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Silver foxes or just old ladies
Cynthia D 1209850Jan 18, 24
I am 47 years old and have been dyeing my hair for years, as I didn t think I was old enough to age gracefully. Now I am wondering if I should let the grey show on top or not my hair is long and the grey is not all through I don t want to look like an old lady, but I don t feel like a silver fox
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  • Lorisue
    Do what makes YOU feel good
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    • Lee b 979050
      Cynthia my dear if you feel good with a darker shade of white just do it. Do it. Don't worry be happy
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      • allin
        the only important thing is be yourself, if that self is grey headed, so be it, you are what you are, just be happy about it,,,,
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        • nancy b 1002224
          Love seeing people being their authentic selves and just owning it!!!!
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          • Cathy 1442359
            You have earned the right to do anything that you feel comfortable with, and that does not hurt others
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            • Edith v
              You are young enough to look stunning .If I looked as good as you I would e happy being a silver fox
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              • Mary M 329762
                I see young adults that dye grey
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                • JANET R 328390
                  I will never dye my hair. What is wrong with going grey?. I have absolutely no problem with it and if other people do - that is THEIR problem. It is not what people look like on the outside that is important to me .................
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                  • lulu
                    no comment
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                    • Mariaj
                      I used to put henna on my hair as a teenager and I've used those washin-washout hair colours a few times but haven't done any for many years now. I'm not sure what I'd do if I went grey, I'm really lucky I suppose I'm 57
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                      • Souljah SLiM
                        Grey is a sign of wisdom
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                        • JANET R 328390
                          WELL SAID.
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                        • Edith v
                          No it isn't it's a sign of honesty .I have met some dumb old er people
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                        • Robert F 1161011Edith v
                          some dishonest older people too. It's a sign of experience.
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                      • alison 1408255
                        just mature naturally
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                        • Paula J 395266
                          My hair started to go grey when I was about 50 but it was only at the front. I didn't want to be one of those women with grey roots so got streaks but not all the way to the roots. It was great for years but gradually the grey spread and one day I had a good look at it and decided the grey wasn't too bad. I was surprised when I next visited the hairdresser and she said she felt I no longer needed streaks because the grey looked fine. I thought "ok" and learnt to live with it until I was out one day and a lady walked up to me and asked if my hair was natural. "Curley" I asked, "no" she said "the colour". Yes, naturally grey I told her but she went on to tell me the thought the colour was beautiful and would love her hair to be the same platinum colour. I guess it is more platinum than steel grey, but hey, someone liked it enough to want the same colour so it can't be too aging.
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                          • stephen m 596524
                            let the natural come through. It's the skin which ages you.
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                            • AuntyMandaBoo
                              What ever makes you happy..!!
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                              • Joy G
                                My sister was 61 when she went to the hairdresser to have her hair dyed for the first time. It was grey and the hairdresser told her "why do you want to dye your hair?. I have many people coming into my salon wanting their hair dyed your colour grey". She now likes it. Sadly mine is white...very white hair. I wish it was grey. People think I'm years older than what I am. My sisters hair colour is lovely I wish I had it.
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                                • debra j 18701
                                  the last time i colored mine was yrs ago ,, and i do not see any gray
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                                  • Janet H 854956
                                    Don’t call it GREY! I refer to mine as VINTAGE BLONDE. Another 28 years and I will change it to ANTIQUE BLONDE! 😁😁
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                                    • JANET R 328390
                                      LOVE IT.
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                                  • Cat 1435550
                                    Colouring mine till im 100
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                                    • Ann M 73686
                                      COVID was great cause it meant you didn’t have a hairdresser open. Grey is lovely. You are only an old lady if you feel like one. Wear it proudly!!
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                                      • Sindhu 1439439
                                        Gorgeous Gray
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                                        • Mykela 1452433
                                          I think you look amazing and the hair looks awesome!
