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How do you deal with a best friend who committed suicide
Morenita Jun 30, 24
My best friend of 28yrs committed suicide on June 6, 2024. I ve been feeling like this life is all a dream. My heart aches and I ve lost my appetite. I miss her, and she never mentioned she was hurting or had so many problems that she had to take her own life. Has anyone ever gone through this before and how did you handle it. It s hard for me because I once upon a time I tried it twice, and she didn t let me. She was always there for me.
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  • This happened to me about 20 years ago. My friend had been suffering from depression but had counselling and was feeling much better. She then committed suicide to everyone's surprise
    • People feel better when they have made the decision. It is one of the warning signs.
  • I am so sorry for your loss Morenita. While you are grieving, think about all the wonderful things your friend was to you. Then when you are ready be those things to others. This dedication would be in loving memory of her. Best wishes to you dear lady.
    • 'be those things to others' ...beautiful 馃挏
  • Day by day.
    • I would take it very badly! I would miss her big heart, numerous conversations, and our visits together.
      • That is so very sad. I have never had this happen to anyone I know and it must be very devastating for you. Just know she will forever be in your heart.
        • so sorry for your loss I had 2 incidents which to people did the same thing one was my grandma on my dad's side, and one was a wrangler at an old ranch which is disappointment when people do this
          • So sorry for your loss Morenita. This has never happened to me but I can understand you would be going through the various confusing stages of grief right now. She was stronger than you at your time of darkness and was there for you as your light. Once you've worked through some of this shock ,perhaps you can see that you would never want to think about doing that yourself again and spare your own loved ones this type of pain. You can now be the strength and light down here for your beautiful friend . Keep hold of a couple of strong happy memories you had with her that you can quickly focus back on when you feel yourself falling . She will be always with you. 馃挄xx
            • Please do not blame yourselves when this happens to you. It has nothing to do with you, as much as you know you would've given anything to help. I am a person who has struggled with depression for over 50 years. I am on some strong medication that helps ease my moods but I have been suicidal in many, many instances. Multiple traumas in my life/PTSD, anxiety, depression, .... I have considered ending my life anywhere from a few seconds to a full day. It's been over embarrassment, an extremely abusive man I'd married, money problems, sexual abuse by a pastor, sexual abuse by my grandfather, .... It honestly has nothing to do with anyone close to me and if I ever decided to go through with it, I have nobody to blame but the Monster Inside Me. I have to find reasons to keep going. You cannot do anything about that. Please find some peace in just a wee bit of my story.
              • You sound like a pitiful self pity person. Get real!
            • This year I've got suicide all around me. Just a few days ago a friend's son succeeded, after 4 prior attempts. Plus my son tried twice late last year, he's getting better though. It's crushing and very hard to understand for those left behind because it's a violent and desperate act.
              • We all go at some point, some sooner than others.. anytime I start feeling sorrow over missing loved ones I tell myself, if I were dead looking down on my loved ones, I wouldn't want them to spend their lives feeling sad and sick over me, I'd want to see them enjoying their lives! So try hard for your friend to let her look down on you as she knew you, not sickly in sorrow
                • Just deal with it! Life goes On! Go to a counsellor. Rewardian is not the place for SOB stories. It's meant to be fun! Nowadays all you get on this site is people and their problems. Sick of it!馃槖
                  • Yes I have lost the Godfather to my first born and he was 27. He was under treatment but nothing stopped the inevitable with him. It is sad and difficult for the ones left behind who feel like they should have known. His mother felt nothing but anger and his father aged over night. People left behind especially parents, siblings and friends feel the loss. You will hurt but it will lessen with time. Just remember the good times and smile and laugh about these memories. Always remember tomorrow is another day and things will look better.

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