house when I walked out the back door and had to wait till that afternoon before anyone come home to let me back in. Wearing only tee shirt and shorts. Now way of getting out front as all close in back courtyard. Mobile phone was left inside the house.
Feb 09, 23

I recently took on a position and found myself in such a toxic work environment (in a Professional office) that it literally made me sick for two months. When the issue was addressed about where the behavior was coming from, it was put off as a "misunderstanding" because I was new. Many people say never go to H.R because it makes you look bad and because it won't be resolved. It will be investigated but if no proof because the toxic atmosphere happens when the boss...
Julie K 348980
In my last job a woman who thought she was my supervisor (she was in fact a co-worker) said “do you think I give a &@^% about anything you have to say”. Not willing to put up with that behaviour I walked into my boss’s office and handed in my immediate resignation. He asked why, I told him and he asked me to wait for 10 minutes whilst he sorted out the matter. He called a department meeting and made her apologise to me in front of everyone. I stayed at the company for many years and was very grateful when she was transferred to another location.
Feb 07, 23

Politics can be a very touchy subject. How do you and your family and friends feel about the differences you may feel, and how do you discuss the issues we all face in this day and age?
lin r
ALL IN THE US do not say nothing make sure trump maggots know how he lies and lies and lies 30,000+ when in office d o not put your head in the sand and just think the republicans maggots will go away
Feb 02, 23

I have a Will, (it's a bit old and needs an update) but my partner does not have a will. We also have a business together. We are not married, (but been living together for 41 years this April - so yes I know de facto status etc comes into play). But given our surnames are different, I think it would be much easier all around if he had a Will too. He wants to, it's just one of those things, 'yes I'll get around to it one day'. His Mum recently...
Darla T
Will is done, funeral paid for, and memorial stone installed. I didn't want to leave preparations to chance and burden someone else who might question if they are fulfilling my wishes.
Jan 25, 23

During COVID-19, all schools were closed and everyone had to work and study online. Usually almost everyone always wished to work from home but once they actually had to do it, that s when it wasn t so funny or comfortable as imagined. So now that we can go out again. If you have the option to send your kids to school or do the same thing online, what would you do?
Agonis
I am home-schooling my children and they have regular meetups with the other children that are also homeschooled in the area. I was already studying online when covid happened. I much prefer working and studying from home as there are fewer interruptions. My son has thrived in homeschooling as he has the option of choosing what he studies (within reason) he has additional needs and there are no small class options in the area so this works best for him and we did not utilize technology, he has been doing pen and paper, educational books and social skills by visiting the community centres to see other homeschooled families.
Jan 18, 23

Before Covid19 hit, there wasn't a day that went by when we didn't hear Greta being spoken about. But things have certainly gone quiet haven't they? The media have bigger fish to fry.
Sand
Why is everyone giving this incredibly intelligent and well informed girl so much grief? How much do you know about her? The Matrix summed it up: We are a virus! It is time we love our earth mother. She is not led by others and is not selfish, unlike the shortsighted many. I am disheartened by the ignorant, uninformed and selfish views of many below. I hope Gaia haunts you all in your dreams!!!!!!!!
Oct 14, 20

Mad wars. Plagues of destructive viruses. People are out of control. Philosophy and logic downgraded. Science outranked by mythology and religion. Religion that does not even follow its own basic teachings.
PatCat
Throughout history when were we ever peaceful for long? I was born at the beginning of World War 2. All my life there have been wars and rumours of them. Religion has been tried and found wanting. Wealth breeds corruption. So we are just a huge heap of apes with big brains. God must have realised by now that he should never have let Eve eat that fruit! On that note peace to you all my fellow Rewardias.
Mar 21, 22

Be safe and enjoy with people. Don't drink too much and drive home. Have a designated driver with you at all times.
Mopos
Hubby and I at home, relaxed, good music, a light dinner, a few wines, no not too many!, champers at midnight watching the Sydney fireworks on TV at midnight.
Happy New Year everyone........., especially you Blue Butterfly!....
Dec 31, 22

Just hoping all of you Rewardians have a safe and wonderful Christmas and sure a bit of bah humbug to all the grumpy ones
Mariaj
Awe how lovely of you Robert.
I wish you and all of Rewardia staff and rewardians a very Merry Christmas with family & friends and an amazing New Year 2023
Dec 25, 22

Why are foreign owned companies allowed to pretend that they are local... Energy Australia for example is Chinese....why are they not legally obliged somewhere to state that this is an International company....the other strange thing...why don't companies that ARE local point out this to their customers either?...to me that is a very important reason for choosing them...what do you think?
Witchypoo
Let’s just keep Australia for Australians! You can’t get more local than that. Aussie, Aussie, Aussie! Oi, Oi, Oi!,
Nov 02, 22

