Trust and Communication are keys to a healthy relationship without these two vital statistics you got nothing

Responsibility is great commitment

Some of us are not for taming .. And love is a losing game . Crushed too many times.

I never married cause lived together first and thought a bit of paper wouldn't make any difference to how we feel about each other

Just not that into it.

I think some people never marry because they feel fulfilled with how they are living their lives

I remarried after a horrible first marriage, don't have any of the issues with the second marriage. Some say it is only a piece of paper after all. Why if you don't have too and it is a very stressful day for some. Each to there own on this as it doesn't phase me either way but I am glad I married my second husband, he's a keeper and a great person to be with.

common sense,

I was with my husband for 58 1/2 years together, 50 1/2 years married, and we never regretted a moment of being together, but my son and his partner have been together for 18 years and have no wish to get married, and they say they are happy with their life the way it is, they adopted her 2 brothers when her Mum passed away, and now live happpy ever after sort of speak

I have been with my partner for 20 years we feel being together that long we are married even tho we are not. It's only a piece paperEdited 15-May-24 23:11pm

Some people never meet anyone they would like to marry. Some are career oriented, don’t want children etc

Some people shouldn't be married and are better off on their own for whatever reason. Some people don't feel the need for a formalization of a relationship. Some people are waiting to find the right person or have found / lost the right person for whatever reason. Lots of reasons why people don't get married - none of which are my business. As long as someone is comfortable with their status, I am happy for them.

I married the first time just after I'd turned 18 because it was expected at that time. Every kind of abuse you can imagine happened for the next 18 years while my religion and fear took over my brain.... marriage is forever and how can I support myself and 4 kids? I didn't know about all the places I could turn to for help. I finally got out of that one before he killed me. When I married the second one it didn't take long at all to show signs of the first and we split 3 weeks after the wedding. I've dated a lot of men since then and not one was good. Most lasted between one date to maybe a month. They all drank too much and/or used other drugs, one was unfaithful in the short time we were together, one stopped taking his medication because he was happy and when I broke up with him for erratic behavior he blew his head off with a shotgun, every one of them was bad news and not worth the chaos of being in a relationship with them. Red flags flew up everywhere and I finally decided I love me, I like my own company, I like doing what I want when I want, watch what I want, go where I want, visit who I want, be friends with whomever I want and NOT be told by anyone else how to live my life so I'm happy AND a good example to my children and grandchildren. I don't need a man to support me financially or emotionally. These are many of the reasons I'm done with dating and will never marry again.

They are being told there is no fulfillment in being married and having kids. They would rather work for a boss.

THEY DON'T HAVE TO ARGUE WITH ANYONE.

They don't find the right one. Or they have been hurt and don't want the problems that come with a relationship. They prefer their own company.

Because they smart

They are smart and realise they can be healthy wealthy and wise without marital obligations

since they did not find a suitable partner & didn't fall in love

The answer to this question has numerous answers as every situation is unique to the individual. There are those that choose not to marry and there are those that life has not given the opportunity to marry.

Too expensive. At the end of the day it's just a piece of paper.

Sometimes relationships don’t work out.

A certain segment of the women in our communities have suffered both physical and psychic trauma from the opposite sex or in some cases their own and cannot find it in their hearts to believe that any man, or woman can give them the faith that a partnership is the way their lives should best be lived.

If you live together there is no reason to marry. Some people never find the right person, some are selfish and have no wish to share their lives with someone else, and others simply want to be free from commitments or entanglements.

Lack of commitment.

No Comment.

High divorce rates, or they are independent type of person

Because some people simply don't want to marry anyone.

No doubt they are more happerier leading single life, which means that they can do what they want to when ever it pleases them

I'm not married. I do what I want, when I want. Personally, the thought of being with one person for the next 60 years makes my skin crawl. Some people can make it work, but it's not for me!

Is the question why do some people never marry, or is it why do some people remain single? They're two very different questions and have very different answers. Many people don't marry because its a big expense and for many has little meaning. It doesn't make any difference in our court how you co-habitated, or for raising children. It is a religious practice, that is commercially pushed and seems unnecessary for many.

I like being me and doing what I like with out having to consider an other enjoy my own company and come from a big family solo runs in the family for many

Some are too busy playing the field and having a good time while others don't want the responsibility of supporting a family.

At the end of the day all that it is just a piece of paper that is required by law but it doesn't mean you love your partner any less because you never got married.Can also be a lot of financial strain and then again some people just choose to be single because they are happy and don't want any commitments.

An elderly lady I know has a daughter that has never married and she often says- isn't it sad she never found someone to gel with.

