I used work for a Malaysian guy who ,when handing over the change to his customers couldn't work out why they kept saying 'tough' to him ?He asked me what do they mean? They always tell me "thanks tough?" I soon realised .... then told him no they are saying thanks or thankyou Ta ! Then had to explain what Ta meant 😄

Old school values When you grow up in enviorment where your parents where raised to show respect and manners for others it does rub off. Todays parents are working 7 days a week and dropping kids off to day care or before school care that is very stressful that the little things like manners are not at the top of their list I'm sure that kids are chipped at times to show repect but its code for those of days gone by.Just know that you feel good when you show manners and respect and move on from those that don't.

There are a few people left with manners

manners make the man

People dont care about anybody but themselves these days so thats why people arent taught manners

They are still valued in our household. We might be more lenient with each other, but towards other people, myself my partner and my children all use their manners and are polite. I guess with people you know and are used to you know it's a little more acceptable.

I don't mind. Not everyone is super extroverted. Some people keep to themselves but are happy to acknowledged you if you spoke to them - it can be an ice breaker if you're socially awkward. Not everyone is perfect.

because the education system has broken down, no literature, Latin or grammar etc.

Unfortunately this is society today!

It’s up to parents and others to be good role models and for this to continue into society. Look at your values and choose what your comfortable with, best of luck the joys of being a parent, are many, enjoy the ride

They don't know how to communicate because they have their phones stuck to their ears

without manners you have nothing, Manners show you care about others. take a look around you. It is all ME,ME,ME,,I,I,I,

I wonder if at least some of it has to do with various cultures or ethnic origins. It is totally unacceptable for some women to look men in the eye and God forbid if they speak to an unknown man. There are other cultures that have suspicions about numbers such as my neighbour who turned his head the other way when walking past me when I was having a garage sale. I was really annoyed til I realised that number 44 is a bad omen in that particular culture.

It's a sign of the times we're living in, Paula. Everything going on in the world today was prophesied in the Bible as signs of the end of this system of things. Please read these scriptures to see exactly what was foretold: Matthew chapter 24; Ephesians 5:3-5; 1 Corinthians 5:11 and 2 Timothy 3: 1-7. There's so much more, but I don't want to overwhelm you. I'm just trying to show you why things are the way they are today.🤕

Unfortunately in this World of "anythying is acceptable" that is one of the downfalls. As far as I am concerned I am courteous to others and expect the same back from others. To be honest if people are rude or don't show respect .... they very quickly become "ex friends". I met a guy recently for Coffee and when he spent a fair bit of the time texting on his mobile phone - I simply said "obviously texting on your phone is more important than I am" and left. That is another thing I find extremely rude - unless of course it is an emergency - that is fine. There are still a lot of people who dislike rudeness thankfully. I do blame a lot of it on all these Social Media sites and extreme groups........... If my neighbour's son was like that - I would ask them why their son does not answer you when you speak to him. If they are allowing him to do that - they are being very stupid - I say. Best wishes to you...............

Manners and respect seem to be almost a thing of the past. However when someone says hello I always respond and say thank you when someone extends common courtesies like holding a door or opening a door etc.

My mother in law expects a thank you and please HOWEVER if you do something for her, all you get is a giggle; much like a small child's - totally inappropriate for a woman in her late 80's! Manners are non existent in her household ........ grrrr!

APlease , A Thank you & A Smile cost absolutely nothing

Going by 'trash tv' #reality shows (don't judge!) - manners & respect are def not what they were in my grandads day!

I was taught to say please and thank you and I have taught my boys the same. Hate the word ta though... I've had complete stranger come up to me, shops in town and different school teachers call me and tell me what wonderful manners my boys have and they are so kind and helpful to everyone

Hi I use manners and my son uses his manners, unfortunately these days when you open the door for a female it's sexist. Hard to teach the next generation.Edited 10-Mar-23 16:36pm

Maybe the boy next door for some reason just does not like you and he is saving his conversations to have with those he does. Children pick up on things and express them in different ways. One day some old girl was trying to give something to my toddler and demanding a "ta" before giving it but my very clever toddler retorted in a very grown up way "no thank you I don't want it!"Edited 10-Mar-23 15:56pm

It's a hard to say. I think manners are still very important, and I try to teach my children this. Just from my observation of kids, we are in a technological age where it seems kids are constantly unaware of their surroundings and are introverts. Just an observation from those I meet and my own kids.