As many women know, being in a relationship with a guy who is not fully matured can be a difficult situation. To give a little context, I have been in a relationship for over a year with a guy who s quite young and doesn t fully understand the ways of a relationship and how to make the girl happy. There have been a lot of issues where there is no communication, yelling over little things, shit talking / letting his friends talk bad about me, never taking me out, complains...
lippy loo
Why are you still with him. The old saying "a leopard never changes it's spots" is true. Some partners might temper their actions but it usually comes back out again. Firstly he is younger than you and this is not really the ideal situation. You are being a doormat. He disrespects you big time. You are there just to do his bidding whether it be cooking, cleaning, physical or financial. Get some respect and leave or if it is your place ask him to leave immediately.
Dec 13, 22

What really does forgiveness mean to you? It's subject to experience and belief systems, so I don't believe in a wrong answer
PammyG
I can forgive without forgetting once trust us broken it’s extremely hard to win back. I am also a big believer in karma, what you give out will come back to you.
Dec 08, 22

I am listening to many mention "New Normal" among getting back to the old normal. Does everyone even have a normal? My life is consistently in motion and changes like the wind. So, what's your thoughts on normal? Does it exist for you?
Amber 22
Not me any way I cry every day and wish I was dead I just wish I could be normal but people are always meany to me I have no real friends I love cats I wish people would be nicer to other I think it would be normal to not be called a bitch all the time and to have an idear of where your life is heading I do not have much of them I must keep going I have a beutafill son have to try and help him and any one I can I think it is a good life some times have to keep trying for better f everyone you have to believe in your self and in god
Jan 17, 21

If for whatever reason, it became necessary for you to surrender your pet because you could no longer have it where you live or couldn't take care of it any more, what would you do with your pet animal?
Crazy Chef
I've been told that our cat might need upto 1500 dollars of dental work, which is rediculous, we can barely afford our own dental work, so I think when the time comes and he shows signs of pain, we will probably do the humain thing and have him put down.
Nov 18, 22

I do believe the technology era is making us part of it too. How will people feel in the future when machines replace essential jobs? And then not essentials, but as many as machines would cover. Can you imagine coming to school without a teacher? Can you imagine coming to a supermarket without the usual counter stuff or people who sort out all food on shelves? Can you imagine buses and trains without drivers? No doctors or nurses, no postman, no barrister or...
Lyn A.
There is a place for technology. Personally it has spread my "social life", Can chat with people I have met from other countries. Some people deserve to lose their job to machines, at least machine might be polite and actually try and help.Maybe a machine will not indoctrinate child to their own views as many teachers do.There are pros and cons. Guess maybe if/when a machine could show artificial emotion [as many people do] they may work in better
Nov 12, 22

I became a caregiver 4 and a half years ago. I had to give up any chance of working. A caregiver is on call 24 hours a day. There are flexible hours, but I needed to be at home all the time. Especially in the beginning. If it wasn't for survey sights, I would have gone broke and crazy. Why don't governments help caregivers? What can be done to give them a living wage?
Pearlz
Some years ago I sprained my ankle, 2 weeks later I broke my knee, 2 weeks after that during a routine X-ray the doctor found my ankle was broken. My cast was getting bigger but just as I was starting to feel better renewed pain in my foot sent me for another X-ray and the other side of my ankle was broken. As I was very incapacitated my husband had to take time off work without pay and we felt it very unfair that we weren't entitled to any form of Government assistance. So no pay and loads of medical bills while other people manage to get heaps of assistance. All caregivers should get some sort of assistance.
Nov 06, 22

With the shortages of staff in hospitals, wouldn't it be a good idea to bring back some of the matrons that did hands-on training in hospitals. As I remember, we had some really great nurses trained in this way. Instead of sending them off to University, they could be trained in the same manner as apprentices. It could help fill the hole that we have now, with shortages all over Australia.
Pearlz
The problem is that nurses are sent to university then into hospitals. In the old days you started emptying bed pans before you decided whether or not it was the profession for you. Now they are sent to university then have to empty bedpans. Wouldn't it be a bit of a shock after years of schooling? Why would anyone spend years studying then perform back breaking work, changing dressings, wiping bums and the like when they could be earning much more in the corporate world. Starting at the bottom then studying your way to the top is always the best way to fill the ranks.
Oct 05, 22

