You get rid of people, and you up your game. I got treated like crap because I was poor, but I moved forward. Life gives you shit but you climb that shit! Always climb! Always climb the shit life gives you! If no one believes in you believe in yourself, you are here, you are worth it, remember that! You are posting, you are worthy :)

I just found this. I am so sorry that you are going through all of this. Did you try reporting it to the police?

Keep your head up HIGH, because the bullying does not last forever and although it is painful at the time, it does make you a stronger person in the end. The bully is actually the loser and you are the winner...Why do I say that? There are many reasons why a person bullies someone, too many to mention here but here are some. NORMALITY, Some children live in a home where there is constant arguing, yelling or even domestic violence...Resulting in the child thinking it's normal behaviour. CHILD ABUSE Sometimes a child is being sexually, physically or mentally abused by someone and no one is doing anything to protect them; resulting in that child taking his/her anger out on other people by bullying them. PEER PRESSURE Every child wants to be a part of the "In Crowd" and be accepted by them, so they do what the "In Crowd" children tell them to do. JEALOUSY Some children go without a lot of things due to parents being poor, resulting in some of these children becoming jealous of what others have. SEXUAL ORIENTATION...This is a hard time for all children as they are discovering who they are. Someone might be gay, lesbian or bi-sexual and do not want other children to find out so they hide their own sexuality by bullying others who are gay, lesbian or bi-sexual. There are many other causes of bullying. Once I reached Grade 7 ( Form 1 as it was called then ); I began being bullied at school both physically and verbally, which affected me for most of my life. I began wagging school and as a result my education level only reached that grade, meaning the bullying affected my education; but I went on to educate myself. Eventually, one day I decided, why let those bullies win by destroying my life....The experience from the bullying made me a better and stronger person....I am now a counselor for bullied people and an advocate against bullying, domestic violence, child abuse etc. I discovered the causes of all of these problems and there are MANY causes which the "Professionals" fail to recognise and until they recognise ALL the causes they cannot eradicate the problem. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP HIGH, and consider yourself to be the BETTER person, because the fact that you are the target of bullies indicates that YOU have a better life than them and that YOU are a better person than them.

I am sorry to hear about your situation Marry > You must believe within yourself that you can block them out, walk away, ring someone to talk to, I am going to tell you something that it might work for you, because it worked for me all the times. I was in boarding school, there were 15 of us new entrants and i was the youngest,13 yrs old. The school had the buddy system, the students that were their longer were buddied up with new ones My senior buddy, it was his last year at school, he had total control of me, not even the teachers or the head master, or other seniors can help me, I was humiliated, took away my money from my family, my best clothing, washed his feet every night. Three months later I was broken, i escaped, I was caught and brought back, my buddy beat the sh.... out of me, I thought i had to do something,or get beaten up again, and again, One morning at the assembly. Senior buddies has to report what sort of person, and quality that their junior buddy has, again I was humiliated. I was made to kneel infront of him looking right at his crotch area, before he said any thing else, i just crabbed his nuts, pulled them and twisted them so hard, when he fell to the floor , I let go and kicked him on the guts so hard that i broke one of his rib bone. From there the school changed their system for the safety of everyone. So the bottom line Marry, you might have to resort to phisical action to give you your piece of mind

I truly feel sad for children who are bullied. I was teased because I am very tall. It took me awhile to see that bullies are just pathetic people who have their own problems and want to make everyone else miserable like they are. I coped by trying to be the best at everything. I was best in my art class. My long legs were great for basketball and track and I could smack that ball over everyone's head for a home run when playing softball. When they found they couldn't make me feel bad, they left me alone. I have always told my kids "never let them see you cry."

I suppose a person like me a male in my early 60s we were told to tough it out, so that is why it probably didn’t effect me that much, however today with all the social media cowards we have out there who all of a sudden made themselves the Moral Police & slam someone who makes a post “ yes I did by a gay time” ice cream and then were slammed by a trail of abuse by many, whilst instead of having a proper debate, this is why we have issues today. Mind you that was just a tiny example , people who bully people especially on twitter just because they don’t like someone’s opinion are the real Cowards.

John, If it were only that simple

The bullies are often the poeople in a position of power; like teachers. Bullies can sense who they can get away with bullying and who they can’t. You can’t change their behaviour, they will always exist. You need to find your own voice against these sort of people or you will keep being bullied in life,

I remember at school the teachers were quite clear about the anti-bullying policy at the school. They'd be quite happy to be bullying the bullies to make them stop bullying. This seemed to work quite well! The bullies were quite willing to listen and pay attention to this message from the teachers, and didn't get up to their bullying mischiefs!