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                                          • LA
                                            Get some free opinions and use the free app that you can try on hair Styles . My bald husbmd found it fun! 😂😂😂
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                                            • Kamila P
                                              I have seen on social media it's very popular show grey. And I have to say i love it. Showing your grey hair it's gracefully aging ;-)
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                                              • Jania S
                                                NATURAL is always beautiful and of so much cheaper. I rarely coloured by hair, did occasionally have tips to blend the white streak down the right side with the brunette, then my hairdresser moved, and I didn't trust anyone else, so she gave me some reverse tips, a combination of dark and light, and we let the hair grown out, I ended up naturally salt and pepper, That was 3 decades ago, amazing how much money I saved. I am still salt and pepper but instead of white, light brown and brown. I am white and light brunette. And couldn't be happier. Has nothing to do with age, more to do with money. WHAT A WASTE of so much money. for no real reason. [for me]
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                                                • Rosemary E 383382
                                                  I had an Aunty who had blonde hair with a natural narrow section of auburn hair which started at her forehead and went all the way down to the ends.I remember it being that colour in the early 1950s. It was still those colours when she died in 1982 as a result of a brain tumour
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                                                  • Rebecca 1453316
                                                    Grey hair suity your face and complexion. I say let the grey shine through!
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                                                    • Pat C 618241
                                                      I've seen so many women whose hair has been thinned by all the dyeing. It has only taken me 70 odd years to just let it all be natural. My hairdresser tells me that she could never dye my hair the colours I now have been given by nature! Think of all the hassle I no longer have about the colour!
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                                                      • Robin N 1116853
                                                        You look great 👍🏽. I say show those grey hair 👩‍🦳
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                                                        • Angie
                                                          Let the silver shine through Cynthia. Take a break from all the toxic chemicals and embrace the silver vixen within! The ironic thing is, girls these days are currently paying a small fortune in salons to get the 'grey look!!!' lol 🩶
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                                                          • Paul J 94868
                                                            Be yourself and go with what makes you happy...
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                                                            • IdentifyAs
                                                              I hate grey hair on me. I know I am getting older. I'm still going to colour my hair.
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                                                              • Connie 1427431
                                                                You still end up having to dye it as the gray turns brassy and yellow looking. I have to do lowlights and highlights to get rid of my yellowness!
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                                                                • Gunter L
                                                                  Everything I have ever learnt about sex I have learnt from older ladies. 47 is not "old" by any means. Cynthia, you may not feel like a silver fox, but you sure look like one, or should I say "cougar"?
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                                                                  • Louise M 447666
                                                                    Do what ever makes you feel good
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                                                                    • Peter M 273033
                                                                      I always thought a Silver Fox referred to a good-looking older man. I have never heard it used about a woman before. We live and learn.
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                                                                      • BLACK LIVES MATTER
                                                                        I am seventy-eight years old. When I was growing up - the phrase 'silver fox' referred to a good-looking older man.
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                                                                      • MoposBLACK LIVES MATTER
                                                                        Right again Walter....:)
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                                                                    • Jennifer H 396811
                                                                      You can always use the same colour grey as your natural hair and have foils put through to make it even and highlighted If it makes you happy and the colour suits you there is nothing wrong and you are certainly not "old enough" to stop at 47. Besides, silvery blonde and grey is all "trendy" now anyway.
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                                                                      • Colin L 88398
                                                                        Age disgracefully and play up like a second hand lawnmower that has never been serviced. You'll have much more fun that way.
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                                                                        • Stefanie Z
                                                                          Oh definitely grow it naturally & let those silver strands show. I streaked my hair for years & now I don't- a mane of silver beauty
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                                                                          • Maria B 89860
                                                                            I just don't think about it, just go with the flow and let the "snow" settle where it wants.
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                                                                            • Roslyn A
                                                                              I'm 66 and still not getting any grey hair - I wouldn't mind grey if it suited me. And that's what its all about - what do you want?