Driving into the hills one day the forecast was rain, as I got to the top of the road I was on and turning left I saw in a paddock a herd of goat, what struck me as odd was that every goat about 25 all stood facing the same direction and not moving, it's not the first time I've seen this. Couldn't help think that the devil's pet is a goat, or was it just something like the forecast for rain?
Herb Gardiner.
I get the same sort of sensation when I walk into the women's change room at the local swimming pool. They all scream and turn in the same direction.
Sep 30, 22

If you could go back into the mists of time, way Way back- is there a subject or skill you wished you had learned at school? I would have liked to have done History and Art History, and Car Mechanics. Not that the latter was offered at our Religious girls school back in the 70s n early 80s. A class on how to avoid getting very drunk and making a total ijit of yourself would have been useful too.
Larry S 382961
shouldn't the question be what didn't you want to learn at school.
I hated Maths B and could never understand why A + B =C.
I liked geography and maybe that is why i like to see places
Aug 31, 22

Whether you're walking back to the stove twice or 3 times to ensure that there's no heat ....what obsessive thoughts make you check on the check? And what is it that you have to repeatedly check on to make sure it REALLY GOT DONE?
Cassandra B 208821
As someone with ADHD and OCD this is a far too common occurance to even try and tally how many times i do it.
Sep 05, 22

Surveys often want to how many painkillers and cough medicines you buy in a year....if you say none you are instantly flung out...and on TV there is a constant barrage of adverts telling which painkillers and cough medicines to buy...who is buying all this stuff?...if you are buying it regularly...like groceries...do you think that is normal?...why aren't people going to see doctors?...this industry is raking in millions of dollars...what do you think?
IdentifyAs
Because of being locked up, our natural immunity isn't being strengthened. People with normal immunity might get sick for a few days. Elderly and immuno compromised people will die. I always have painkillers/cold-flu tabs and immediately take more rest, hot soup and orange juice, tea with lemon and honey..You can't go and see a doctor now. If you have a runny nose they won't see you. We need to be more aware of our immune systems, I take supplements to keep me healthy and eat good food (vegs and fruits). If you give your body a fighting chance rest will allow it to get well and form immunity. Nothing has changed since this Covid garbage came around, they have just given it all a new name to panic us.
Aug 13, 22

If you had the chance to go anywhere - or travel back in time to see your favourite bands or singers performing, who would they be even if they are long gone? Hard to choose Pink Floyd and Steely Dan up there for me, Tears for Fears back in the day, def Alan Parsons
Happiness
Beatles, Queen when Freddy was live, ABBA back in the day, Skyhooks at Sunbury. Oh but I would have loved to be at Woodstock. Bette Midler again. Oh so many
Jul 22, 22

If you could go back in time and tell your 15-year-old self 1 pearl of wisdom, what would it be? Something to avoid ? Something to embrace? Stock market tips ? What would it be?
Henrietta
When I was 15years & 10months old, I met the man who was to become my husband. I actually asked him if we could get engaged as he was due to go in the Army & do his 2 years national service. I waited till he came out of the army so when I was 18 years & 1 month, we had a white wedding which was a dream of mine. This coming September we will have been married for 62 years. We have had our "ups & downs" as they say but we have always been able to sort them out. If I had my way again, it would be exactly the same except for a bit more travelling than what we have done. I have been disabled for the past few years & he has become my carer. He now does the cooking whilst I sit at the table & do the food preparation. We work as a team & always have done. Plus I still love this man, my husband after all these years.
Aug 01, 22

Interested in when people decide to write a Will is it when you start a family?
Charm
Not having a Will is being extremely selfish expecting your children to clean up your mess. My MIL died a year ago and refused to ever make a Will, she was the absolute worst hoarder in NSW, we're still clearing the property it's an absolute nightmare then there's Letters of Administration to file in the Supreme Court, if she just thought about anyone else but herself it would have been a lot easier.
Jul 26, 22

DNA kits are useful for discovering your roots, as well as identifying potential health conditions. I have never heard of 23andMe until it came up when I Googled Ancestry DNA. I am really keen to have this done but my cousin feels it is a bit dodgy. I guess she means mad scientist somewhere down the track using our DNA without our permission for research for God know what. I am just really interested in my family roots. I would rather not know if I had...
Skiwi
The only thing I would worry about is having my DNA out on some database and not having any control over it.
Jul 15, 22

Do you find that the aged pension is enough to live from? Or do you struggle to make ends meet while on it?
Helena H
I'm on the aged pension, but doing surveys to get that little extra, have small savings, so doing okay at the moment. Would have trouble if I had a big expense .
Jun 14, 22

