yes i am after a sincere relationship but cannot find one after being hurt it makes you feel on your guard

Rennie D, don't sweat it, you wont find love looking for it, enjoy life and chips will fall as they may, and it will find you,, i promise ;-)

Hi Rennie D I also want to say when I did first meet my now husband it was a physical relationship at first. I would say friends first and friends with benefits and then he fell for me first and we did fall in love and we are both in second marriages to each other so it can happen. If it is meant to be it will happen and when you least expect it too.

i didn't realize one night stands were a problem, unless of course you can't find any ;-))

Last year, on the television news, I heard that a lady over in USA had paid to place a giant advertisement on a billboard to find a partner for her daughter and she got lots of replies...but can be very dangerous and costly

I have never cared for one night stands, if i am going to sleep with someone, i want to spend the rest of my life with them. Maybe this is why i have only had 2 serious relationships (my hubby of 18 years is the 2nd relationship). I am sure the right person is out there for you Rennie... Just go out, do what you enjoy and hopefully your next relationship will be out there too at the same activity/event as you are.

older single adults well it is hard to find someone that you can live out the rest life with are become companions but keep going and you find the right one I think never give up he or she may be just a block away from you live and have fun looking.

are there no people on there wanting a relationship the same as yourself.

My hubby and I have been married for 52 years now - not interested in any other relationship

happily married for 41 years& not interested for either

Also married 50 years and not interested in either.

MARRIED 50 YEARS . CAN'T HELP

I have been married for 56 years so unable to comment.

What age range are you looking at?

No,38 years of marriage in June.Very happy and content with my Loving family.I'm a lucky bugger!!

Not interested, happy with my life with baggage.

It's best to have a friend who may be able to introduce you to nice women.It's hard for older single women too, most mature aged men are after younger women

Yah mate I wish you good luck in relationships.

Hmm i personally wouldn't go on a dating site- unless it was a pet one for my wee doggie to have a doggie walk date :)

I am so sorry that you have had this experience. I found the same thing from men on dating sites. Fortunately, I did find a true gentleman & six years later we are truly good friends & plan to spend our twilight years together. I am now 63 & my friend is 70. Do not give up Rennie. I admire your courage to try to find happiness.

I hope you find a lasting relationship Rennie. I have been with the same partner since 1977. Relationships have their ups and downs, but we have worked through them. Take care.

I don't know I just hope the one I am with loves me I am not 100%sure some times hope every can find some one and have a good time and life and fell safe

Hi Rennie, I don't think it's just women. I joined 2 of the paid subscription memberships of the supposedly "serious relationship" sites and are struggling to make any real connection. I think it's a combination of the culture of online dating apps, combined with the fantasy and transactional aspect. My girlfriends who have been on them said you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince, well I guess in reverse you have to take out a lot of princesses till you find your queen. lol

Yes - I would agree with you re a lot of people on those sites. There are some genuine ones. You just have to be careful. I am on one of those sites. I made it extremely clear what I was after - including not interested in one night stands. I simply said - CONTROL FREAKS AND ONE NIGHT STANDERS DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME WITH ME. Think they got the message ... hahaha Good luck to you.

I'm lucky. My one night stand has lasted 46 years.

I'd rather stay on my own.

No

Nope

I'm been single for about 4 years....it's taken that long to get over it and because of that relationship I'm scared to find someone but then I'm scared of dying alone...I'm 64 and gay...

I am 51 too but I am in a relationship. It was hard to find some one after a long term relationship break up. Yes there are places you can go for a hook up but it is hard to find some one who wants what you do too. Not every one wants just to hook up for a fling so I would say be honest straight up. Ask all the questions first, met new people at the local RSL or a pub. You may find a friend who can find some one they know or work with. My hubby and I met through some friends we had and they had a private night club so we met there. I know it can be daunting but hang in there and good luck, fingers crossed.

Sorry can not comment been happily married for 38 years never used a dating site

I was in an abusive relationship and marriage for 40 years, I never knew another man. I went on a dating site and was pursued by a "man" who was homosexual, and foisted upon me by the ex. Sooooo...I'm just steering clear of any dating, or involvement of sex, companionship or otherwise. It is terrrible as I am a kind person and crave love and attention just like ay other woman. Too many people out there who are criminals, who want to take your property etc. I am living the life of a nun.

I've been single 15 years now. Not looking, but if something stumbles upon me. I'd look into companionship.....not one-night stands. yukky. I'd rather take a "relationship" that's does not include sex. but it's hard to find a man like that. So single it is. I am a young 56Edited 26-Apr-22 12:20pm

I used a dating site very briefly after my divorce, but honestly it was more to test the waters and myself to see if I was actually up for dating again. I did meet a few nice men and went on a couple of dates, but there was no spark and most were too hurt by their previous relationship breakdowns to be ready for a new one and I'm not sure I was really ready either. I honestly I found it all a bit too much and just didn't bother anymore. My kids were still young and they were my first priority. I think for some people when you have been in a long term relationship and it breaks down jumping into another serious one too soon is not always a good idea, so I am not against relationships for fun, rather than commitment. As long as both people understand and freely consent I have no issue. If things progress and it feels right and fits for both sides great, if not chalk it up to experience I guess. I've simply decided I am no longer interested and do not ever expect to partner up again, I would certainly not ever live with someone again.

