Neighbors

02-Aug-23 12:58pm
Grommie
as long as the smoke drifts away, never mind. If you can get the drift back the other way, light a stinky kitchen scraps and newspaper fire, and give them a taste of what smoke is like.
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01-Aug-23 22:18pm
Francis S 1044530
Our neighbors are our best friends if either of us found something wrong neither of us wouldn't worry about telling the other, better than trying to keep it inside
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01-Aug-23 13:53pm
Gunter L
My neighbour's wife, who is a professional model, used to (I say "used to" because she doesn't do it anymore) upset my wife (but not me) terribly by sunbaking in the nude every afternoon. One day my wife got so mad that she "ordered" me to talk to the neighbours with the aim of putting a stop to it. So, reluctantly, I went next door and rang the bell. The neighbour's wife, who had been sun baking, opened the door and said: "Sorry, my husband won't be home for several hours but maybe I can help you?" I stammered something like what nice weather we are having etc. etc. She said: "Yes, indeed, ideal for sun baking, isn't it? Why don't you join me?" I had forgotten what I had come for. To make a long story short, all four of us have agreed that it is best that we all sunbake together, this way nobody needs to get upset.
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01-Aug-23 11:01am
Christina C 466456
If it affected me or family or was inviting trouble then yeah I'd say something, otherwise don't care.
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01-Aug-23 00:00am
Beverly W 1083564
no! never stir up trouble!
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31-Jul-23 23:44pm
Marianne W 974206
If it affects me yes, if not then no.
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31-Jul-23 22:56pm
Lazza
My neighbors are a pain in the arse. I keep on calling them coffin dodgers
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31-Jul-23 22:25pm
Tina 423889
No, i dont care what they do
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31-Jul-23 21:30pm
Tammy 1343894
I have not had any issues to address with any of our neighbors
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31-Jul-23 21:12pm
Rose S 88496
Don’t have a problem with my neighbours
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31-Jul-23 21:11pm
Jan K (Central Vic)
We have great neighbours....we all live on 10 acre blocks so lots of space between us, yet we all help each other when needed, stop for a chat, cut each others front grass strip, etc..so a win win for everybody...doubt I could live back in suburbia.
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31-Jul-23 21:07pm
lulu
yes
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31-Jul-23 20:44pm
Ruth v
Its good to have good neighbours. You never know when you might need each other.
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31-Jul-23 20:29pm
SUSIE W
Not applicable I have wonderful neighbors
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31-Jul-23 20:21pm
Claude H
They don't bother me and I don't bother them
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31-Jul-23 19:39pm
Shelia C
Yes i would make it known that I have a problem with it and try to come to a mutual conclusion
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31-Jul-23 19:02pm
Dimitri T 100433
if affected will inform them politly
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31-Jul-23 18:59pm
Edith v
I believe its in their own property & I would say nothing .Usually people who smoke those products it is on their OWN property .If it affects you go inside & at a later date mention that it drifts over to you & you are allergic to the smoke ..Live & let live I say or move to a larger block & isolate yourself. I don't smoke bye the way
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31-Jul-23 18:18pm
Catalina
Hard. Hard to say something like that to a neighbor. But if it’s really affecting you, like it makes your life miserable, then you must find the words, the way, how you say them. Of course, it depends a lot on your relationship as well.
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- 31-Jul-23 18:59pm
  Edith v
  Tell them to just go inside
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31-Jul-23 18:03pm
Paula J 395266
I'm one of the people fortunate enough to live on a block that is the old quarter acre so I don't really know what my neighbours get up to. I rarely see or hear them unless we want to.
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31-Jul-23 17:39pm
Deb J
Hard to know, keep to yourself or be friendly?
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31-Jul-23 17:38pm
Robert T 597718
yes they can be awful
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31-Jul-23 17:19pm
Joe B 288252
I like my neighbours, I actually spoke to them in 1989. Very quiet folk…..lol
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31-Jul-23 16:56pm
Jill S 901744
It really isn't any of our business. I would rather get a whiff of cigarette smoke (rarely) than the constant smell of a wood smoke from chimney at winter time. (Which is currently happening now lol)
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31-Jul-23 16:54pm
Jytte (Auckland, NZ)
I wouldn't care about cigarettes or weed - that's their choice. Other stuff if it bothered me that much, I'd probably look at moving because as long as its not illegal etc they can do what they want.