Since we are all basically anonymous here, do you believe everything that you read in the comments sections. I personally am starting to wonder if some participants make outrageous comments that may not reflect their true opinions just to see what reactions they get. But I don't care either way as I enjoy following the regulars and pondering who they really are. I may even have assigned some of you faces and personalities according to my opinion of the tone of your posts.
Herb Gardiner.
Well I did exaggerate when I wrote that I owned a crocodile....it actually is only a gecko. However the bit about riding a tiger, that was the truth.
Jul 13, 21

What's your favourite book and why? Mine is The Seven Minutes by Irving Wallace. A great legal drama with a big unexpected twist at the end. Riveting reading in my opinion
Morton B
Mark of The Lion, biography of Capt C H Upham VC & Bar (WW2) only the third soldier and only combat soldier to be awarded the VC twice (Crete & North Africa).A dangerous job he would go himself. He lead from the front. Read his citations
Jun 02, 22

It's been suggested by both major parties in Australia to increase the retirement age. (The age of 70 has been mentioned.) I have a relative who retired about two years ago due to hip problems. He was a former truck driver. Lucky for him...he has enough money in superannuation to rely on. (Do you think that it should be raised?) Not everyone has got enough of the super...and if their health isn't what it used to be...it might be a struggle for some. Some might find...
Pongo
I retired at 65 and I’m busier now than I was when I was working. I’m now 77 and could still do a days work Every one is different
May 11, 22

To prepare for future disasters, do you think which kinds of food never spoil, and we can start stocking them now?
'smee,SWQ!
Why not! ... Rice, Wheat, Honey etcetera - but to digress remember when milk would go off after a couple of days (note use by dates on it now!) Bread ... was stale after a day and sold at half price as "Day Old Bread"!
May 08, 22

Do you think voting should be compulsory? Are you a swinging voter? Has maturity change the way you think with regard to voting? Have you changed the way you vote from the way your parents encouraged you to vote ... A one off payment is to be announced by the Australian treasurer in the upcoming budget to help with the cost of living. Would that be a vote winner. If it were a princely sum of a couple of thousand dollars, I think I would have to take the money, even...
QMY10
No money hand outs sway me I go from past experience n if they can actually look at the camera when talking cause if they can't dont trust them but I do wish they would ditch in person voting go online like the census
May 07, 22

What books have you read in the past that made you really think, it opened your eyes? I like to read stuff about COVER UPS. People that have experienced things and revealed information... especially when it's not political-correct to do so or the mainstream media didn't want to touch it. These sorts of subjects are often on videos as well... these days.
Bugalugs
"The happiest man on Earth" by Eddie Jaku. "The Auschwitz Photographer" by Maurizio Onnis and Luca Crippa. "The Tattooist of Auschwitz" by Heather Morris. If those three accounts of the Appalling things that can be done by Human Beings to Innocent men, women and children - 6.4 million members of the Jewish religion and another 7.3 millions simply because they did not fit in with the beliefs of a Dictator and his collaborators - do not convince you that these monsters should be stopped then nothing will.
Hitler described the Polish people & those of the Jewish faith as "Sub-humans, the "Scum of the Earth".
The Russian Dictator, Vladimir Putin, has used exactly the same words to describe the Ukrainian People.
He Must be stopped or he will, just like Hitler, exterminate them as well.
Apr 28, 22

A surge of young Aussie men are deciding to remain childless, with some getting vasectomies while still in their 20s. Many are passionately driven by ethical, financial and emotional factors, but will they regret their decision later in life? And what do you reckon involuntarily childless men think about this trend?
Cuddles
In this day and age, with the world's population as it is, people need to think hard before they bring another child into the world. I am a mother and grandmother who adores children, and I agree that they add so much to our lives, but many children are born to people who cannot offer a stable home with loving parents who are prepared to make the sacrifices needed to be a good parent. Rather have people voluntarily deciding they do not want to be fathers, than carelessly doing so, then regretting that decision. I do agree that a person in his very early 20s may occasionally regret their choice, but doctors do not do a vasectomy without questioning why the man wants one and ensuring he is aware of long term results of that decision.. Sometimes a vasectomy can be reversed, as suggested, but as long as any future partner is made aware of the choice that has been made, I feel a man is entitled to his beliefs and decisions about his own body just as a woman is.
Apr 20, 22