Bullies are often people who lack empathy with others and have major problems with self esteem and respect for others .... bullies are little people with little minds .... raise above these cruel people grow your mind, body and soul and look at the beautiful things that are around you don’t dwell on these awful people ... self love ??

Bullying is not acceptable in any form.

I had trouble with this all throughout school. Even changed schools, my third high school I managed to finally make some friends but that was pretty much the first time. I just adjusted and got used to hanging out with myself, but there were many times I wished I had even 1 friend. In primary school it got so bad I tried to run away a few times. I got into a lot of trouble for doing so but that was my way of dealing with it as teachers were not there to support or stop it from happening.

Hey Mary M, seems like we've all been bully'd by someone sometime. We are social beings and need to interact both intimately AND distantly with a wide range of people to become, develop and to sustain our individuality. Is it easy, NO. You do understand that the only individual that you can change is you, and you've learned that others will mostly respond to you in the ways that you allow yourself to be treated. and you determine how you see yourself. This from an old fart who currently tolerates being bullied and manipulated by his 6 year old guide dog predominantly because he's allowed her to get away with it

I dont mean to seem cruel, but some grammar lessons would help your confidence a lot. confidence and self esteem tends to deflect bullies . good luck

best solution. go learn some marshal arts, and put them to use, mind and body control, show what you know and they will think a bit differently

Hi Mary, I know it can be hard to not cry especially if you are being abused and bullied in public. I have anxiety as well and can be quite sensitive to such things. If you feel like you are going to cry you need to try and quickly think of something else. Something nice and happy to distract yourself. Just today at work I got yelled at by my boss in front of the customers and pretty much get yelled at every day. Most days I can take it but today I had some tears. I just thought of something happy to stop them and brush it off. My customers are super nice to me at least :)

May I ask how old are you Mary (a lady shouldn't be asked about her age) but from your narrative, it seems that your bullying wounds still fresh otherwise age would have healed them (even partially) try to embrace the Karma concept as it would give you solace. I wish you find a path that turns your tears into smiles

Unfortunately there is a lot of bulling occurring now but it was also present in the past?

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Bullying was a problem during my life. I did not gave any friends that were able to come to my place after school. I always had jobs to do an d then do homework. So I did not encourage friends to be a part of my life. Because of this I was bullied and it was really hard to cope with. It was not possible to tell anyone how I felt an d let them know I would love to have friends, but was just too scared.

Get real

So sad??

I was bullied all my school life and it was horrible! :-( even at home I was ganged up on by my own sisters and brothers! NO GRAce, no whats going on, just bullying and taunting. :-( it almost lead me to suicide, only because of Gods grace and mercy, am I still here! :-)

Sorry to hear that, Mary. It's very hard to recover from bullying, I know. Bullies usually get away with it, at the most they might get suspended from school or get investigated at work. One day while I was out and about, I saw this boy who bullied me at school and I wanted to confront him. But my feet won't move and I was so angry with myself for fearing him still. Like you, I hope that these people get karma because no one deserves to be bullied or harassed at school or at work.

I wasn't a bully, but I wasn't bullied. I stood up for people and taught my daughter the same thing, however, she was told by the PRINCIPAL not to interfere, to get a teacher.. I couldn't;t believe it and thought. This is why bullying is rife in schools

I have had to stand up to bullies . They don't like it but it works

Sorry to hear that, I think that most bullies will back down if you answer back/fight back. I was incredibly timid/shy at school and got bullied a bit but it stopped when I grew to my adult height of 6'3" at 16

I never saw any of this

I can't abide a bully...Inside a bully is a coward...

It's obvious that bullying has had a detrimental effect on your education.

Bullying is a bit like Domestic Violence. Neither will ever be eliminated. There are those who chatter on and on about both but never come up with any suggestions as to how to eliminate them. They used to love to quote "Statistics" - particularly with regard to Domestic Violence! Today thay don't quote those statistics they just make balnaket claims. Those statistics show that 66% of all Domestic Violence is committed by men angainst women - INDEED AN APPALLING STATISTIC - but when you ask any of those Anti-Domestic Violence Activists this very simple question: "Who is committing the other 34% of Domestic Violence?" They all suddenly go silent and then change the subject. Work it out for yourselves. Domstic Violence is only committed by Human Beings, Roughly 50% are Men, 50% are Women. It is the same with bullying that is indulged in by both boys and girls. Until both issues are addressed and include both genders nothing will change.

I was bullied at school by an older boy until I gave him a fizzog full of satchel and he ran off with a blood nose. After that it was heaps of threats from a distance and nothing else. Everyone has their way of dealing with it but just tell yourself “ It made me stronger and a better person”

I was bullied my entire high school life which was why I dropped out at the age of 15 because I couldn't take it any longer.I never told my mum or my dad I hid it from them for many years until I was in my late 30's then I told my mother and she was unbelievably shocked.I turned out to be a stronger person from my years of bullying and vowed karma would come her way one day and it did!