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                                                                              • Chris N 853314
                                                                                Good attitude
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                                                                            • Susan H 801435
                                                                              I died my hair for over 20 years, and then discovered my "natural color" as a senior was a beautiful silver-white hue - and never colored my hair again!
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                                                                              • Christine M 323842
                                                                                Whatever…
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                                                                                • Gary P 1194496
                                                                                  Definitely silver foxes!!
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                                                                                  • Wayne D 1172653
                                                                                    Who cares. As long as you are happy
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                                                                                    • Anne P 1007387
                                                                                      I am 56 & going grey. I'm blonde & have been having foils to cover the grey but am starting to think it looks horrible & thinking about letting it grow out & just be grey
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                                                                                      • Larry S 382961
                                                                                        As a male it doesn’t worry me.it’s your hair. One of my aunts used to change her colour all the time
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                                                                                        • Pauline T 68358
                                                                                          I am 87, and white hair, and I don't care!
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                                                                                          • Sonya F 68771
                                                                                            I am 60 now just going natural cant be bothered any more
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                                                                                            • Ernie 67
                                                                                              I like to think I've done like my mother who in my opinion aged gracefully without changing her hair colour unlike my older sister who I'm certain gets her colour from a box
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                                                                                              • Jenny L 591463
                                                                                                Well it is entirely up to you in what you do with your hair. I am going grey gracefully and it's worse in some lights but it hasn't stopped me from growing my hair to give to the wig makers for cancer patients. They accept grey hair as I guess they can dye it. It is just a little thing or way to give back as money is tight these days. My hair is driving me a little nuts but it does need to be at a certain length and I want it to be longer than the minimum length so I will just have to put up with it until I get my hubby to cut it for me. Embrace what you have and just be grateful you have hair.
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                                                                                                • Victoria 315341
                                                                                                  I'm 67 today, and have been grey since around 50, I used to dye my hair but its not good for those who have psoriasis. There are some lovely more natural dyes on the market. Experiment with some rinse in rinse out, if you don't like them, its easy to change. Love your self for who you are, have a great day.🙂
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                                                                                                  • Sonya F 68771
                                                                                                    How do you control your psoriasis
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                                                                                                  • Victoria 315341Sonya F 68771
                                                                                                    Hi Sonya, I am on Imuran, am immunosuppressant, plus the usual creams, tar etc, prednisone. Keep well..
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                                                                                                • Paul B 522937
                                                                                                  Just enjoy life and do what makes you happy. You will be a long time dead
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                                                                                                  • doris t 277529
                                                                                                    vixen is the female of the fox species so we should be silver vixens
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                                                                                                    • Shawn B 1061185
                                                                                                      In my opinion, the way you wear your hair is completely a personal thing. I may be a little old, but I figure that women are so much luckier than men when it comes to big changes. The advantage to hair styles and colours is that you can change them at will and most people will either think you're really brave, or really crazy. WHO CARES! If it feels good do it! Don't spend another second thinking about what others will think. You're the one that needs to be happy and ignore the nay-sayers.
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                                                                                                      • Keryn S
                                                                                                        I've been both. I stopped dyeing my hair for a few years, but now have started dyeing it again. I think both can look good, but saying that, I am starting to want my silver grey hair again. It's a woman's right to change her mind. 🙃
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                                                                                                        • Ricardo J
                                                                                                          Grey hair sometimes shows how hard you have worked throughout your life. Many people with grey hair have achieved many accomplishments.
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                                                                                                          • Vincent V 694946
                                                                                                            I just keep dying
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                                                                                                            • Sometimes Turkey
                                                                                                              Your choice. I prefer less chemicals. The "natural" look is always IN.😉
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                                                                                                              • Penny 1334459
                                                                                                                Silver
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                                                                                                                • pam rae
                                                                                                                  TY PAMELA
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                                                                                                                  • Yuk wai 1447673
                                                                                                                    It’s your choice whether to show your natural grey or keep dyeing your hair. Take your time, maybe let a bit of grey show to test it out, and decide based on what feels right for you.