Do you ever lend money to family and friends, and if you do are you expecting them to pay you back or not to pay it? My experience has been that whenever I have lent money to friends I always get it back, as for family they just disappear for a while and when they do show up somehow they completely forget about it. So now I just don't lend family any money and if I do in certain dire circumstances I don't expect it back. What are your opinions on it.
Viola9
I've lent money to my sons now and again. It's usually my idea to do it and often I end up telling them not to worry about paying it back. One example was my eldest son one day telling me he was going to get a solar system installed and how much it was going to cost paying it on a plan. Worked out double the cost so I said I'd give him the money and he can pay me back when he has that amount saved up. Then my other son needed money for something some time later and I gave him money for that. In the end I told them both not to worry about paying it back. I have a fair bit sitting in the bank. We don't need much to live on because our house is paid off. We aren't big spenders going on holidays etc and the money will be theirs not so far down the track when my partner and I are no longer here so I figure why not let them have some of their inheritance now. One thing I always do though. If I give to one I give the same to the other so there's no favouritism.
Mar 25, 22

Recycling is a positive thing...but REUSING is the best way of reducing our carbon footprint and it is STILL not a priority...half the salt and pepper grinders in the supermarket cannot just be refilled...there are more now than 5 years ago...bottles, containers and jars that cannot be resealed...plastic packing that is designed solely for one use...why?...is no-one paying attention?
Belle S
We've gone from paper everything to plastic to save the trees, now they are trying to reverse it back. We had an incinerator in our back yard, which alot of home rubbish was put into it & burned. They decided it was against the law & incinerators were removed. Maybe bring back the incinerator & maybe, we wouldn't have so much landfill like back in the 70's/80's. Like fashion, goes out of style but eventually comes back. Our Government needs to stop fixing things that aren't broke & working well with the planet & fix things that aren't working.
Mar 24, 22

I being bullet from the day one from year 1 to year 6. The teachers think was funny and never stop its. My parents dismissed my said never cry and my father was working long hours bearing at home. I feel like was teaching child be see not hear. I crying all my young life. I being bullet in high school by two teachers to quick years 12 put me down them i crying i fail in the end from them. I was bullet at work crying as no way get home i didn't drive and had a sick mother...
freckes
best solution. go learn some marshal arts, and put them to use, mind and body control, show what you know and they will think a bit differently
Mar 10, 21

Do we respect the law anymore, do we take the police for granted and not treat them properly, or have they abused their power so much we don't trust them anymore yet when we are in trouble it seems they are the 1st to be called, myself I respect the police a lot, they deserve it and have a horrible job to do
sherry s 714699
THEY SHOULD BE RESPECTED FOR THE WORK THEY DO BUT, THEY SHOULD REMEMBER THEY ARE PEACE KEEPERS NOT EXECUTIONERS AND TRY A LITTLE RESTRAINT AND IMPROVE THEIR TRAINING
Mar 18, 22

What is your opinion...people using ... after a few words... Do you find it annoying? I know I do...
Paul J
I don't really have a problem with it....if that's what someone wants...it's a free country...for now...
Mar 12, 22

I am feeling really fearful about the forecast that omicron is going to infect many, and to be prepared for many people to be off work. Who on earth will look after our people who are in care if the trained and specialist staff are all off sick? I don't know who will be able to care for my husband and the others in his Care home. They are always short-staffed at any time. I don't know how Specialist care facilities are coping in other countries.
Pearlz
This is a very sore point for me as my mother is in a nursing home and as you say they are usually under staffed but when they mandated the vaccine almost 30% of the staff left including the entire management team. It took ages to hire more staff and now the place is nothing like it was previously. The new staff don't really care about the residents and things go left undone and they have demarcation lines where only one person can attend to something. My mother was left with a UTI that went untreated for between 12 to 16 weeks and it was only detected after she had a heart attack and was transported to hospital. The infection was cleared in a couple of days but she now has a heart condition. With only 34% of staff having had the booster more will leave again with the new mandate. I don't for one minute believe unvaccinated people catch or spread Covid anymore than vaccinated people and I would much have preferred that the staff who had worked there for more than 20 years had been allowed to remain working there vaccinated or not. For some very odd reason people seem to have lost their minds over Covid and think that people in nursing homes etc. should be protected from Covid at all costs, even if they die from neglect. I don't agree. Of all the deaths in Australia in 2021 only 1% was from Covid. In 2017 almost 250000 people in Australia caught Influenza, and on one night 17000 were hospitalized because of it. Did you hear that on the evening news? My father fell ill and was admitted to hospital and after a week he was doing well and was about to be discharged but he caught the flu despite being vaccinated. Just after midnight on his 91st birthday he passed away. That wasn't on the evening news either, but if it had been Covid you would have heard about it. People should get a grip, stop listening to the alarmist news media and worry about the elderly and disabled being fed, washed and cared for rather than who has or hasn't had the "jab".
Feb 24, 22

