Would be better to be loved not hated but you have to make do with what you have at lest you can try life is like ride ing a bike you have to keep going you never know how you mite pass on the next corner

no its not a false goal its all about mind set

May god bless you Inez C and answer you and every good person’s prayers!

IT'S WHAT YOU MAKE IT. ZERO IN ON THE CORE OF THE PROBLEM, AND CORRECT IT.

Happiness to me is the appreciation of life itself

Happiness is something we all want to feel- warmth contented pleasure yes happiness exists but you have to find it

Sorry i disagree. I suffer chronic back and nerve pain. It racks my body. However, the return of a lost pet, reunions of friends and loved ones. Being safe from covid though isolated. Love of friends and hope for a better life for humanity makes me happy. When i wear or receive a smile. Or i can laugh at myself or at a joke it makes me happy.

Agree that contentment is easier to achieve, however true happiness can also be achieved if you and your partner are on the same wavelength.And of course the same result is achieved.

No not at all. Why should it be false that's like saying there is no happiness or it's impossible to be truely happy and that's just nonsense. You can find happiness even in the deepest darkest saddest of situations.

Its better to be happy than sad no matter what life dishes you out, your only here for a short time so be happy your alive.

I\m not really a believer but there's a passage in the Bible that says "happiness with contentment is great gain."

If you are not expect too much in any situation you will be happy more often.

Certainly not happiness is what you make, be grateful

“Don’t worry, be happy” - the very first English sentence I learned from the song. I like it. Still do. Though...I do worry a lot...and I am happy. Not all the time of course. Happiness itself cannot be a goal, nor false, nor true, I my opinion. It is not an overused word either. How can be a word overused?!

I think happiness IS - basically getting what you always wanted, knowing very well it was realistically possible all along! The day we realise something is not possible for real, is the day we set course for what is achievable instead! Thus making 'achieving happiness' always a realistic goal. Pure and Simple? ;-)

to be happy you should be healthy?

Happiness sure maybe over used but everybody has a right to happiness - I'm not happy since the day my mother died. I had a horse called nippy when I went to see my brother he made me the happiest person in the world because he wasn't a horse he was my best friend even animals can make people the happiest people in the world e.g a cat, a golden retriever even a horse. Happiness comes in many different ways it all depends on how a person wants to explore the way they want to be happy. WE ALL HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO BE HAPPY MEMBERS OF THE GROUP

I don't know how to reply, because everyone is feeling low and walking around with long faces,

All that we are is a result of what we have thought....buddha

Be your self do good and that is my happiness. With that karma go to bad peoples that do bad.

Good idea. Level 0f expectation is critical

Whatever you want to call it; happiness, joy, contentment - it is what you make of it that counts.......

Happiness is an emotion whereas contentment is a state of being.

I disagree contentment makes ME happy

Well Margarret this is a good topic and I do not necessarily agree with some comments but that is what brainstorming is all about. I do agree with happiness. I feel that happiness can come in many forms. Just waking up in the morning an you are alive is enough. Start the day with a positive saying and continue throughout the day. I am happy when I see my children and granddaughter and also my sisters. I have been blessed with a wonderful hubby and kids I know. Sometimes if I am having a down time, which is very infrequent, I go on to good news stories on some site and there are always so many people that are worse off than you. So in short I do believe in happiness and I do try and give my happiness back to a lot of people that I meet. Edited 17-Jan-21 10:19am

I prefer the word "joy", partly because the word happiness is used to cover feelings I don't think of as "joyful". I think a great goal in life would be to be filled with joy. One very important thing to do if you want to be dancing with joy is to practise self care ( such as eating whole foods, sleeping well and exercising, etc). Three other things that can help us be full of joy are (1) loving others, (2) seeking justice in our communities, and (3) being humble, by which I mean putting others ahead of you. Wouldn't the world be a great (and joyful) place if we could all have those three things as major priorities.

YOU MAKE YOUR OWN HAPPINESS

Happiness is a Million dollars Tax Free!!!!!

Happiness is different for every one. it can be falso for some one like me I suppose. but it can exist for some one else. So how much happiness really exists? it is impossible to measure that so in a way it is False.

Happiness is a bonus in life and we should take it as much as we can.

A false goal? That entirely depends on personal interpretation.