Is it bad manners to not talk to my neighbours no, as i hate them along with everyone else in the human race.

It's mostly the young that have no manners but I see and have friends that say let's catch up and spend time on the phone I have even left the table then get asked where are you going and even worse left then had a call asking where I am. My answer was you asked for a catch up then your on the phone so I m going or left. Since then have made it a thing we turn phones off for an hour, it's been great

Get less in these day

Gone are the days when motorists thank you for letting them into your lane 😕

Getting less and less it's shocking

In today's society what are banners?

No one has taught the little darlings any that's why they don't say them. The are out stealing cars instead and driving stolen cars into shops, bashing and killing people in the street for fun. Do you really think they give a flying rats behind. NO THEY DON'T and WHY is that. They know no one can touch them. They are throwing concert blocks at police cars. Just watch the news and there is your answer. I will say no more.

Where I live we used to say hello to people as they passed us on the pavement. People of my age still do but now that our suburb has been "found" and there are many new arrivals the younger ones walk past and give no indication that we are even on the same footpath!

Not much these days

Firstly….Manners equal respect. This s a very very deep conversation…I believe in manners and even more …. Respect! It also seems to be related about how you were raised. I also want to remind everyone that mental illness , including autism, depression etc. may play a HUGE role in behaviour. A behaviour that parents, the person may not want or xplain.My suggestion would be to stay in a happy place. If someone has no manners, raised their children with no manners/respect then take a big breath, smile and move on. Unfortunately …. We can’t change anyone’s behaviour…we can only control ourselves…Smile …respect yourself and surround yourself with others that have manners and respect like you :)

We are witnessing the take over of our society by those who are "entitled." I don't think they know what they're entitled to, or why they're entitled, they just are. I think it's from all the years, since they were toddlers, they've been told just how special. marvellous, smart, bright, etc., etc., they are so now not only do they believe it they expect everyone else to believe it as well. Oh well, this too shall pass. This is the way.

I am at the stage in life when people call out and don't say excuse me or say please or thank you I just ignored them.

good manners are better than bad manners, and bad manners are better than no manners

I raised my 5 kids with manners and because I did they have passed it on to their kids which is lovely to hear and see too many selfish rude people in this world nowdays. Maybe they need to start teaching manners through the school system to bring them back!

Defiantly outdated and no longer allowed when you can be charged with Sexual Harassment for opening a door for a woman. So if they what to complain they can do it all for themselves even when they ask as they are just baiting you for a Sexual Harassment claim.

i find most people do but therer is exceptions

Hmm,manners,social graces,what is acceptable these days. Regardless of age it is something that bothers me at times. I moved 6 months ago,not far from where I lived,within the same postcode but different neighbours. All my neighbours are retired and regardless of how often I have tried to say hello,and been friendly they ignore me,walk away or just stare at me when I am out in my yard gardening etc. I wave and they walk away. I know some people don't get along with their neighbours or just don't see them . I have previously had great ones,all my life ,till now. Perplexing unsure if it's rudeness or the fact I am a "newbie". I live rural. Everyone acknowledges each other ,even if we don't talk. You know smile or wave as you go by. City is a bot different. People look at youif you are mentally ill if you say hi to them and don't know them. People ,funny lot.

Not many parent teach manners because they just want to be there friends it does not hurt to say hello , please , thank you or byeEdited 11-Mar-23 11:26am

I find people don’t teach there children manners now a days I myself do and believe it is very important for our children to learn this for themselves to be a decent person

my father was very strict when it came to manners they are still very important to me

Laziness

Did you ever stop and think that their son has anxiety or something else going on and he simply can't answer? The fact that you don't even think about why a person doesn't say hello back is rude in itself. Are you so self absorbed that that you think everyone just needs to behave the way you want them to? The fact his parents don't force him is a good thing.

Unfortunately it depends on some peoples upbringing. I find the majority of people I come into contact with are very courteous. I live in a rural area now and the people are so polite.

They will never be outdated. I have taught my grandies manners but sometimes they forget but they know that nana won’t let them get away with it. It costs nothing to be polite, courteous and thoughtful, which I think is a worldwide issue.