Maybe I am old-fashioned, but I really do not need to see advertisements for men s underwear, (with the real thing), gambling apps (when there are so many struggling with gambling) and feminine products . The latter I find distasteful. So many advertisements also seem to be misleading. In general, I am very resistant to advertising
misfortune8
You find feminine products distasteful, Shirley? 50% of the population need, will need or used to need them! Mum bought me old-fashioned Modess when I was a kid - then I found out about more modern options & was incredibly thankful for them.
My Nan never got the period talk, so she thought she was dying when it happened - a stranger had to comfort & explain it to her. That's outrageously unfair to a kid! Nobody wants to talk to their kids about condoms, either, but it's better than having your kid contract HIV, hepatitis, &c. Ads can prompt questions or provide a lead-in to further discussion.
Feb 18, 22

Australians are getting fatter. And experts say diets just don't work in the long term. But should we be looking at this debate differently? Can you be fat and healthy? And are people resorting to surgery too soon?
Smiley
I believe that some can be both overweight and healthy.
As a teenager, i was the "fat kid" and always picked on, but it was also during these years that i was at my healthiest. I went for 15km walks at least twice a week, i was quite strong, being able to pull/push carts loaded with up to 250kgs (bags of soil/fertiliser, etc), i was quite active as well, enjoyed playing soccer and squash as often as i could, i went bushwalking and worked on the farms of family friends (fencing, marking lambs, helping in the shearing shed, digging up paddock weeds by hand/mattock, etc)
I don't think it is fair to tar all larger framed people with the same brush. Some overweight people can be quite fit and healthy, others not so much, while others are all overweight due to medication they need to take.
Feb 15, 22

Would you prefer to text before arriving at someones place? Or just show up unannounced? Or would you ring before turning up? My friend thinks it's rude but I don't have a phone and we usually just knock and if they are there they are there
Sha
I hate unexpected visitors, especially when I'm not in the mood or feeling sick. The very last thing I want to do is entertain other people.
Feb 04, 22

I know it's a kind of cliche - The good old days! A time when we were growing up, without too much of the advanced technology that we have to day. Before ... computers, mobiles, Siri, spy cameras just about everywhere. Carefree days, holidays, great music, fun and laughter. Where has it all gone? Well before Covid showed ... it's ugly head. What were those OLD DAYS, like for some of you?
Larry S 382961
Having great music from the 60’s that was able to be understood,no swearing, lyrics made sense. Great TV shows that we’re funny,sometimes a bit naughty and no one cared. Having freedom to ride around the streets without some hoot running you over. No junk food except when you went to the local fish and chip shop or hamburger place. Going to the movies and seeing 2 films and a cartoon,news reel and having fun. Now you go to the movies 1 film,some junk ads,what’s coming and then home. That is why I have Fox on and Netflix ( free). And my mums cooking. She made Anzac biscuits that you needed to dunk so to soften up to eat
Feb 09, 22

Do you have a loved one in a nursing home and have any tips for others that might be new to this?
JANN R
I worked in aged care for 45 years some of the staff are good but others are only there to get paid they have no empathy for the elderly I always said it would be over my dead body that my mother went into aged care but if there is no one to care for them in there home it makes it hard I moved home to be here for my mother and I am her full time carer she is now 97 and still heathy and on no medication
Oct 20, 21

I've been communicating with my friend overseas for almost 3 years now, and have become quite close. With all the uncertainty in the world now, it is unlikely we will be able to meet in person. Any ideas on how to keep the relationship fresh and exciting?
Edward S 497347
The advice here starts with a question:- Have you met each other in person yet or not?
IF NOT, You do not know how well you would get on together once you do meet.
IF you have only met online and communicated online, emails and by phone, it could be risky because people online often lie and mislead the other person into believing they will meet one day and have feelings for you, when in fact they have no feelings for you and have no intention of meeting in person.
Too many scammers online.
IF you have NOT yet met in person, use a "Scammer Test" which I have divised as follows:-
1) Write a list of questions to ask the person. Once you ask him/her write down their answers; then wait a few weeks and ask him/her the same questions again...If their answers are NOT the same as the first time then you know they are lying and it's a scam.
2) Ask them to send you a photo of themselves, wait a few weeks then tell them you would like more photos of them; then compare the photos.
3) Take step 2 further and ask him/ her for a video chat; so you can confirm what they look like and if they refuse or give excuses continuously not to do that, then its a scam.
HAVING PASSED ALL OF THE ABOVE TESTS.
How much does this person mean to you?
Is the person worth waiting for?
IF yes, keep the relationship fresh by being romantic online, if you both have cameras arrange a time where you can have dinner together online...Meaning each of you at your own home, on camera, eating together.
Use emails / phone calls to tell each other about your day as if you were in a relationship face to face.
Finds things to do online together which you both enjoy doing.
Try something old-fashioned like writing long letters to each other and mailing them to each other by 'Snail Mail"...Everyone enjoys getting mail and the excitement builds up while waiting to receive and read the letter.
IF you have never met in person; NEVER send the other person money or valuable items in case it is a scam.
You said you've been communicating with your friend for over 3 years, but yet, the covid-19 pandemic has only existed for just over 2 years; therefore ask yourself and your friend why you never met in person BEFORE the pandemic hit the world.
GOOD LUCK!
Feb 05, 22

