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Foster care
Anthony AJun 03, 23
I am a foster care provider. About 14 years ago, my wife and I wanted to see how it works. We started by going to classes for about 8 weeks for training. Once training was over, they match you up with a certain amount of children that your home can accommodate. Then you start the process of caring for the children as if they were your own. If and when they are not able to get back to their original parents, then they will ask you if you want to adopt them. Well, we did 3 total children. I can tell you that it was only the second-best thing I ever did in my life, the first was to marry my wife. So now I have 3 children, 2 girls and 1 boy also known as 2 daughters and 1 son.
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  • LA
    I’m glad you aren’t the ones that just use the children for money.
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    • Roy R 1009866
      it's a beautiful thing you and your wife are doing for these children. Don't allow the Republican like MTG tell you you are not real parents like she told the woman who was a leader at the education dept.
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      • Paul B 522937
        Been there done that many years ago
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        • Priscilla R 316016
          Such a pity more foster carers aren't like you! It is also a pity that more of the original parents who know they cannot care for their children still refuse to out them up for adoption!
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          • Karla K
            When I was growing up I wish I had foster carers like you and your wife! More like you are needed.
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            • Maria B 89860
              Love your real life story! Well done to both of you and how lucky for those children that were chosen and adopted into such a loving household.
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              • Debra D 624780
                Praise God, these children were so blessed to find you, and you to find them.
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                • JANET R 328390
                  That sounds fantastic. You are wonderful people. Best wishes to you.
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                  • Paula J 395266
                    How fortunate those 3 children were to get you and your wife.
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                    • Katzeye
                      That's really beautiful to hear what you and your wife have done.I was adopted when I was 3 months old by a loving family too,who to me will always be my true parents and oddly enough I have often thought about fostering a child as well but now that my two adult sons are back living at home there simply is no more room.
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                      • Colin L 88398
                        I've also seen the other side of fostering and it is not always PRETTY.
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                        • JANET R 328390
                          Totally agree. So have I.
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                      • Elvira D 70287
                        I have always loved to have fostered a child, I believe with all my heart children need to know they are special and deserve to be treated as wanted to treat them as if they were yours because we need to bear in mind some of these children come with behavioral problems due to family breakdown, drugs alcohol mental illness. abuse, suicide. and crime as well. Also, the hard part to deal with is if the child is then taken from you then it.s heartbreaking to see them go. Hoping that they will be okay.
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                        • Carolyn7 P
                          God Bless you and your wife for being foster parents and adopting. My sister-in-law did it also and I could see it is not an easy job.
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                          • Carol S 657195
                            That's fantastic! They are some very lucky children, indeed! I wish all these children had such happy endings. From watching Dr. Phil, he says that the system is broken, and you never want to lose your children. Of course, that is the ideal situation, but it's not always possible. I believe it probably varies from area to area, state to state, etc. I live in a very rural area, and not many people take in foster children. The ones that do only want the extra income and are very poor at parenting. Then the children pay the price by being placed in another foster home over and home. My best friend went through this, and it was very sad for her. The other thing is that tend to separate siblings which is devastating to the children. I wish I had been able to take foster children, but I have had bad anxiety and depression and am divorced. They like the children to have both parents, but I think one good parent is better than two poor ones who just want money! I was against abortion until I learned how mistreated children are in some cases. It's sad to say, but many are beaten and even end up losing their lives. People who have their biological children should never have children because of their abusiveness, but that's something we can't do much about. I know a woman who is pregnant with her fourth child, and she has lost custody of all of them due to her drug addiction. My neighbor is raising two of them because she is their great-grandmother, but she is over 70, and it is so difficult for her. She said she is not raising another baby, and she shouldn't have to, but where will it end up? It will be born addicted to drugs as the last two were at least. They are very difficult to deal with because of behavioral problems. I have no answer, but she should have been fixed so she couldn't have more children. It's so sad for everyone, but the children suffer the most! God bless you for what you do and who you and your wife are! I wish there were more of you. This should not be a problem in this country, but you can't control how people treat their children. They are in God's hands! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!!
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                            • Denise C (Qld)
                              Well done
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                              • Jan H 753322
                                How lovely that your children have such caring parents!
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                                • Paul J 94868
                                  Great stuff Anthony!
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                                  • clifford s
                                    enjoy your new family ,you earnt it
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                                    • Irena T
                                      What a wonderful story!!
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                                      • Jenny L 591463
                                        That's great and well done. Sounds like you are doing a wonderful job. I would have liked to do that but I am too old now and you make it sound so easy. I did hear on the news there had been some bullying from one of the organisations here. That put me off and I am not convinced it is that easy. Besides I don't think I could handle giving them back after all they may not stay for that long and I would get too attached.
