I was a fulltime working single mum... thats harder

I am a stay-at-home grandpa I agree , the 3 grandees were not liking cooked meals every night, trips to playgrounds and parks, and beach visits but things are getting better, technology is becoming a little more obsolete in favor of pop time but oh wow do i look forward to nighttime and sleep just as I use to look forward to Friday knock-off and a pub session armed with a full pay

Simple answer.......YES!

yes! But also with all the half days and holidays children seem to have these days I don't know how full time working mums do it! I am job searching but the thought of all the times I will have to take off work for my school aged child stresses me out! This term alone they have 3 half days and of course started the term with short weeks.

I've done both.. working and doing business books after hours, though to stay at home mum for a little while, then work at home doing the accounts, HR functions for our small business at the time. I've also been a single mum fully supporting my 2 kids with full time work and child support ranging from $0 to $20 a month. These days my kids are older and I work 4 days per week. None of it was easy, each situation has good points and bad points. I didn't find being a stay at home mum any harder than being a working full time single mum. For me that was probably harder since I had so much juggling to do. Feeding and housing my kids depended on work and sometimes the demands were not compatable with school events etc. I was very lucky that I had a great manager who was very understanding and gave me some flexibility.

No you choose to have a child and you choose to raise that child you don't get extra pay for that

SO. Mums have done this all through time, what is wrong with people that they think they deserve special treatment. Apparently we didnt do a good job. You dont want to be a MUM DONT BE, but if you choose to be a mum SUCK IT UP and stop whinging. OR put up your children for adoption to someone who will love them, SHEESH,, this is..... NEVER MIND.

Absolutely. They're amazing!

I agree stay at home mom needs more praise then they get, the average mom spends he day with a lot of hectic phone calls bills and exc, And is always ready when the children comes in to help start their homework , I think that stay home moms is a good story to write about and tell in the future when children get married and find their on way in the world. Say never forget I was one too.

As a stay at home mom, I think I get the same amount of respect and credit as any one else. I don't see my job as being something that needs more respect than anyone else's. It's something I chose to do so it's my responsibility to get these things done. It's not a job for some people but then again there are paying jobs that aren't right for some people either. Everyone deserves respect for whatever they choose to do.

Stay at home, are constantly working and home, some have no income at all, Rais children, teach them, feed them, bathe, and do everything else needed at a home.

Yes

Off course they should and stay at home Dad's. My dear late mother always said that all she got for a reward from raising 5 kids was a safety pin for a badge.. Probably only mums 80+ years will know what she meant lol. . More praise and rewards for stay at home parents raising kids. ????????

Yes, definitely.

I agree

I totally agree. You cannot put a price on Mums. My wife stayed at home and looked after our kids for 30 years. She is the best mother I could have asked for. But I also did my share of the housework and also most of the cooking, despite working long hours being self employed. And since she cared for our kids, she always had a reliable car, hence a new one every 3 years, because I realize the very important job she has being a mother and besides, I would never have achieved what I have without her invaluable selfless support.

Maybe in the past, and I'm not saying 'no' stay at home moms do a good job, but I also know that many, especially younger moms, aren't into the 'family' responsibilities that the older generation took more seriously...

You’re right, Brianna. Only...most of them do get rewards and respect, praise and more. I suppose this is only natural. The love of her children. The time together. I wish these mums would get also paid a decent salary. Really, that would be right and fair. In some countries they do. The other side for the coin: these mums might need to come together in groups to spend some time outside of their “work environment “.

Children get up to all sorts of nefarious activities without parents being there to keep an eye on them

Up to the mum. If i have kid years later i want to work and let my husband take care of little one. I want my house husband in life. Edited 16-Feb-23 19:12pm

You better believe it

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Yes, but we have a choice. Stay home with the children or go without!!

"Poor me, I'm a mom. No thanks or enough thanks in it....poor me." You're a mother at home for all the wrong reasons. Since when do women get extra anything for doing what they chose to do and that's have children. Is it everyone else's job when their babies are born to raise them? I think not. Get sterilized, if that's how you feel. Motherhood and being home is a huge PRIVILEGE. Many moms only dream of doing it. Edited 16-Feb-23 17:44pm

It depends on the parents

Children need mum at home to guide them in manners and moral issues not taught at school. i believe big problem with youth of today is because mum is not at home. Children are in after school care, with babysitters or home alone. Mums should definitely be given more credit. I raised 3 on my own, working nights. Went without a lot so that I could be home and raise my kids.

YES

Oh and writing out the payment of bills is such HARD WORK.

I was lucky enough to be able to stay at home with my children until they went to school and then I worked school hours. We didn't have much money to spare but I loved it. I believe everyone should be able to decide whether to stay at home or not without judgement.

As a Mum who had to work within a year of having my kid I went through agonies of guilt but knew I had no other option. Had there been even a little extra I think I would definitely have stayed home. I had a very good babysitter who had 3 kids of her own so at least my kid had an added couple of "day" brothers but a very tired Mum picked her up each afternoon and then became another busy housewife. My husband didn't believe he should "babysit".