Do you think that the average citizen understands what combat troops actually experience and how this can affect them mentally? Young men and women return from combat zones where they see people being killed and are then are often discharged from the military. They then try to lead a "normal" life among people who can not imagine what the ex service person has experienced.
Firefly
Am ex navy, no war service, still difficult just being away from family without the combat side of it as well, Politicians should do more for them post service, but they won't!!
Jan 22, 22

Look up, like, into the sky. Look for the stars, every star is a sun for another solar system. Imagine if there is another planet with living organisms living on it. Are aliens true or false information?
Raymond E
Haven't ever seen them, but that doesn't mean they don't exist. God definitrly exists, and I haven't seen him either.
Nov 17, 21

I knew a few kids that were adopted when I was a kid! One couple... had a few kids that they adopted, her being a neighbor of ours! At high school..a few kids were adopted that I knew as well. What's your view on adoption? Should people when they are old enough, be allowed to or encouraged to find their real parents?
BLM
One, I am completely in FAVOR of adoptions at the county (government level in the usa) or you are just buying a baby (which is illegal in the usa - but not really enforced). Two, if you are adopted (in the usa) - you legally have the right (now) to (when you turn 18) find your biological parent (which does not translate - into any sense they are your real parents - because any two idiots (female and male) can conceive a child). Three, alot of kids (I was one) are better off cutting off contact with their real parents (biological father and birth mother) - as soon as possible - I was a teen runaway. The first things that are cut (funding) in the usa - is social programs and education. Last, Child Protective Service (CPS) is a social program - ran at the county level - a child is on a waiting list before CPS can look out for the child (hopeful, the child lives long enough to become eligible for CPS services). Other words, I am in FAVOR of adoptions (because between 1.6 million and 2.8 million kids become runaways EACH YEAR - an indication that most parents in the usa - have lousy parental skills).
Dec 26, 21

Should political Donations be stopped, or reduced? If we did that however there is a risk the smaller political parties will suffer, be less able to compete. Saying that, the bigger parties have too much influence. What's your take on this?
James
Stop the corrupt leftists for sure. Facebook, Google etc shouldn't be allowed to fund the demorat/communist parties!
Next they will fund Australian and UK Labor parties.
So yes, ban funding altogether
Dec 05, 21

We know that people have passion. Do you have it? A person without passion is that one whose passion wasn't discovered yet. Have you got one? Tell the World about your passion.
misfortune8
Literature! There are so many books I want to read that I'll have to live to 1000 just to read what's on my list now! Some of my best friends are books.
May 03, 21

If you had the chance to change anything in the world and it could only be one thing, what would it be? Would it be for yourself or for the world? Would your change effect the world or only yourself? :)
Cuddles
I would change the pay-scale of politicians so that it became a job which only genuinely caring people get, not for the power and affluence as is the case now. It should be a position of caring for others, but at the moment it is a case that they seem to always put themselves first and foremost, (continually voting themselves increases in pay), not the people they supposedly serve. More people like the former president of Uruguay, President Mujica, who was said to be the poorest president in the world. He donated 90% of his salary to charity, chose to continue living in the farmhouse he shared with his wife, and drove an old VW beetle when he could have lived in luxury.
Nov 08, 21

What's the best/worst compliment you have ever received from a stranger?
lippy loo
I had a photo taken for my passport and it was horrible and I aid I did not like it as it did not really look like me and this woman says "It's funny how we perceive ourselves as better than what we are" I thought how nasty. Left and went elsewhere and got a much more accurate and nicer photo.
She was either jealous of other women or just woke up on the wrong side of the bed but it stayed with me and I am now 71. Imagine if I was a teen and someone said that to me. I was 40 at the time and going through a nasty divorce so it did imprint a bit negative on my self esteem.
Feb 11, 21