I think manners should be a class subject because we have gotten to far away from being just polite.

It all depends on the era you were brought up in, I was born in the 70s and my parents always said please and thankyou, as an older person but young at heart when I go into a shop, at times the store people are surprised that i am polite and friendly it doesn't cost a cent to smile, say please and thankyou. If someone is in my way I say excuse me if they can't hear me I increase my voice, if no response I then use my wheelchair horn. When I am wheeling down the road I'll say hello and if I know the person I'll stop and have a quick chat. I don't know what my first word was but I agree with you Paula J I don't understand why some people are plain rude and don't have manners.

If you are not taught by your parents to say, please, thank you, hello, sorry, excuse me, then who will teach them. Parents seem to be on their phone all the time and have no time for anything else. They no longer cook, look after their own children, or wish to talk to a stranger in the street. Their children will be worse at living skills, as I call them.

They are to some I'm from the generation that grew up with manners. The world has changed but I hold on to all my values and manners

If children learn while they are young they seem to have manners for their entire life.

Manners are still very important and it all depends on how the younger generations are being brought up. My neighbors kids are all under seven but they all say hello to us as soon as they see us and I hope they stay the same when they become teenagers. Children in our family have good manners as well.

Manners have gone by the board, especially table manners. The young don't seem to know how to hold a knife and fork or spoon. The words please and thank you don't appear in their vocabulary and they certainly don't they should be curteous to anybody. Parents have it seems stopped parenting.

My motto is treat others as you would like to be treated.That boy next door could be shy which is why he doesn't say hello or simply just not a chatty person like a lot of kids can be but it doesn't mean they are rude or have no manners.I don't say hello to any of my neighbours and I'm an adult but it's not because I don't have any manners it's simply because I don't want to get to know my neighbours,they are not people I want or need in my life.

They should do

These days if i point and say ta ta i get into all sorts of trouble...

It more manners are out the window

So many children do not have both parents at home and have no good time models. Schools can only do so much but it is important!

it is not taught, it is not policed by everyone. i insist on manners by doing so and calling people out. Depending on their background they respond in kind, look embarrassed or disregard it as an inconvenience. Another example of dropping standards and lazy thinking.

I work in a primary school, and am constantly reminding children to use manners, it seems a forgotten value.

i brought my kids up with good maners and good hygine so what they do today i frist but the seed into there heads

Good manners and respect were very much to the fore in my childhood (40's - 50's). Now society is much more "me". Still good manners around but a lot less. Its sad really because it costs nothing.

Very few do use good manners

Bad parenting, obviously they were never taught manners as children so their children aren't taught either. Next time you say hello to the child next door in front of his parents pull him up for being rude. I certainly would.

Depends entirely on the parents. Children should be taught manners & respect. It is a Parent's job, no one else's. Too many parent's abrogate their responsibility. You teach children manners from a young age. A teacher is paid to educate your children for their future working life. Edited 10-Mar-23 17:30pm

There is not a whole generation of people without manners. There were just as many rude people in every era. People need to stop looking at “in my day” with the rose coloured glasses on. Edited 10-Mar-23 11:15am

It does not take very much effort to be polite and is always appreciated 🙂

Bad parents.

Depends on their education

New age parenting ethics of permissive rather than authorative parenting has raised a whole generation of people who cannot regulate their own emotions. Kids need and thrive on guidance and direction from their parents, it's how they learn to function in society. Parents that fail to provide boundaries and require their children to regulate their emotions and display proper behaviour, create un-etiquetted human values.

I think they are not taught like they used to be although my grandchildren have good manners and people have often remarked on how well mannered they are but that's how I brought my children up and they have done the same with there kidsEdited 10-Mar-23 07:55am

I don't like it when I step aside for some one so they can go through and they don't even acknowledge the juesture. I say (your welcome). Some look at me as if they didn't even notice. How rude.

I wish good manners had never gone out of style

I brought my son’s up with traditional values, ‘treat other’s as you want to be treated’ however I also gave them freedom to speak their mind’s, so yes they show respect and voice their opinions! Do what you think is right!

Manners are valued. It is about respect for one another. Common decent courtesy.