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31-Jul-23 16:49pm
Stephen W 870099
I would ask them if they would mind going to the other side of the house
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31-Jul-23 16:48pm
Chrissie
We have the most awesome neighbours on our right & a Middle age guy with all his boy toys & no partner on our left. He is arrogant & self entitled. No wonder he is single.
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31-Jul-23 16:38pm
Christina L 88918
Id just sell up and move when the time is right.. what bothers me where i live right now is there are gossipy neighbours that make our street like desperate housewives.. and the gossipy ones happen to be men .. always updating other people whats happening in each household -_-''
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31-Jul-23 16:04pm
Roslyn A
I had a neighbour who used to complain about me for digging a hole for a tree at 5pm, sanding a wall at 9am and other petty things - yet I was up earlier than her and at work earlier than her and in bed later than her. I say, leave your neighbour alone!
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31-Jul-23 15:08pm
Linda B 907610
We used to live in a townhouse and had neighbours on the other side of both walls as well as three behind us. They were all noisy, smoky, etc. We sold up and now live on a little over 2 hectares with the closest neighbour being about 100m away. Needless to say, we LOVE it!Edited 01-Aug-23 14:26pm
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31-Jul-23 15:08pm
LA
Using communications between neighbours is essential to fostering a sense of community and building positive respectful relationships. It promotes mutual understandings, resolves conflict and enhances safety and cooperation in the community. If it can’t get resolved….call bylaws?
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31-Jul-23 15:05pm
ILikECatS
I am very introverted so no i would not even think about confronting them
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31-Jul-23 15:03pm
Greg B 520364
We have always made friends with our neighbors. So if we ever had problem it was easy to sort out
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31-Jul-23 14:51pm
Pat C 618241
In my area it seems a good neighbour is one you hardly ever see or hear.
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31-Jul-23 14:48pm
Sonya F 68771
As long as they do it quietly i dont care
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31-Jul-23 14:43pm
DeLinda W
Everyone has the choice of caring for their own health, but I rather not have anyone affect my breathing. I would love to know that I have understanding neighbors with empathy for others. I've had patients that compromised my immune system and caused me to become asthmatic. No one should have to suffer at the hand of another. We should care for others' health as we care for ourselves and prefer to not have someone else to cause our health to be at risk. I would try to talk to my neighbor.
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31-Jul-23 14:43pm
lynda e 390007
How would it effect you unless they are yelling and screaming or shooting the place down let them be
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31-Jul-23 14:43pm
Luke W 72035
I smoke outside. Usually only a couple times before going to bed. I'd appreciate it if the neighbors politely said something if they had a problem with it. Maybe we could work something out. Then again, when they annoy me I put up with it so...? Edited 31-Jul-23 14:43pm
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31-Jul-23 14:23pm
Tina C 394339
We have great neighbours, but wouldn’t know if they did that, I wouldn’t care either, that’s their business
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31-Jul-23 14:22pm
Cathy S 315728
I'm totally against it especially when it affects the air I'm trying to survive with. When the stink wafts into your yard just shout to your partner "THE NEIGHBORS ARE SMOKING THAT S..T AGAIN" does nothing but makes you feel a tad better now they know you hate it but then they make sure it always wafts.
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31-Jul-23 13:29pm
Pam G 449028
I am lucky my neighbours are all lovely.
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31-Jul-23 13:18pm
Janet B 814772
We have neighbors on both sides but I don’t really know them well. I try to talk to their dogs whenever they start barking when I’m in my own backyard but then think I am lucky because they probably scare off intruders! Edited 31-Jul-23 13:20pm
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31-Jul-23 13:14pm
Bugalugs
I am friendly with my neighbours. What they do is entirely their Private business and NO concern of mine, what they smoke, inject,eat, how often they shower, have sex and with whom is none of my business just as if I do any of the above it is none of theirs. My Great Joy in my Neighbours is hearing the Children Laughing, Playing, Shouting and, yes, Crying at times! Children being Children and knowing that they are Safe and Loved by Mum and Dad.Edited 31-Jul-23 13:15pm
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- 31-Jul-23 15:02pm
  Phyrephly
  this is an interesting topic, but this comment is a little off topic. (not by much though, promise ;P). I remember years ago, actually probably last century, when Christmas morning (morning of the 25th of December), you would hear all sorts of squeals of delight, laughter, brand new basket or soccer balls being bounced on driveway pavements and up the road (on quiet streets), and little kids with shaky control of handlebars on brand new bikes (or secondhand bikes), with proud Dads holding onto them at the back of the seats; or kids with newly minted plastic magnifying glasses, frantically searching the flower beds for beetles, or lady bugs to observe at closer quarters, (I know that one, 'cause I was one of those kids, lol). I have these fond memories now, because that's all they are - memories; I have not heard such sounds, or seen such sights on Christmas morning, or any other morning, for a great while now, and to me that's a real shame. That's when neighbours were part of the neighbourhood. Thanx for reading my wistful rant.Edited 31-Jul-23 15:06pm
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- 31-Jul-23 23:04pm
  Liane H Phyrephly
  I remember the glee of the brand new "bug catcher" though we used to chase butterflies and find Christmas beetles ...rare ! Edited 31-Jul-23 23:05pm
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31-Jul-23 13:01pm
merricat
no, none of my business.