I was bullied and sexually assaulted - this latter from the age of 9 until 14 - could do noting about it at the time because the man responsible was a "Good Christian, A Pillar of Society, a Decorated War Hero (Military Medal or somesuch) and being a child, though my Mum and Da would have believed me - Dad would have gone down and killed the bastard if he had known - but no-one else. The bullying went on and the worst offenders were those who called themsleves "Christians". I just had to get over it, and made my way, fairly well, in life. There will always be bullies and not matter what laws are brought in etc. they will never be stamped out.

Let's hope that the bullies who are giving you a bad time for all of your schooling do get the karma back. I think that they do it as they are maybe bullied themselves but it doesn't give them the right to do it to others whom are smaller or who cannot stand up for themselves.

All the long winded book writers are here today!!

We all get bullied at sometime in our life I was called a wog but born in Australia with German parents that spoke english life sometimes is not fair

I can remember when my family came to Australia as refugees after World War 11,I went to school obviously couldn’t speak the language properly subjected to constant bullying,my lunch was different to others so it was trashed but in the end I persevered which included a few fights which turned things in my favour but school wasn’t enjoyable I became a bit of a rebel against teachers & authority,constantly receiving the strap but it hardened my resolve not to cower before anyone,fight for your rights never give in to offensive bullying stay strong

I know how you feel because I have experienced it in the workforce from students & teachers alike, some in a very subtle way & some in very sharp pointed ways. This happened in Australia only , not in other countries where I have been. The experience led me to finally quit my job before I planned to. Just hang in there & Trust in Jesus Christ who will surely help you navigate your way through it all. I managed several years because of my faith in Him

Yes life can be hard. I like to work hard I not get much pay wish I had better job I like to lesson yo music to makes me fell better believe in your self have hope you are only human

Try more education so you can learn to respond in a way that is more helpful. Some people become targets just because they don't know how to explain or respond in a manner that shuts it down.

Sticks and stones will break my bones, but names will never hurt me....A clique rythym but so true remember this young ones..

Just be grateful that your not them, you wouldn't want to go through life causing pain and humiliating yourself. Know your worth, stand tall and be proud of who you are. Oh, and smile a lot even if you don't feel like it. Fake till you make it

never had a problem

I were bully when were I younger when I were in the 7th and 8th grade I were bully by a classmate. I had the same classes with her and she always called me out of my name sometime the names that she were racism. One time we almost got into a physical altercation because of all the name calling she called me every time get in the classroom.

move schools kiddo! and if your parents won't help seek help from a professional.

Mary I am so very sorry that you have had to deal with the bullying and obviously with no support from anyone. I do believe in karma and I hope that these people who have done this to you receive it back ten fold. My granddaughter experienced the same while at school and it was very distressing we provided everything she needed to assist her and in the end she left school at 15 years old. She is now doing very well. I hope with all my heart you also will be able to move on. Perhaps some counseling may help as it is always good to be able to talk to someone.

I was bullied at school and at work. I stood up to the bully at school and made her cry. At work was more difficult. Unfortunately even though you report it one stops and another starts. Which is why I no longer wish to work. Recently my sister showed me a photo of a reunion and the girl that used to bully me brought up memories that I thought I had buried but it all came flooding back. Often bullies have issues at home which is why they become bullies themselves. I worked hard through out my life and had some really fun times. Sometimes we can make better memories for our future.

One, I am truly upset you have to deal with being bully - (unfortunately - I can relate - it was my legal guardians - my birth mother, biological father, and step-father - who were bullying me - before we physically clash). Two, if your school has counselors - converse with a counselor and find out how to initiate a formal complaint - be prepare - to - name individuals, etc. - with proof (start audio and video these incidents). Three, have a conservation with an attorney (most places - at your age - bullying is consider child abuse) - and because of your age - the consulation with a lawyer could be free!!Edited 10-Mar-21 13:44pm

Hello Mary M, Please don’t blame yourself, it’s not you darling..! People are cruel and nasty for lots of different reasons but it all comes from how they feel about themselves and then project it onto others as they don’t know how to handle it themselves..! You are strong Mary and they are weak, please remember this... I am here for you anytime if you need ok... Love and Blessings

Bullying is alive and well and has been for all my life. It might not be easy to see but it’s been there for many years whether it is an obvious remark or very well hidden it’s there and it very hard to ignore it. I remember many years ago I was told by an acquaintance that I needed to develop another skin and never allow anyone to penetrate it. That is so true. And it took me most of my life to actually take note of that advice. I now just ignore the bullying tactic and walk away because I can now do that.