I think everybody uses good manners when they need to be is because good manners is a sign of giving respect to others.

Some do - others ... no so much!

Those with the manners tend to have jobs whereas those without manners tend to have children. And we tend to have what we have.

Manners have largely disappeared and it is the fault of the Parents that they have. Go into any Supermarket and there they with their trolley load of groceries which they unpack, with one hand, whilst the other holds their ever-present mobile phone on which they are chattering away. They stay on it all the time the Checkout staff are putting thier purchases through never saying of acknowledging in any way the member of staff. Then they simply swipe their phone over the reader and walk away with not having said a word. No Good Morning, afternoon, No Thank You, No Smile just gossiping away endlessly at the top of their voices.The children see this and they think it its the right way to do things.

Some people are shy or some children have under developed social skills due to being glued to technology. May be some are not teaching manners anymore because its outdated and time wasting behaviour. But all these fading old school values are being stamped out of our society. Rudeness, profanity and violence pervades our schools, our governments and our familys now. No one cares anymore!Edited 10-Mar-23 06:08am

people without manners is like feral dog without a leash,nothing worse than someone without them

Manners never go out of style. Some children are not taught manners or how to act in public places or in school. As a teacher, I always tell them it is ok if you have never learned how to act, but now that you know it is expected that you act politely. What you say on the streets or when you are with friends is your business, but when you are in class or in mixed company use your manners. Since when are manners forced?

Manners are still valued but they are not forced like when I was a child. I was forced to talk to people even if I was scared or uncomfortable and we do not force that with our chidlren

i have experience something very similar and i find it disgusting

We were taught "manners maketh man" and I taught my children the same. However, the message seems to have lost credibility now - my grandchildren don't even acknowledge gifts I send them. Very sad, good manners are one of the easiest and most appreciated attributes to have & use.

it is very important to be polite. If people treat you with respect you should do the same. We are human.

Respect? Some people think what's that

I have a handicap and boys hold the door. I say thnk you and most reply "your welcome." All of them have manners. Maybe its where you live.

Respect and manners went down the tubes. When parents were not taught, how can teach their kids. If there was respect and manners I think That their would be less crime. Children have no respect and when parents put their food down the kids turn and kill the parents. The world today has gone down hill and its looks like it will keep on going down hill. When the gov.. says do not spank children the world starting going down hill. Today if you spank a child they can call 911 on you. That is what the schools are teaching the kids. The kids are out of control..

Kids just aren't taught like we used to be

Manners cost nothing! I'm sure a lot of younger gen walk by out of shyness and or anxiety .l know I've told my neighbours they need to eyeball my son and say hi if they see him slinking off down our communal driveway to work. He will always then beam a shy smile and is everyone's delight.. please and thankyou have always been said and if he is given a present he appreciates it unlike my younger nephew who acts like we gave him a pile of uninteresting dust and he'll open it later.. again all down to the parents. Being on a tablet or iPhone at a restaurant as a child in a restaurant with your family drives me bonkers as well. They are not picking up the average social skills of even interacting with the waitress or listening to adult conversation and putting in their 2 cents any more. Very sad state of affairs. No wonder eye contact and the idea that you need to pull out some manners in order to partake and fit in are not of concern to many kids ( not all) but they live in their own bubble so why would they bother?

Manners have always been OUTDATED in the neighborhoods I grow up - IN. However, I grow up in segregated neighborhoods and 'manners' were seen as a sign of weakness and you never display any 'WEAKNESS' in segregated neighborhoods (segregation still exist where I reside (live) - in the "GOOD OLD USA (HAHA))".Edited 10-Mar-23 04:25am

Rude parents breed rude kids. It starts in the home.

Good manners in my house always.. and I always pick up other people for there’s …

One of my neighbours would watch us most of the time and it became annoying. Even other family members observed this. We even thought they followed us a few times. This is plain rude though there is nothing I can do. I am also sure they listen to our conversation. I wish the other neighbours were still living there.

Lack of respect and lack of just being nice and friendly.

This is something to be taught by parents and endorsed by others when they have been polite and are opening doors for each other etc

I haven't found that to be the case in general....you are going to get some rude children from time to time and that often seems to be the fault of their parents Edited 10-Mar-23 00:24am

I agree. We have become a rude society, for the most part.