All mums should get more credit

I think they definitely should, raising children to be responsible, caring, considerate adults is the most important job in the world.

In my own strong opinion, myself as a Stay home Mami and Home schooling my Child since Birth, I'll be honest, my reward I receive each and every day. My child is healthy, in a stable home, eats well, engages in many different activities and participates in completing his education on a daily basis and honestly I do not need a reward from anyone but knowing all that I have accomplished in all these years to teach and praise, to love and to nourish, to be and to be blessed to bare a child. That is my praise and reward.

Yes. It needs to be seen as a real job and recompensed accordingly.

I agree - it is a very demanding job

Stay at home dad here, if you need credit or recognition for putting effort in to raising your own children that you decided to bring into this world your in the wrong job.

Women need more respect Worldwide in general and especially for raising their children

Stay at Home mums is a 24/7 job Yet I had family and friends think I have all the time in the world.

Previously when I was a career women I didn't think much of stay at home mums because people have been doing it for centuries and so how can it be that hard? Now that I am a stay at home mum I realise the sacrifices that are made and they definitely deserve more respect for what they do as I think it's harder than being a career woman to be honest. As for handouts from the government, only those from low incomes below a threshold should receive credit - which is already the case here in NZ. Otherwise it's a lifestyle choice and I don't think that handouts are fair if they're given to mums who are just frustrated being at home when their partner earns enough to cover costs and more. Handouts should only be for people who genuinely need them so that it's not contributing to inflation, rising costs of living etc. as companies and workers have to pay more tax. Money has to come from somewhere after all... As soon as the kids finish school then you're free to do as you please, get a job, start a company, pursue your dream.

I do so agree with you Brianna! Unfortunately, some women these days prefer to go out to work and home life appears secondary...

As a single mum I used to watch the blackbirds busily build their nest .sit on those eggs ,hunt for the food and feed and tend to those babies until they had flown. Always pondered why noone ever puts them down or says get a job .. do more on top of being on duty 24hrs a day

Hey, it's a big and important job. It seems to me that stay at home moms are at the complete mercy of their significant others. What if the other decides to leave?, or die?, or become unemployed?, or any other natural or unnatural event (Israeli space lasers?). Then what is she supposed to do? Give stay at home moms all of the support that they can use. They really can supply the country with great citizens if they are somewhat happy and physically healthy.

Yes they should as they are the only ones who look after their own children and have a hope of raising them properly.

Yes women are under appreciated, it's not easy and I ran a business also. My Mum did it too and she was a teacher, working hard. The government does give some allowance but certainly not enough. These days it's getting harder for Mums to stay at home as they need both parents to work (to pay for the things like the mortgage and groceries.) Each family needs to way up the cost of child care and is it worth the Mum working. They miss out on so much and it's the people in the day cares raising their children essentially. Is this the problem of our youth today? As they just don't give a stuff about any one else but them selves. They steal, they bash people and youth crime is a huge issue these days. They just don't get the issues of right from wrong and I seriously wonder why. The police can't touch them, the courts are too soft on them and they know no one can do any thing about them. Some thing needs to be done and now as the problem seems to be getting worse every day. Which is just so sad.

Don't have children you can't raise on your own; Isn't the governments job to step in and give tax breaks or special programs because some people reproduce like rabbits. Edited 16-Feb-23 13:37pm

Of course credit from their family, but not outside entities, now what's to discuss? Edited 16-Feb-23 13:37pm

Your children need some interaction but stay at home parents and children share a special bond, that children that don’t have that, would love. And I am not knocking those that work as some of us prefer or don’t have a choice and envy those that can stay home more

I agree wholeheartedly. Mums are carers. Not only of the children, but sometimes elderly parents too. You don't realise how much your parents did for you until you are older. You can't put a price on the sacrifice and the unconditional care. No one will love your more than your parents.

I pay my wife a weekly salary. She cooks cleans makes sure everything is perfect for when I come home.

Yes!

Yes

I agree mothers do work hard and they don't get enough credit. Having Mother's Day once a year doesn't cut it, it should be once a month!

Yes...

Absolutely. My mom stayed at home and so did my wife. My mom was there for all of us - 5, plus neighbourhood kids in need. My kids would not be the same but for their mom.

Yes,credit,just because they don't have a paying job doesn't make them less. Stay at home parenting is one of the most rewarding and important jobs of your life,if you are lucky enough to afford to do it. There is a song I learnt at school(can't remember the name). About a boy who wrote a note to his mum,detailing everything he did for her and how much he believed it was monetarily worth. Mum gave him back a list of everything she does everyday with the wors "No Charge. Also a poem by unknown author called "while you weren't looking" a sweet poem about what a child learns from a parent through role modelling.

Every child is different, and the mums (or stay at home dads) are also different, and their social and economic situations are different. So what one parent thinks is an easy task, can be a nightmare for another parent. Each person who takes on the responsibility of parent/homemaker should be just as valued as people in other occupations.

What are they rewarded with? Everyone is different. Still I suppose they are less rewarded due to banks I suppose, but don't ask them for rewards.

