What certain things are you referring to my dear. A fling with your best friend? A fling with someone you wanted to have a fling with? Went to the can and left the seat up and said it wasn’t him? Or maybe her? Took some cash out of your purse? Context please Either way dump the friend partner girl friend or other gender neutral entity and find someone that you can hang with, maybe a friend with benefits. Or Confront the entity Facebook shame them and get your revenge… merry Xmas ho ho ho Santa’s little helper

trust is hard to give and harder to keep, once broken - it up to you to decide no or maybe give them another chance(depending what was broken in regards to trust)

I had a best friend for over 20yrs till her marriage broke up and we found out the truth she was lying to everyone to her husband and to me.Her ex husband did not know my mother had pass away and lie to me saying her child was sick that day and could not come to the funeral. Her ex husband was very angry when I told him the news about my mother. I always say the truth will come out one day. If I see my ex friend today I will not have the time or day for her.

Once trust is broken I don’t believe it can be given back.

Well to be honest when I catch someone lying to me - I simply lose my trust in them. It depends on what the lying was about. If it was because they didn't want to hurt my feelings over something perhaps I could be forgiving. BUT once trust is broken - that is it as far as I am concerned. And BE CAREFUL - sometimes people can make up more lies to cover up the first one.

Repeated lying about the big things would certainly break my trust. If you are then untrusting of that person, that makes you naturally cautious, sensible and with a sufficient degree of self protection. If the opposite party feels you are bitter as a result, that is their problem not yours .

People always lie, no trust in anyone whatsoever.

I do not like nor do I trust people who lie. I'm not talking about small fabrications for example that someone tells to not hurt another's feelings like do these jeans suit me or does the Easter Bunny really bring Easter eggs BUT People that lie for cruel intentions or spite are just despicable low lives

once trust is gone doubt creeps in

Once you have been lied to, you never know when that person will lie to you again. That sort of trust is shattered and extremely hard to earn back.

A tiger cannot change its stripes. A person who lies more than once, will not change. My daughter is one of them.

A person only has to lie to me once and that's it. There is NO excuse for anyone to lie.

trust is most important once broken thats it. you cant trust them ever again.

You can catch a thief …but a liar will eventually catch themselves…

trust is very important in human relationships & once broken it is hard to rebuilt it

ask yourself why are ppl lying to you? Are they afraid they cannot talk to u.....they cannot communicate with you? sometimes lying to sumone can spare the other person pain. So its not always cut n dried... always tell the truth, no matter what you think the reaction will be from the other person. Deal with the fall out afterwards.

Friends, if you can't trust what they say, is it worth calling them friends. I had one who told a friend of hers where my husband worked. She was able to persuade him how much she had admired him from afar and at the end of that discussion he left me for her. Actually, it was the best thing she ever did, unwittingly on my behalf. I divorced him and shortly after she decided I was not a friend. We had known each other for over 20years.

Liars can never be trusted .If they lie more than once ,your trust IS broken .I would not even try to regain anything from that person .Walk away I don't think any DECENT person would make any judgement of you.You are NOT a bitter person & if you know anyone who is not understanding .I would find new friends join a new sport,job or take up Taoist Tai Chi exercise is gentle & members are great .GOOD LUCK

greg i agree with Glenys H completely,you will always be wondering.

once trust is gone it has gone.... and will never be quite the same level it was before no matter how hard the person tries.

If someone lies to me then they never win trust back again completely, there will always be that element

I think it makes you doubt yourself from then on.. and you feel a bit foolish.. especially if u let your guard down again..and get the same lies again. Every interaction you have with people forms different opinions of u.. so..if someone sees you as bitter..they can't be a close friend..otherwise they would know your circumstances.

I am a very trusting person, but if I find out that someone has lied to me I can't forgive and forget. I will talk to the person again, if I should get in to a conversation with them in a group, and I will be respectful, but, I will never seek that person out, or meet them alone. It will not make me bitter and twisted, it will just make me a little more wary for the future.

Well, it depends. You can get sucked back in by a narcissist. They will love bomb you. It is especially terrible when this person who keeps lying to you is a family member, a close one like a sibling. Stand strong..cut them off. No contact. See what they do with those bananas.

Without trust you can't really have a good relationship.

I trust all until they prove untrustworthy. Then THEY have to work hard to earn it back

Before losing trust in a person, one should try to find out if there is a reason for the lies. Perhaps they think you will be upset or have a bad reaction if they tell the truth. One needs to be direct and let the other person know you find it hard to believe what they are telling you, or that you would rather not see them if they can't be honest with you.