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                                        • Sonya F 68771
                                          Well done glad you could help some children
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                                          • Sabine V
                                            Great job
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                                            • Pam G 449028
                                              Well done, kids are very special
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                                              • Daniel A 2
                                                great
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                                                • Barbara T
                                                  What a caring and loving couple you must be to foster/adopt a child(ren) .... takes a special kind of person I reckon ..... bless you ❤️
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                                                  • yvonne l 1107206
                                                    i know some peopel thast have done this
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                                                    • Pat C 618241
                                                      All thanks to those who do this job, without you there would be much less love and care in this world.
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                                                      • IdentifyAs
                                                        God bless you both for your generosity towards these children. It breaks my heart when the most vulnerable in our communities are not given the care they deserve.
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                                                        • Dee and Paul from Perth WA
                                                          Well done Anthony. I was a foster child
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                                                          • Amy B 1078427
                                                            That’s nice
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                                                            • JANN R
                                                              YOU AND YOUR WIFE HAVE DONE A VERY GOOD THING FOR THOSE KIDS CONGRATULATIONS FOR YOUR GOOD WORK
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                                                              • marianne c 540572
                                                                I had several foster high school boys who were at the age where the system wouldn't really help them but being as the Vice Principal of the High School was a close friend of mine, referred these kids to me. All but one graduated and went on to either work or future schooling because of the home, attention, and encouragement our family provided. the other, a girl, I asked to leave because she became PG when sneaking out against orders and I had 2 high school girls at home at the time and they were actually the ones who encouraged us to send her out. she dropped out of school but went to live with her boyfriends family and eventually married, but later divorced. I still hear from some of these boys after 30 years and they still call me Mom and I'm grandma to their kids.
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                                                                • Carolina Z
                                                                  CONGRATULATIONS FOR THE GREAT WORK!
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                                                                  • Cathy S 315728
                                                                    yes a great thing to do but the bad foster parents, and there is lots, get more notice than the good ones
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                                                                    • Jackie 1280493
                                                                      Wonderful for you that it worked out. I know fostering children can be scary, but rewarding.
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                                                                      • William P 589978
                                                                        Well done!
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                                                                        • Shirley H 391879
                                                                          Would love to have been a foster parent. Partner not agreeable. Would do it now but for age(80) and stroke.. ah well. Thank you for being one
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                                                                          • Robert T 597718
                                                                            Thank you Anthony for your kindness and that of your wife Well done
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                                                                            • Rod R 101788
                                                                              Awesome. A safe, secure home is important.
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                                                                              • Victoria 1304258
                                                                                Awesome. Great job! My son's family fostered, but they put the little girl back with her mother.
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                                                                                • Sandra C 12043
                                                                                  Congratulations & Best Wishes to you all.
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                                                                                  • Maree B 85308
                                                                                    More power to you and everyone out there brave enough to put their heart on the line and make a childs life better
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                                                                                    • Sheree T
                                                                                      You and your wife are such wonderful loving and caring people. The three children you have are so lucky to have you as their parents. Wishing you and your new family all the best for the future.
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                                                                                      • Doneva 1304059
                                                                                        That's wonderful!!!
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                                                                                        • The dog house
                                                                                          It is lovely to hear that it worked out well for your family. Unfortunately it is not the case for a few foster children. I have read some horrific things that have happened to some of them.
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                                                                                          • Elizabeth A 807208
                                                                                            How blessed are these children to go into a home where they are really loved and cared for I just want to say thank you.
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                                                                                            • Madeline Y
                                                                                              It is such a beautiful thing when real loving and nurturing people adopt and the child becomes as if it were their own
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                                                                                              • Lyn A.
                                                                                                Well done. I am pleased there was some training given. Enjoy your kids. A good parent is often not blood related
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                                                                                                • pam rae
                                                                                                  ty andrea
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                                                                                                  • lynda e 390007
                                                                                                    This is a such a success story sadly others do not but how lovely to hear of the good ones.
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                                                                                                    • Linda R 394234
                                                                                                      Wonderful story. Not everyone, both children and fosterers are so lucky and workd so hard to get good outcome.
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                                                                                                      • Michelle 1281734
                                                                                                        Foster care can be a good thing. Like everything else, it could also be a negative thing. We need more kinder people in this world.
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                                                                                                        • Rachel H 1018522
                                                                                                          I’d love to do this
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                                                                                                          • Carolyn K 714554
                                                                                                            There was a foster home near my home and I was sorry for the children who were there, because they seem to be a money making situation.
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                                                                                                            • Paula
                                                                                                              6 years with family but in the system 1 of my 5 sisters also where now my neice is
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                                                                                                                ty susan
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                                                                                                                • BLACK LIVES MATTER
                                                                                                                  COOL AND WOW! Grow up on the streets as a teen-ager-runaway, heard 'great things' about foster care systems (never got a referral to a foster care setting), and 'lousy things' about institutionalized care system (ran by county (public) employees) - settings for those under 18 years old (like me at that point in my life) and without criminal convictions (no felony/felonies - I got probation and community service - which was later permanently legally sealed by a judge - law enforcement agencies cannot access my probation and community service records) - I was told to AVOID (instructional care system ran by county (public) employees - by individuals on the streets (like me - at that point in my life!