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                                                                                                                    • Sharon R Clovis CA
                                                                                                                      I have always thought grey or silver hair was very attractive, both on men and women, so I think it would look lovely on women of any age. However, if you don't feel comfortable as a "silver fox" then keep dyeing it to make you feel comfortable with your looks.
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                                                                                                                      • Bugalugs
                                                                                                                        Let it grow out! You may find you look absolutely fantastic! In my family the males all went grey/white/silver by the time they were 30, my mother and sisters did not start to go grey until she was in her late 60s. None of them ever used any dyes. My dad's sister turned from dark brown to the most beautiful shiny White and did so overnight at the age of 18 and looked stunning all her life, so can you!
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                                                                                                                        • Jewel H-Iowa (USA)
                                                                                                                          I am 68 almost 69 next month I color my hair all the time and professionally done free, my oldest Daughter owns her own salon and she takes care of her Mommy
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                                                                                                                          • gordy
                                                                                                                            It is just a colour and your face will probably beam with youth.
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                                                                                                                            • Val 1394045
                                                                                                                              I will not go Grey as long as I can get a color or highlights
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                                                                                                                              • Paul W 383502
                                                                                                                                Old ladies, I'm married to one.
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                                                                                                                                • MoB
                                                                                                                                  Do what you feel is right for you. I have never dyed my hair and at 76 years of age I still have my red hair, not as red now as it was when I was young but nevertheless I don't have any gray hair yet.
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                                                                                                                                  • Kristina L 134251
                                                                                                                                    47 is too young to stop dyeing your hair and let it go get if you’ve always liked your hair colour when dyed. People will think you’re much older than what you are. The older women become, the more invisible they become.
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                                                                                                                                    • Andrew C 287196
                                                                                                                                      "Silver fox" is for men. "Silver vixen" is for women. 🙂 As for dying hair, I've always seen it as a complete waste of money (as well as potentially damaging and dangerous with all the chemicals used) since hair just keeps growing, so you need to keep dying it ... but it is your money and your own comfort / self-esteem, so it's up to you.
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                                                                                                                                      • Andrew T 123623
                                                                                                                                        Just go grey disgracefully and have fun. Don't conform to others
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                                                                                                                                        • Pennye R
                                                                                                                                          Do what feels right to you.
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                                                                                                                                          • Laurel 1400238
                                                                                                                                            Silver fox
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                                                                                                                                            • Kathy 1270954
                                                                                                                                              I had a 2" strip of white hair (I seemed to have just skipped gray) grow on the left side of my head. It was in the front. People said they couldn't see anything as I am a natural blond. If anything was said I would tell people it's my tribute to Joe Perry!
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                                                                                                                                              • Roy R 1009866
                                                                                                                                                47 does seem to be a little young to be a silver fox. If this is picture of you, above, you are a very attractive woman and if you continue to dye your hair you could pass for much younger. The time will come when you will be a silver fox, don't rush.
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                                                                                                                                                • Beverly I
                                                                                                                                                  As the Lord says, grey hair is the crown of Glory. May I suggest that you cut your hair into the same shape. As that ladies in your write up. .I think that style will suit most ladies. Keep your grey hair.
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                                                                                                                                                  • Norman PSBHRJ
                                                                                                                                                    Lots of people are to fix on their looks. Be natural and show it off.
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                                                                                                                                                    • Alan P 162916
                                                                                                                                                      Why be ashamed of growing old.
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                                                                                                                                                      • Chrissy 1453340
                                                                                                                                                        Well I think it depends on the woman and how she takes care of herself. The women that keep up with their makeup and hair and style are silver foxes and the ones that don't are old ladies!
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                                                                                                                                                        • aimee b 858382
                                                                                                                                                          Am 57, have not "embraced the gray" of an old lady, doubt I will in near future.