Because they can think for themselves and not go along with what they are told they should do.

see too many divorces.

Some relationships can be too difficult to navigate.

Because they don't want to. Some people enjoy being single. Or some people enjoy being a couple without being married. The legal or biblical notion of marriage is very limiting and doesn't take in to account all sorts of belief systems.

Smart probably. I have had 2 girlfriends who were not married and lived with their man for over 10 years and even had kids. Got married and all of a sudden the husband became controlling and demanding and the marriages broke up within a year. A marriage certificate is not an ownership document for either party. Some like the romance of the wedding but the reality of marriage is far from a fairy tale. It is also expensive to divorce and can be very bitter. If the parameters are already there it is a lot easier to leave the relationship.

Too fussy

marriages only a piece of paper. Under our laws after two years it's considered that you are married and thing are split evenly.

they never meet the right person

far too expensive and too may marriages end up in divorse

I’m not married and have been with my partner for 16 years. He has been studying at uni and I have been the breadwinner I have the house in my name and keep things separate even though you have the same rights as a married couple if you are defacto for 6months in Australia. I think he can’t be bothered and I would have to do the asking myself if I wanted it to happen.

I think they are smarter than I was! I've been through two divorces, was unable to have children, and now I'm alone in the world! Married people only stay together because they have children. I don't believe in love. Men want more than one woman, and they don't give a shit about feelings, and they are incapable of loving one woman! Yes, right now, I'm depressed!

My thoughts are to mind my own business.

Everyone has the choice to marry or not, I don’t see any issues about cohabitation, in the eyes of the law if you have lived together for more than 2 years it’s considered married.

Maybe they don't need the establishment religious or otherwise to make their union complete and official, I have lived with my partner for 30 years and we never needed to get married.

Not a priority for some people

Marriage was originally designed to transfer 'ownership' of the woman away from her father. Then, the church got involved as a way to dominate and control people. Now it seems it's just a ceremony to show off how much money you have. The whole institution is losing it's grip and it's meaning (thank goodness!) on the people more and more as time goes on. So, what's really the point?Edited 15-May-24 13:47pm

We will be married for 56 years soon , But I an not against people who don't want to marry as after all each to their own

I never married and I'm glad of it. Everyone of my friends is divorced and living in poverty while I'm living like a king. By the time your spouse gets half and the kids get alimony, there is hardly nothing left.

cost too much for a divorce which is more common now. what's the point if you do split married or not partners are entitled to just as much anyhow.

Porque no creen en el papel

People change after marriage and some do not want that to happen, they prefer their freedom. There are so many reasons. I went through it twice and was severely disappointed and decided that it's not for me either.

Because I think their love would change.

I've never married. Something I'd do only once so it would have to be with the right person...Edited 15-May-24 12:21pm

Cuz some people are dumb and don't learn the first 3 times.... Like myself huh.

because they are smart

Once you married the woman can take the man to the cleaners especially if they have kids and in some cases the man ends up with nothing.

The reason why some people never get marry is because they are afraid of serious commitment or losing everything their owned.

My niece intends to never marry and stay common law. All of her five friends got married and either are separated or divorced

All women are too expencive

My family have been to so many of their friends magniificent weddings which they can't afford to do themselves, so don't bother... they live together. Let's face it, the marrieage 'thing' started because of land and riches and who owned what which doesn't apply now.

You seem to have already provided a lot of reasibabke answers. I really don't give it any thought,

because they used their common sense

I can't answer for others but I was married at 23 and had been married for 63 years. My husband passed away almost two years ago and I still miss him so much. We had our ups and downs but worked through our differences. We had three children, one who died at 17, and now have 6 grandchildren and four great grandchildren with another on the way. I wouldn't change anything but we are all different

Because they have lost faith in the church as it's man-made bulldust.

I have been single for 8 years after my daughter's mother dumped me because I lost my job and could no longer financially support her, her father, our daughter, her uncle, her brother and my own parents, yet she was receiving triple what I was. I would love to have someone who liked me and I appreciate and trust, however I work long hours, I'm ugly and shy/introverted, and what little time I have, I make sure is spent with my daughter so she knows her dad loves her. Marriage isn;t always an option-some of us just aren;t confident or nice enough looking to find someone who would want to marry us who was honest.

Some people just don't want to marry as they don't see it as very important. To them it is just a piece of paper. They can still be in a happy relationship and enjoy everything that a married couple can. Also some people find and loose the love of their life through many different reasons and then decide not to marry at all.