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                                                                                                                  • John A 623596
                                                                                                                    This is the beauty found in the extended family. First loving self then allows extensive energies to love others. In this case three beautiful young lives. So thankyou for spreading your love and making this world a better place.
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                                                                                                                    • Rose I 1205334
                                                                                                                      I wish that every one of these pro-lifers had to foster a child, or adopt a child because that's the rhetoric that they spew out that if they don't want the baby they can give it up for adoption. But honestly people who do a good job fostering children and giving them a safe place to be they are awesome people
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                                                                                                                      • Susan KTC
                                                                                                                        What purely selfless commitment and experience, to provide children in need a home and unconditional love and support. I raised two sons on my own from the age’s of 10 and 7 year’s, and was a preschool teacher for 15 years. I truely understand the importance of giving a child stability, consistency, guidance and unconditional love and care. Blessings to you and your wife ❤️
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                                                                                                                        • Craig S 1050522
                                                                                                                          Well done - Amazing commitment raising children.
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                                                                                                                          • Vicky V
                                                                                                                            Thank you for sharing this.
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                                                                                                                            • SueM2
                                                                                                                              Well done! Such a shame that there is a need for fostering but folks like you put the "care" back into Foster Care.
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                                                                                                                              • Darla T
                                                                                                                                In today's world, we need to hear more stories like that. Thanks for sharing your story and your love to three lucky children.
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                                                                                                                                • Kamila P
                                                                                                                                  That's awesome. Thank you for sharing that. Unfortunately i always heard bad stories about foster care. I would like to hear more positive stories as yours.
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                                                                                                                                  • pam rae
                                                                                                                                    ty Evie
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                                                                                                                                    • PETER M 134659
                                                                                                                                      FOSTER PARENTS ARE AWESOME. MOST OF EM' ARE REALLY CARING AND LOVING.
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                                                                                                                                      • Bettie B
                                                                                                                                        Foster care is a good system when you have caring parents in it for the children care not the money it pay to help with the child care.
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                                                                                                                                        • pam rae
                                                                                                                                          so sweet and caring
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                                                                                                                                          • david j t
                                                                                                                                            awesome
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                                                                                                                                            • Cher
                                                                                                                                              Caring for children is the best job! Thank you Anthony and wife. You are an inspiration!
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                                                                                                                                              • Dragie
                                                                                                                                                Did fostercare for 7 yrs
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                                                                                                                                                • Pamela G
                                                                                                                                                  You are a good person.
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                                                                                                                                                  • Teri 1282723
                                                                                                                                                    I grew up on a dairy farm with both parents and 4 sisters. As far back as I can remember, we had foster children in our home. Often 2 at a time but mostly 1 and once 3. I remember wanting to adopt them all, some more than others because they came as wee babies and stayed up to a couple of years and you get really attached; at least as a kid it felt like 2 years. We did end up adopting 2 boys and we are all very close and loving as siblings should be. I wondered recently if my parents did it for the money but my Dad set me straight real quick; $7/month for each child. That didn't even cover food. It was out of the kindness of their loving Christian hearts that they were doing this. In my adult life I was able to foster 2 teenaged girls. I don't think there's a much better feeling in life than helping young people out of abusive families and into a Christian home that values them for the gifts they are. And teaching them they are lovable and deserve respect and admiration lead them on to work in a dental office and veterinarian office where their kindness and confidence are shared with a gentleness they never learned in their first families. I am so thankful to God for bringing those girls into my life and the ability to give them what they needed to succeed in life and break the abusive cycle. If any of you get the opportunity to foster and/or adopt a child/children, I say pray about it and if you're led in that direction, follow your heart and do it. You will all be rewarded. God bless...
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                                                                                                                                                    • Catharina 1274733
                                                                                                                                                      Now a day is not that easy. To start with the questionaie which I can't jump through the handles. : ((
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                                                                                                                                                      • Paul W 383502
                                                                                                                                                        Wow!!!
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                                                                                                                                                        • mike B 1066235
                                                                                                                                                          THANKS GOOD FOR YOU
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                                                                                                                                                          • Manel 1271300
                                                                                                                                                            Hi Anthony it's fantastic. You must be a real father who adopt those kids and give them a warm comfortable home and 2 caring parents! Good Luck with your family!
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                                                                                                                                                            • Holly Cat
                                                                                                                                                              That's great! Thanks for sharing.
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                                                                                                                                                              • Rosemary E 383382
                                                                                                                                                                Friends of ours have fostered a few children over the years. All of them have gone back to their parent/s as circumstances changed. One the Mother had been in an accident, twins went to their parents who moved interstate and made a fresh start. They have kept in touch.
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                                                                                                                                                                • Sarah 1325723
                                                                                                                                                                  Cool
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