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31-Jul-23 12:57pm
Wendy Q
Probably not, it's their life, how would you like it if rolls were reversed? If they are not actually doing you any harm, leave well alone.
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31-Jul-23 12:56pm
Henrietta
We have neighbours either side, but we keep ourselves to ourselves if you know what I mean.
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31-Jul-23 12:43pm
Colin L 88398
It is affecting you at home where you have to live so it's best to shut up and keep quite, wave, smile and say hello but the moment you start problems they have a tendency to come back and slap you in the face which makes a quite life impossible.
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31-Jul-23 12:39pm
Rosemary E 383382
I don't have a neighbour who smokes marijuana but I have smelled it being smoke outdoors at a sports event and didn't like it at all. My neighbours either side of me don't smoke. No passive smoking for me now. Some of my relatives smoked though. None of my generation of relatives smoke to the best of my knowledge.
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31-Jul-23 12:39pm
IdentifyAs
I tend to not speak to my neighbours, times are not like what they used to be. I have high fences so I can only hear them sometimes. Glad I don't live in a flat
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31-Jul-23 12:36pm
Jan H 753322
You are best to try and ignore it, people don't seem to be very neighbourly any more
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31-Jul-23 12:01pm
JANET R 328390
Firstly I am not really sure what you mean by it "affects you". If it is causing you health issues - you are better off shifting somewhere else - I do not really believe saying anything will change much - and may make things worse. If it is not affecting your health - ignore it.
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31-Jul-23 11:10am
Jenny L 591463
We don't really have any, but we do have a hall next door and they used to be noisy but they hardly use it these days and they know not to upset us as they will cop our objections. At the most inconvenient of times for them. They leave us alone so we just do our own thing and keep to our selves.
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31-Jul-23 10:52am
Michelle 1281734
I live in an apartment building. No smoking allowed indoors which makes me happy.
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- 31-Jul-23 15:09pm
  DeLinda W
  I too live in a non-smoking building, but it didn't stop someone from puffing heavily on weed. Management tried to find the person or persons, but they shifted to smoking early in the morning. The smell coming into the vent, it filled most of my apartment and caused lots of nausea and headache. If only everyone cared for each other's health.
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- 31-Jul-23 23:39pm
  Michelle 1281734DeLinda W
  that is sad. Unfortunately a lot of people only care about themselves.
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- 03-Aug-23 11:03am
  DeLinda WMichelle 1281734
  So true
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31-Jul-23 10:47am
Beverley S 383001
Noise all hours of the night is the problem with one of our neighbours. Community housing which he certainly abuses. As seniors we need to be able to sleep but him wandering around in the early hours (anything up to 3 a.m.) is just not fair. If we complain he makes up stories and sends the Police to sort us out! He even accused my husband of smashing his front door which the Police Officer said he didn't believe. Brain damage from many years of illicit drug taking is the cause of the behaviour.
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31-Jul-23 10:34am
Christine M 323842
If they are pissing you off, then sure say something, but get ready for a war zone in your home.
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31-Jul-23 10:32am
Hugo 1349443
no, everybody lives his or her life, and this issue does not have to bother you at all.
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31-Jul-23 10:21am
GRAEME W 313058
Just ignore it, mind your own business
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31-Jul-23 10:17am
Mary M 1222775
Sometimes it is best not to get involved. You don't know what people are like these days .
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31-Jul-23 10:16am
Kristina
I'm a smoker and if my neighbors came over and asked me to stop smoking by them, I would. I'm not out to make people upset. But the Marijuana I would say something because I can not stand that smell. Any where you go now I can smell it. I have never done it in my lifetime, nor do I want to. I would not be rude about I, but I would ask them to find a new spot to smoke or please not do it near my house.