I tend to trust most people but it’s cost me over the yesrs

When trust is betrayed,it’s broken Your not a bitter person if you choose not to trust someone anymore

Yes it does. Very hard to gain it back. Maybe butter. Maybe smarter.

Yes it breaks trust.

Your not bitter, you have been hurt and that person or persons have broken that trust.

I AM A VERY TRUSTING PERSON UNTIL IT IS BROKEN THEN I JUST GIVE UP ON THE PERSON

No trust no nothing...

Trust is everything.

If they lie to me it takes a lot for me to trust them again.

If they lie to me and don’t trust them anymore, it will take a lot for me to trust them

Honesty and respect = trust

Trust is akin to respect. It has to be earned

Yes it does.

I do not accept being lied to, no matter how big or small the lie is.

All depends on what the lie is about. Hiding a present or something from you is quite acceptable but her telling you no she is not having an affair with the next door neighbour is a different story.

If they are lying you should not have to ask how to treat them. they are gone out of your life, you don't need that. There are many honest people out there go find some.

Yes, definitely breaks trust. I’d be very careful to second guess everything told me again by that person.

Without trust, which also includes respect, their is nothing but, bitter disappointment! Your self worth and dignity is crucial to your holistic well being, there for ask yourself, do you want/need people In your life that you cannot trust? Let them go, remember people are in your life for a reason, season or lifetime!

Dont trust anybody that lie

It is always difficult to regain trust. Especially when someone lies several times about something, there is something hidden. It is best to take what they say with doubt and do not act on it. Listen and say nothing but do be careful. If possible, get this person out of your life or at least try to distance yourself so you don't get caught up in the lie. People that lie often try to make others part of it.

Yes a lie is a lie and it doesn't matter how big or small it is. Trust is some thing earned not automatically given. Look at what we have been through we trusted the doctors do diagnose my husband's Sarcoma and it grew to the size of an orange before we finally got to the PA hospital where it was removed. Recently we trusted our local vet with our cat and now she has to have her back leg amputated, oh yes that wound will heal. Sad truth it never could and was never going to and now we all suffer because they didn't know what they were doing. My husband could have had his arm amputated all because we trust people. Yes I am rather bitter with quite a few people and even so called family because they just aren't. They don't deserve your loyalty nor your trust. It's very hard to trust people these days and if you don't it's your right to get a second opinion and I would take any chance and all chances too. Maybe if we had earlier our cat would have been able to keep her leg but we will never know and that is really hard to handle some times.

If someone will lie about small things, they will lie about anything. I say cut your losses and don’t give your trust easily. It’s fine to remain friendly but guard yourself against this kind of person.

yes definitely

Honesty has always been "my thing" so lies/untruths have no place in my life. So yes I would treat that someone differently-bitter no just disappointed they considered I was not worth the truth

Lying does destroy trust, especially if it happens more than once. It has nothing to do with bitterness; it is being cautious, and depending on the severity of the lie, it takes a great deal of time to rebuild that trust, if ever. Lies are always worse than whatever it is the liar is trying to cover up.

When someone has lied to me more than once they have totally destroyed my trust in them forever.

Some people deserve a second chance but not a third,that's when the trust is completely broken in my opinion.I don't see it as being bitter I see it as being more cautious of people who you think are honest and caring but turn out to betray you.

Trust is special, precious and valued, It is earned. And easily lost.

There are so many levels of trust in our world, sometimes it is not a matter of just black and white. would you prefer a 'little white lie' that protected your self esteem or be told the brutal truth without regard to how that 'truth' might affect you. I would never regard someone as bitter if they had my best interests at heart and the 'lies' did not have huge consequence. Equally, if one feels/knows they are being lied to, have you/they ever considered confronting the 'liar' to find out why they are being lied to?

OF COURSE IT DOES, you would be inclined not to believe that someone again unless you witnessed it your self!!!! besides I do not readily trust anyone anymore. What does bitter have to do with trust, it is either true or a lie.

Lies, trust issues? = No trust at all. Bitter? no, they are the one with problems for lying!