My lovely Aunt never married, she would have been a wonderful mother however she had a boyfriend who she met when he was studying dentistry in Sydney he was from a country town where I believe his father was the dentist, when she ill later in life I found out they were in love & planned to buy a house together, the mother found out & he was shipped back home , he did become a dentist , neither of them married , when I was clearing out her estate found photos of him when he was young & another when he was elderly, I think they did keep in touch. I was so sad & still cry for her she was like a second mother to me.

WHY MAKE 1 MISERABLE WHEN YOU CAN MAKE OTHERS HAPPY

People or more focused on getting a career started.

Maybe,they want to save money before getting married not wanting to go into marriage with no savings.Others seem to like the single life.Others like just being quiet and being to theirselves.Some become Priests and Nuns.They want to establish their career's.Some just don't want that life style.

It's not that they are taking time it is clear that they they are having relationships without the discipline of marriage. It is more of " out with the old way and in with the new phase which is goodies first

I have one daughter who is 40 and never married, she has had a few partners but has decided it isn't for her. The other was married at 20 and is still happily married to the same one. We have been married for 43 years so you just can't tell.

How about "it just doesn't happen"!

I am still married and honestly, I'd never do it again. We did live together, but everything was doomed from the start.

Waiting longer for the perfect spouse is unrealistic, no one is perfect. Waiting longer also sets one to be a loner and set in their ways, therefore, a marriage would be argumentative.

Getting Wed does seem to take longer now and not getting Wed at all is a lot more prevalent. There are a lot of partners that live with each other and they get on very well like this. I actually don't know the one main reason of not marrying these days because I were married when I was young. I do wonder why marriage is so different. I used to wonder if it was because of the cost of everything but I cannot figure it out?

Social media has negatively impacted peoples ability to form relationships. They no longer understand compromise, empathy or respect. It's all 'me, me , me, I want, I want, I want, look what they have, look what they're doing'. The grass is always greener on the other side until you get there and realise it's astroturf.

don't find the right person or lack of trust

But what I can tellf romt he picture she really looks cute

Why do some never marry? I don't know- i can't talk for others, you'll have to ask those unmarried people yourself when you meet them. Personally, I have been married for 20years (together for 22 years), we have 4 kids together.

and why do some people keep marrying. You'd think they'd learn from the first mistake. I'm a great fan of try before you buy. If I'd done it with wife no 1 we would never have married. No., Grommie wasn't the problem.

I have never felt the need to be married. My man would in a heart beat. We have been together just over 49 years, We have 3 sons 10 grandkids & 2 great grandson’s. We are mostly more happy than not. Why fix it if it’s not Broken.

Its up to them if they want to get married back in my day it was the done thing but not these days my daughter didnt get married until she had her four children and they were old enough to be her brides maids and enjoy the wedding with her and there dad

Every person is different from everyone else. (To each his own.)

Everyone should do what they want to do. I married because it was expected and not because I really wanted to. You don't need a marriage to be happy.

hi Danielle-tyvm...

Is marriage just "OLD" values?? or is cohabitation a lack of commitment? Have three adult children who are all in long term relationships. All three have brought a home with their partners and live like they are married couple but without a marriage certificate. They do the things that a married couple do like going on holiday together and making a house into a home like any couple. Why do we need to "LABEL" them as married? By the way I have been married to the same woman for over 35yrs :-)Edited 15-May-24 07:49am

some people never find the right person

Very very interesting discussion.

I just never really found anybody. Not everybody is supposed to be married. Half the population in the world or the United States Is Single. who knows?

Agree with Lyn.A. Without the religious connotation and meaning marriage is viewed by many as a piece of paper. Funny though ,I have had friends that lived together for 10+ years,and thought hey why don't we get married. And separated a year or so later. A very weighty piece of paper indeed.

For me I thought I would but it got bad and just blew up. What are you going to do? My problem is nobody for me seems to want to work at it and they don't want to give up there freedom. The ladies say they are available but they might not be emotionally available or they have been burned two or three times in a row maybe and they just can't take it anymore ,possibly I guess. I don't know maybe with all the terrible crap going on in the world maybe itisjust making everybody tired and they just can't put up with it anymore.

The costs, plus no need now as most countries have laws that allow even distribution of assets after a reasonable time of living together. Kids now are used to having parents with different surnames

Way too expensive and sometimes marriage can ruin a good friendship! 😉

A commitment to one person for a lifetime seems daunting, and maybe it’s not for everyone, however I do believe their is that person who just fits with another! That soulmate/connection, it took me half my life to find that person, and yes I married him. The 21st century is a time of freedom to do and live as you please, and with whoever, and yes living together is accepted. A sign of the times…