So agree

happy is good and very attainable as far as see

After watching some of the Soap operas you would think that life is just one disaster after the other, no one seems to be happy and if they have a happy marriage something nasty will happen to end it, Coronation Street and Eastenders are full of things to ruin peoples lives, I often wonder with the young ones that watch these shows if they expect marriage break ups etc to be part of normal life. It would be really lovely to have happiness or contentment. I have always tried to look on the bright side of life but sometimes it is really hard.

I have never seen happiness as a goal. Surely you were not always unhappy ?

Happiness is a warm gun ... yes it is, yes it is....

It is good to feel happy

Happiness is what you make it

Happiness is not a false goal at all,happiness is a term used for what and whoever makes you happy,eg: I feel great happiness and joy whenever I spend time with my children.

I like it when i'm happy...

Dang...would you rather set misery as a goal and settle for “Meh” . Some people do this, I have a real curmudgeon for a buddy. His philosophy is every silver lining comes with a dirty black cloud. He reminds me of how lucky I am. My tenet is avoid roasted cabbage, never eat ear wax and Always look on the bright side of things. Happiness is a journey....lol

Totally agree. I think people have such high expectations perhaps bought about by social media, TV shows and movies etc. The real world is totally different. I guess the ideal would be to get your heads out of the phones etc. and go out and play sport, interact with others, look at nature, go for walks whatever but immerse yourself in reality. You have good times and bad during your lifetime. Sometimes you just roll along and there is laughter and tears, pride, satisfaction, fear etc. Happiness is not a state it is a time when things are good. Try to live a good life respecting yourself, family and friends and others. Try to be productive and if you have children love and care for them and teach them to respect themselves and others. Yes life throws up lemons sometimes but other times it is fun.Edited 13-Jan-21 10:23am

Agreed

what ever makes you happy

verbal laziness that engenders misuse , don't you just LOVE making 'happiness' into a worthwhile goal

Correct, I agree. You can aspire to acheiving happiness but cannot set it as a goal - if you do there is a very good chance you will be disappointed! It is, as others have said all in the mind.

i agree

Totally agree.

I believe in the fact that happiness is not a goal it is a destination. Goals are what you may just kick around and not what you embrace.

Agree with the concept on Contentment, but disagree with the statement that Happiness is a false goal. "HAPPINESS IS SOMETHING THAT COMES FROM WITHIN!" Of course this principle is based on Contentment, but at the same time that doesn't mean that you cannot save or strive for things that you would like in life without being unrealistic about it.

Happiness is false goal ...... No happiness is a warm gun

It depends on what makes you happy. There is the delirious happiness when we fall madly in love; the happiness we feel when we are complimented, praised or feel we have achieved something really worthwhile or there is the happiness we feel when we look with pride at our family together and all enjoying each other's company. For some people however happiness is elusive because it depends on satisfying their own selfishness and so they are rarely satisfied because we rarely get everything we want. For most of us, happiness comes from being proud with what we have achieved, no matter how small, the surprise expressions of appreciation and love from others, being able to make someone else happier, again no matter how small that might be. Above all, happiness does not come if we constantly search for it, because we will never truly find it completely and we are therefore never satisfied. It is something that happens when we subconsciously live our lives making as many other people as happy as possible.Edited 13-Jan-21 07:56am

Life is what you make it and how you personally react to different situations and how you interpret the word. I am happy to be alive, to see my children and grandchildren. I would be ecstatic if I won the Lotto that is another form of happy.

Well I'm pretty happy when I'm content, and I'm pretty content when I'm happy. Aim for the feeling not the word, words are man made, feelings are results of thoughts and attitudes

Happiness is having your friends and family around and your health and safety .Contentment is being satisfied with your life .

no it come from many different places like seeing your children and grand children or just good health friends and family

The number one aspiration is good health.

I am being selfish and I will blame it on my age (not seeing the big picture and not making an attempt to be objective - but being subjective - its all about me - SMILE). I am happy - because I have been retired for 22 years and counting. Also, I don't have too look for part-time employment. Still - I think - "contentment" is the better word to use in this discussion (staying within your written description of happiness and contentment) - then using the word - "happiness"!Edited 13-Jan-21 09:00am

Life is made up of sadness as well as happiness but I guess one can wish that they have more happy days than sad.

Happiness is more of a wish. Wish for good things for yourself and the people you care about. Be optimistic but unfortunately happiness is not easy to get for some people.

Life is what you make of it.