I love listening to music when I lived in a family home they took my radio off me and said that it bad to listen to music I think that was wrong I love listening to music how about you
PatCat
I would literally go nuts if I couldn't listen to music.It calms me down, it lifts my mood, it is my best friend as I walk around the house, doing the cleaning, digging the garden, the background to my life.
Oct 27, 21

Do you have a family member you're not willing to speak to? I personally haven't spoken to my father in more than 5 years and have no regrets about it. I believe more in surrounding yourself with people you like, love and care about regardless to being blood related or not. I'm curious what are your thoughts?
'smee,SWQ!
We still don't speak to my Sister -In--Law or her husband who raped my wife over 35 years ago when pregnant with our 2nd daughter who we subsequently lost through the trauma...my wife's sister defended her husband saying he'd never do that! My wife says she never had that sister!
Oct 11, 21

Do you have a massive regret in life? Perhaps it's something you wish you did, but have never got around to doing, or something you did, but wish you hadn't.
Michelle S 553303
We ALL have regrets I'm sure but not lebe arning from those stupid, idiotic things that you did do would be my greatest regret of all. I wish that I would have listened to my FIL when he pleaded with me not to sell the home we had built on land he'd paid for. It was perfect for us and my 5 children and would have been for years to come, but I had been bequeathed a 3/4 share in a home which belonged to these elderly sisters I helped to care for in the community and whereas I could simply have paid off the animal welfare organisation that they bequeathed the other 1/4 to and paid my share of the lawyers exorbitant fees and then, after the sale was completed, I could have paid the mortgage on the home we had built, bought my now ex and I a car each and then STILL had money left over. We moved in the weekend my mother died and because the home phone had been switched off at our old residence for a few hours before going on at our new address my mother had passed away of cancer. I missed being with her AND my father was alone with her when she died. He'd been trying to call the home number but couldn't get on to us so he eventually rang my mobile. We'd spent the whole weekend moving houses and my plan had been to go and stay with her that Monday after I got the kids off to the bus stop and remain with her when she died. My old home was officially sold that Thursday and for some reason we had to be there to hand over keys or something, but we were over an hour away from the Chapil where my mother's funeral was to occur at 11am and I still had to pick up the wreath along the way. We were late of course and my father knew that something fishy was going on that week but I didn't want to tell him what we'd done because he'd told me in no uncertain terms NOT to move into the sisters home. I would NEVER make such a mistake as that now, but hindsight is a wonderful thing. We spent over $70K repairing the home as the sisters hadn't been able to afford to fix all the things that needed replacing and tearing down. That "tearing down" happened later that year when my my marriage broke up and a year after that when I couldn't sell the now lovely renovated home and 3/4 of an acre of land within walking distance to town and public transport, the bank came and foreclosed on it. So in 2 and a half years I destroyed my family's finances that we'd built up over 18 years or so and ended up bankrupt. It was, ALL of it, the most difficult experience to go through and the ONE decision out of ALL of life's bad choices that I wish I could change. I know it is shameful and worse because I hurt the very person that had helped me the MOST of anybody in my lifetime, but if anyone reading this can possibly get a family member or another loved one NOT to make a similar disastrous mistake then it's worth it. Thanks for reading.
Oct 07, 21

The world is full of them, young and old! It's never my fault, it's someone else's! No matter what the issue...you always get this from people. Famous people are some of the worse. They seem to love to air their dirty laundry to the world! Why can't people take responsibility for their actions anymore? Your Views?
Grommie
Why can't people take responsibility for their actions anymore? Answer, the Government doesn't so why should anyone else? The example is set at the top. NZ currently has Saint Jacinda of Covid who cannot put a foot wrong according to her fatuous grovelling ignorant adoring fans.
Sep 27, 21

I was reading about a woman (on twitter) whose 19 yr old daughter found a distinctive earring in one part of Sydney and then days later her 13 yr old found the exact same earring in another part of Sydney. Both had picked them up and not realized they had a pair until days later. It could be that they are a popular design, but in any case still a coincidence that siblings found each separately. Have you experienced any extraordinary coincidences?
Disie
I had an Online friend of 2 years. I ended up in hospital for a few days and said so on our Group discussion. I got home and received a message asking if I was still in Maroondah Hospital because my online friend was there also 1 floor up. I visited on my check-up and we became fast real-life friends until she passed from Cancer
Sep 26, 21
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