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31-Jul-23 10:00am
Maria B 89860
If they did that, they would obviously a bit more than just trouble to themselves and I would just exchange pleasantries with them and try to keep things on an even keel ... don't rock the boat, so to speak.
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31-Jul-23 09:42am
Stephen S 945123
A bit more insight would be much appreciated. With all respect...in example...how does it "bother" you? Thank you kindly for this discussion
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31-Jul-23 09:33am
Christine 1296712
Kindly communicate best way you can
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31-Jul-23 09:30am
Tupulua S
communication and be kind and respect.-, if those things do not work,then keep on smiling at them and say hallo
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31-Jul-23 09:05am
APB
I used to have a guy on one side who smoked right up against my fence....I think that was his most endearing feature...mad as a barn owl...explaining this to him didn't do much good...and on the other side a nosy old lady...who I managed to discourage from coming around for a chat uninvited after a while...luckily they have moved on... my neighbours now a just fine...fingers crossed....
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31-Jul-23 08:56am
Danielle R 478487
I suppose it it was in view of my kids ,especially drugs I would say something. If they did it and wasn't obvious but I knew about it I wouldn't. Neighbours can be troublesome when you start interfering in their personal lives. Used to live near the local pub. I moved at the end of the lease. Had a couple of drunks asleep on my lawn in the morning,alot of noise at night.
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31-Jul-23 08:56am
Roy R 1009866
What my neighbor does on his property it is none of my business as long as it is legal. Likewise my legal activities are my business. How can anyone's smoking activities bother me unless they are smoking under my window? Dawne you may have to get a life !Edited 31-Jul-23 08:57am
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31-Jul-23 08:56am
Carolyn7 P
A lot of noise bothers me more than who smokes what. Most of my neighbors do smoke marijuana it seems, and so do we. My neighbors are friendly and mostly quiet except for the occasional party and then they inform us ahead of time. I am easily bought off with Mexican food.
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31-Jul-23 08:56am
JANN R
I would not know my neighbors are so helpful to me we are like family I would not want to live any where else they are the best
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31-Jul-23 08:44am
Manel 1271300
Once, a young man living at the back of my property jumped over my fence and tried to open my back door. I asked him why he did jump on to our backyard and he said he wanted to go to the main road. 😁😳 I said better you go back the same way you came from. He quietly went back to the fence and climbed back to the other side. I took a photo of him jumping back on the fence.. He was a drug user, I found out later. No harm done!
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31-Jul-23 08:41am
jeffrey t 1083827
We all need good neighbours some people forget the golden rule do unto others as have done to you.
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31-Jul-23 08:34am
Tom M 1059141
good neighbors make the difference, they are a big help
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31-Jul-23 08:16am
boy blunder
my 80-year-old neighbor just got arrested for growing weed, i guess the property line isn't where I thought it was,but seriously we have a great relationship with our neighbors
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31-Jul-23 08:11am
Sandra C 12043
Doesn't matter to me, I own the next house on my right, and the next 2 on my left. all places have a no smoking policy inside. What they smoke in the backyard/front yard doesn't affect me. Easy enough to terminate the lease at the end of the term.
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31-Jul-23 08:06am
Sheree T
Living in a rural area I don't have that problem. What people do in their back yard is there business unless they were physically hurting someone then I would call the police.
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31-Jul-23 08:05am
CELESTE 1287370
MYOB
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31-Jul-23 07:39am
Gloria 1363293
It is none of my business what my neighbors do. I would only involve myself if children or seniors were involved.
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31-Jul-23 07:32am
Beverly I
i have a Neighbour that occasionally smokes cigarettes. Out side of his place also marijuana out in his back yard i hate the smell but i say nothing if he wants to ruin his health that's his problem. I stay friendly and keep the peace.
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31-Jul-23 07:31am
Rose I 1205334
If it wasn't too inconvenient I would change things so it didn't affect me anymore because honestly what they do is none of my business. So long as it doesn't burn down my house I don't have a problem.
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31-Jul-23 07:27am
pam rae
hi ty zebra
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31-Jul-23 07:22am
Kymberleigh R 733541
If the neighbours want to smoke, drink and do drugs, it's their choice, it will become an issue when it affects you personally. I just keep to myself and it's their life and it is not mind.