If someone has lied to you about something important then forgiveness is almost impossible. Everyone lies now and then, sometimes it is because they want to keep something, which is basically none of your business, secret, sometimes, and this is possibly the most acceptable, people will lie to you to protect you, to stop you worrying unnecessarily. personally, I don't think that if someone has repeatedly lied to you that it makes you bitter, it just makes you untrusting of that person. When it comes to the Internet, and especially those dangerous so-called Dating Sites, we have lost count of the number of times people have run off to the Print & Electronic Media to complain as to how they have been conned and lost 10s, if not 100s, of thousands of dollars! How often do people have to be warned before they get the message that the instant some supposed 'friend', you can't be sure if the photo, the description given is real, asks you for even $10 is the instant you close the connection, permanently! If it sounds to be too good to be true then it probably is. Of course when it comes to money people become Greedy. They are told they will get a 10, 15, 20 per cent return when the current return on an average investment may be, say, 5%. If the 10, 15, 20 per cent return was realistic there would be no need to try to get people to invest. Just like those conned on those Dating sites, those who get conned by these wild investment plans go running off to the media and demanding that "The Government" reimburse them or do something. No government can do anything to stop people being Greedy or Stupid.

Once a persons trust is lost, they'll never get it back.

Unfortunately that has happened to me a few times. I lent money and never got it back. Their excuse was "Why should I have to pay you back when someone else didn't".

I lent money to a now very ex cousin of my wife. All the promises in the world that it would be paid and still waiting so that has put a dent in my trust

Even someone lied, each individual case to be checked and evaluated. A reminder may be necessary about why he lied etc.

What certain things? Depending on the causes...

This would warn you against believing that person on any topic. Just see them now and again. Simple.

Yes, it breaks your trust. It can not be gained back, they will always lie. You must re-align your dealing with this person.

You can forgive someone for breaking your trust but you never forget, certain things always bring the bad memories back.

I don't trust no one.

I trust my pets more than people. They don't hurt you, people do.

I don't trust anyone and I have no issues with that.

This is a hard one. My partner that I was with had come out of a very bad marriage. She cheated on him right from the start. I guess he had a few women after that but he had very or no trust with me. He said he was not jealous but his actions spoke louder than words. We were together for 13 years before he passed. It was about two or three years before I knew he trusted me. We all come to relationships with other baggage. That is life. I try to give the person the benefit of the doubt but you only cross me or break my trust once. You dont get the second chance

I say with others that this is a personal decision but for me I have learned to forgive because it is better for me. I am however much more careful as to not be hurt. Have a nice holiday all..

just one lie would break my trust in a person - it doesn't have to make you bitter it just makes you careful about what you would tell that person.

LIARS are never trusted or if they are you will have a miserable life. You let go and get on with life. there are liars and truthers in life,

Its was up each person will a person trust or not. Is small lied or a lied that can break a person up

This is hard to answer Christy as it depends on the lies that have been told. Some people lie to protect you from the truth because they do not want you to be hurt. However other people just lie and I do not believe that you can trust them again. Edited 22-Dec-22 08:48am

It depends om the nature of the lie perpetuated...to me...trust once briken is very difficult to mend.

Absolutely it would break my trust and the person would never have my trust again. In fact I would avoid seeing that person.

I see lying as an insult. Because why would you disrespect me by lying to me time and time again?

Trust everyone till they betray you, then defriend them, there are plenty of trustworthy people who deserve your time....

Yes it does especially if the issue is love I believe trust is a two way street all the time and both partners should be committed only to each other

Trust or Not Trust depends on how important the issue is.

your gut tells when to trust

TRUST NO 1

trust only yourself

There are people I love, but certainly don't trust because of this very issue. Trust is an important but easily broken thing.

I can't handle lies, they don't make me bitter just very aware and they create distance

It all depends on the person and the lie.

I am aware if someone is being truthful or not. Even with friends of 50 years. I choose to say nothing. Though it is hard to see them in the same way as years go by.

cant trust again

I believe yes to that Christy big time!!! For me it is very hard to earn that back especially from the person that has lied more than once!!!

Just take everything with a grain of salt and slowly distance yourself. from the person or group. .In the charity business you have to have some level of trust about the story you are being told and then sort through the facts.

trust is a big deal in a relationship but what was the trust that was broken maybe he lied to protect you from something, if he lied about infidelity absolutely send him to the kennel but find out why this might help in resolving things

Do I have trust issues on a personal level - NO (you just cut the person out of your life and move on). Do I have trust issues on a societal level (USA) - YES (at that point - I am ROYALLY SCREWED).Edited 24-Dec-22 04:13am

Cannot stand cheats or liars.

If someone lies it makes me cautious but if it happens more than once then yep trust is gone and no I don't think one can really get that trust back again. Lack of trust does not make you bitter just careful.

If it's something trivial you might trust them. If it's concerning (or worse) it would take a lot for me to even considering to trust the person.

Once it's broken that's it there is no going back

Once broken Trust is very hard to repair!

Depends what they lied about and their motives