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                                                                                                                                                          • Patricia P 1104241
                                                                                                                                                            Silver fox is so sexy with the correct hair style go for it
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                                                                                                                                                            • Morenita
                                                                                                                                                              I don’t have grey hair yet and I just turned 46. But best believe me I’ll be coloring my hair and have it black a lil longer if the greys start coming in.
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                                                                                                                                                              • kristian s 513441
                                                                                                                                                                I have few greys in my hair, but my hair is not fully grey yet in which I still have my brown hair.
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                                                                                                                                                                • Daniel A 2
                                                                                                                                                                  Save money
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                                                                                                                                                                  • Mary G 409440
                                                                                                                                                                    I gave up colouring my hair about a year ago at 76. The grey won the battle. At firsr it made me feel older but now I am used to it, Like many of the comments made, whatever you are comfortable with is fine - your choice.
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                                                                                                                                                                    • SANDRA G 394859
                                                                                                                                                                      JUST HAVE HIGHLIGHTS
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                                                                                                                                                                      • Dee Emmay
                                                                                                                                                                        She’s definitely not an “old lady”. A much nicer term is “senior”. I think natural is better, but do whatever you want & don’t worry what people think.
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                                                                                                                                                                        • writerrochelle
                                                                                                                                                                          Whatever makes you feel more comfortable. Look at My Hair! Of course, I'm 76, and dyed my hair for awhile, but it's more trouble than it's worth to me, so I've been Natural for many years now! I'm comfortable with myself. Be comfortable with yourself, Cynthia D, and be yourself. ;-D
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                                                                                                                                                                          • Kathy A 494332
                                                                                                                                                                            Personal choice but I prefer coloured hair. Less ageing.
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                                                                                                                                                                            • Carolyn K 714554
                                                                                                                                                                              I think that it is your choice and others shouldn't make that choice for you. I am 76 and have had my hair natural and coloured. It's not really nice natural so I prefer colour. (It can lift your confidence).
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                                                                                                                                                                              • JANN R
                                                                                                                                                                                I am 73 now and dont colour my hair any more but I always put tips in my hair I have only started going grey in the last 2 years but I might put some blonde tips in it because its not all grey
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                                                                                                                                                                                • Stu J
                                                                                                                                                                                  My wife had grey hair from an early age and so it was easy to spot in the supermarket as very few woman had grey hair - not the story now though as more and more woman have grey hair and so she is much harder to find.
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                                                                                                                                                                                  • Raelz
                                                                                                                                                                                    Since covid I haven' bothered going back to the hairdresser (only for a cut), better things to spend my money on! Let the grey go if you want to girl!
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                                                                                                                                                                                    • Carolina Z
                                                                                                                                                                                      Do whatever makes you happy......forget the rest
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                                                                                                                                                                                      • Arline 1398629
                                                                                                                                                                                        Since Covid, I let me grey hair grow in because I was indoors most of the time. On a daily basis, I am grey. When I go out somewhere, I use Root Spray light brown and give my hair streaks. These highlights do (I feel) make me look a bit younger than all grey. I get lots of compliments. No more dying and my hair is very healthy now, even less hair loss. I am 72 years young.
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                                                                                                                                                                                        • Sheree T
                                                                                                                                                                                          Do what makes you feel comfortable, it's your life and it really doesn't matter what other people think.
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                                                                                                                                                                                          • Kathy 1270954
                                                                                                                                                                                            I had a friend, I hadn't seen her in months. The last time I saw her she was a brunette. Then when next we met she had let her hair grow in gray. I just felt it aged her youthful face. But she's on a pension now and I know she is watching her money.
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                                                                                                                                                                                            • Raven55
                                                                                                                                                                                              It's a personal preference.
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                                                                                                                                                                                              • Claude H
                                                                                                                                                                                                Don't be vain. Go natural. My 4 girls all dyed their hair with none wanting to be the first to look like their ancestors. Go with the flow.
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