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31-Jul-23 07:01am
Lawrence 1262145
Or you could just put a fan by the fence and blow back in there face or tell them to go smoke in there car instead of stinking up your air.
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31-Jul-23 06:59am
Vivian M 867575
I only have sheep for neighbours. They aren't a problem.
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31-Jul-23 06:56am
Lori 1347496
no it is their property and they can do what they want. I Canada both are legal
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31-Jul-23 06:53am
Michael T 852307
Our closest neighbour is 500 metres away so it wouldn't worry me eithervway.
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31-Jul-23 06:50am
Kimberly B 1164566
I have some neighbors that smoke cigarettes and a couple that smoke marijuana. They are at a distance from me however and the smoke and scent mostly just goes away in the open air. The odd time depending on the air I can smell it a little strongly or it lingers a little longer. For me the marijuana is no different than smelling the skunks that roam around at night and if I can ignore the skunk smell then I can ignore the cigarette/marijuana smells. If my neighbor's want to smoke these things or do anything else it is not my concern and if it is how they want to live their life then so be it. If I told my neighbors that it was affecting me they would not care anyway and would not change their habits. I am more concerned with my neighbors getting into my affairs than how they live their own lives.
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31-Jul-23 06:17am
Carol S 657195
I would let them do what they want and not associate with them. I would be friendly and a good neighbor, but not get involved. You say that it affects you. How so? If it affects your health, then I would mention it to them, but I doubt they will stop. You may have to find another option. I don't know if there is legally anything you can do, but you may have to take that route or move which isn't fair to you. Also, do they rent or own? You could tell their landlord and try that.
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31-Jul-23 06:03am
Carolina Z
THANK GOD I NEVER, EVER HAVE EXPERIENCED ANY SUCH
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31-Jul-23 05:58am
Dada WA
Living in a lifestyle village where there are closer and more neighbours with fences only 1/2 the normal height makes for a bit more stress. But at least everyone is over 45 and no kids living here we cope. One thing I do notice is that we know everyone in the street and talk to them all. That never happened in the normal community, I only knew 2 neighbours to speak to. And of course with many varying activities in the village people mix more. All in all I enjoy it.Edited 31-Jul-23 05:59am
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31-Jul-23 05:50am
Lawrence 1262145
Probably
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31-Jul-23 05:43am
Asesh S
We have had neighbors who smoked and partied till 4 or 5 am every weekend but they are gone now. The neighbors we have now are all very good and we do inform each other if there is going to be a party which is nice and respectful of each another. The only noise we have now is of children happily playing outside and having fun which is pretty amazing because nowadays children are either playing computer games or glued to their phones.
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31-Jul-23 05:38am
Bruce 1274521
On the street where I live, for the most part everyone keeps to themselves. I believe that the closer that we live together the further apart we become. I have been in the country side where people live kilometers apart and the neighbours they know each other very well
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31-Jul-23 05:23am
SueM2
A friend of mine once had a neighbour who held loud parties every weekend, that lasted until 5 or 6 am the next morning. One morning, after a particularly bad night, my friend waited until all was quiet next door (at about 7am) then parked his lawn mower next to the fence and pulled the cord, leaving it there until it ran out of fuel. After repeating this exercise a few weeks later, there were no more loud parties.
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31-Jul-23 05:19am
Susan KTC
I believe that what a person does in their own property is their business, however if you are offended by smells use infusers with your favorite oils, we also have a range of incenses ie lemongrass, eucalyptus, that we light and put in the car port, also blessed to be living in the waitakere’s surrounded by trees so don’t seem to have neighbour troubles…Edited 31-Jul-23 05:19am
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31-Jul-23 05:09am
allin
i have 1 neighbor half mile away, he can do whatever he wants,,,,
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31-Jul-23 04:54am
Amy B 1078427
I try not to say things because I don’t want to be called a Karen
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31-Jul-23 04:39am
Victoria 1322770
I have the best neighbours but when they smoke I can't use my yard, porch, or deck at all because I am allergic to cigarette smoke. Thank goodness they are trying to quit!
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31-Jul-23 04:19am
Deborah 1314174
Yes
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31-Jul-23 04:12am
Janice M 1118237
Cant stand certain neighbours
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31-Jul-23 04:09am
Robert F 1161011
I live on the top floor, so my smoke doesn't bother anybody.
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31-Jul-23 04:00am
kristian s 513441
I prefer to stay an away from them.
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