Yes,stay at home Mums should get more credit.Heard some Mums say" I'm just a Mum!"I brought up 4 kids by myself when my husband died when he was 35.Its a huge job! Cook,cleaner,educator,sometimes,hairdresser,taxi and much more !!

Hell yes they deserve more credit!

Motherhood is an amazing vocation, they not only care for their children but run their homes as well. No pay only the reward of caring and loving their family's. They have to wear many hats, and deserve to be loved and cherished.

I think it's honorable and good for the kids. It was once considered normal now not so much due to currency devaluation, although fair enough if you would rather be out working for a company all day. Yes they deserve credit.

Of course cause they do everything

Absolutely 100%Edited 16-Feb-23 10:45am

I liked being a stay at home mum and doing all the Kindy, Pre-School and Primary School stuff with my kids. Could have been because my on physical schooling was cut short and had to educate myself further by going to Business College, getting a fulltime job and further Tertiary Education via Correspondence School, which I paid for, plus looking after younger brothers as well. .Getting (more) credit for being a stay at home mum is when you see how well you have had the time to devote to bringing your own children up.

All mums should stay at home until the children start school. Disipline is learned early in life.

Yes, definitely. The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.

More long daycare centres and old peoples homes,I say, why should these troublsome humans stand in the way of our wants and freedoms.......motherhood is so overrated, to much responsibility and hard work. They have cat cafes for people to pat cats, maybe they could do the same at childcare centres for people who don't want the full experience of parenthoodEdited 16-Feb-23 10:08am

This applies to stay at home parents, mums or dads, and grandparents who look after children. Edited 16-Feb-23 10:06am

I do believe they should get the proper respect and credit from their partners. They have much to do and usually so it while the partner is at work. Them in many although not all cases they must also wait on partner when they return home. The best scenario is when partner returns home both share in the evenings final work for the day, childcare, cooking or whatever that may be. Together a life is created that gives credit to all. Separately, it feels like a maid and Nannys job without pay or respect.

They should for sure

Again it is a choice to have children - I was blessed to have a job that allowed me to work at home and still be there for my three children. I could take them to kindergarten and as they started school I could then take them and collect them and I didn't have a car so I was pushing a pram at one stage but I was always there for them. There were times when I was trying to finish my work at midnight so I could take it back completed the next day during school hours. It was the only way we could save up and put a deposit on a house.

yes

yes

Yes they should its hard work

Of course they should.

The should stay home if they have new borm or small kids, but I believe they should have the oportunity with carriers and professions as men.

NO - had to deal with a physical abusive stay-at-home mom - life did not get better (for me) till I become a run-away (when I finished junior high school)!

hell yes!!!

Absolutely

Yes

Yes Yes Yes

I have always believed that housewives/dads should be paid a stipend by the government to stay at home.

A very complex problem.

Absolutely

They definitely deserve more credit for the role they play, especially those who make it possible for their children to thrive and reach goals of their own.

Don't forget there are also stay at home dads who face the same problem.

Yeah we need more mother's days....

Yes

Yes, of course they should. To make it easier and encourage those who would prefer to be Stay-at-Home Mums the Federal Government should immediately introduce Income Sharing. This would mean that for a household with a Single Income of, say, $100,000 for tax Purposes the Income would be split 50/50 with the Stay-at-Home Mum being credited with having earned $50,000 and both being taxed on the basis that that was what each earned. More money in the family's pocket, less pressure on Stranger Child Care.

Yes stay at home mum's or dad's do work hard with all they have to do but that is the choice you make when you decide to have children. I stayed at home with mine until they were in there second year of school then went back to work. Working and attending to the family's needs wasn't easy either. Edited 16-Feb-23 15:44pm

Yes, they do as do Dads and Grandparents that do this. However, it is done with love mainly and the rewards are great. I was fortunate as to the fact that my sister and I shared our kids. We both worked in the same field and would split shifts so the kids had a great upbringing because my sister and I have similar ideas of raising children. I know that not all people can do this and also that not all can afford to stay at home. This is when the Grandparents lend a hand usually.Edited 16-Feb-23 07:55am

def yes... poor things

Yes they should they do a lot more than most people at work and dont get paid for it they do a wonderful job and should be rewarded for it there children when grown will be there reward and some thing to be proud of

Stay at home mums should get plenty of credit because children are very busy little people and to be a good mum it is not a sit down job doing so. There are many unrewarded financial hours put into raising children and taking care of everything in the home. There is a great reward if your child has the best life you can give and when they do grow up that is when you can feel special if your child grows up being a kind and good citizen. Thankyou for my point.

Not all mothers get the choice and it can be lonley.

stay at home mums make the choice to have children and raise them rather than put them into childcare. Yes they deserve praise as they also take on other roles and have some free time to help in school, canteens, playgroup etc. It is a family decision thought as some families do require the extra income in order to meet payments on their homes etc.

yes

stay-at-home grandpas and grandmas as well, and yes the people staying home looking after the house and kids deserve lots of credit but it is a choice when you decide to have childrenEdited 16-Feb-23 06:54am

What about stay home dads?

They certainly do deserve more recognition for their invaluable contribution.