I don’t want either, I have my darling of 52 years and I’m not changing……lol

I have heard mainly bad stories about the internet, with the exception of one. A friend got married after she met someone on one of those sites. I have heard that men only use them as hook-up sites. I am off the market so wouldn't know.

I tried all the sites, groups, and friend introductions. It never worked out. When I finally accepted that I might never find that person after a divorce, I met my now husband of almost 11 years. So maybe if you sit back and when you least expect it , that person will find you. And there is a 21 year age difference between me and my husband. He is 59 and me almost 38. But he accepted my then 7 and 4 year old sons. My oldest has now come to call him daddy at times. And he is 18 now.

nightstands have never occurred to me, not in my single days . I am 49 years old been married for 24 years my husband passed away 3 years ago, I have a 25-year-old son, not even as a widow I would put up with one-night stands they are dirty and it's like going to a public toilet.

I've never used a dating site to find someone. I've always met someone through in person social networks or online hobbies. I would suggest to join groups that you are interested in and meet new people that way.

I have always believed dating sites are not the way to go ahead in a relationship. these sites cause more harm than good I still see myself old fashion and I am proud of it and for sure a decent woman who really wants a serious relationship with a strong value in mind long-term commitment to marriage/family does not need to expose herself on dating sites.

I've given up.... am so used to singledom now I don't think I could be in a relationship

I don't trust dating sites .

I don't like or agree with this one night stand. . They say, they are having fund . Are you selling your body in one night stand or how many one night stand you take to satisfy your lust, every time you want to have fun . I have one word for that, and it starts with W ......... . If someone has been dating someone and, is rejected. That rejection is with dignity. If you have a one night stand with someone, and he/she wants to continue, then you become a { taxi } so to speak W .....

After just celebrating 62 years married - I think its worth waiting for the right one to come along

My daughter is in your age group and finds that all her recent efforts have been of fellows who feel they are 'Studs' looking for one- night stands or poor out of touch wallflowers. Mind I'm not going to suggest anything to you or her as to what if any solution there is to this ancient problem.

THE internet is for faux Pax, You will never find anyone on internet unless you want one night stands. Get a dog, you meet more real people over a dog. Join a club, keep away from the pickup places. Use the brain God gave you.

It's almost impossible to find someone with the same values, who wants the same things as you, especially on internet dating. It surprises me that you're saying women only want one night stands. I thought it was just the men who didn't want commitment! I gave up on dating about 8 years ago. If it comes, then great, if it doesn't, then I'm quite happy in my own company. All the best Rennie, I hope you find someone awesome :)

No

I think that a lot of women have come out of difficult/complicated relationships, and may be hesitant to enter another, particularly if they have children. Just start with fun (skip the one night stand), and build on it from there, see what happens.

I really feel for you Rennie D, it is a minefield out there. However there are still some very decent people out there. I wish you well.

I'm not looking but guess it's a minefield of the kind of people one comes across in ones quest for what onw has decided upon. Maybe just maybe the one-night-standers are just testing the waters ?? The only bit of advice I can offer is 2lines from a poem I wrote""We search for love till it finds usAnd in searching we find it binds us" ... hope this of some use to you and good luck, hope you are successful.

Most women? I am politely wondering where you are meeting these women you speak of. Perhaps you need to try a different place for finding someone who wants the same as you. Have a think about where and how you have been meeting the 'wrong' women and then think of other places you could get to know someone new.

I had the same issue with men, so I gave up, and I'm living alone and hate it!

When in doubt, don't.

Forget the dating sites, they look like trouble to me! Take up an activity that both men & women enjoy and if you meet someone there, at least you know you have something in common to start your relationship off.

I am single parent of one and I am not in any type of relationship with no one.

Anything is better than nothing

I’m a fulltime single parent with 3 children and I’m happy on my own, I only got used in the two relationships Ive had. Didn’t feel loved at all!

I had to have a lot of one night stands to actually find the one. I say go on dates and eventually you’ll find someone. Hopefully it doesn’t take long.

All i attract seem to be scammers or those wanting me to sign up to a website.

Be very wary of dating sites because on all of those sites there are thousands of fake profiles and thousands of profiles from real people who filled in a profile then never return to the site. These are facts as I use to work in the industry so I know how it works. 1) Most dating sites trick people into thinking it is FREE to join so they fill in their profile and then find out if they want to send or read replies to /from anyone they have to pay a fee...Resulting in some of those people never returning to the site because they do not want to pay BUT their profiles remain on the site to make it look like the site has much more members than they actually have. 2) When any site has not had a lot of new members join up for a while they make up a lot of fake profiles to look like they have a lot of new members. 3) When you do manage to come across REAL people and REAL profiles they very often look different from their profile photos, and often not what they seem. 4) These days a LOT of scammers use those sites with fake profiles to scam money out of lonely people. IF they often come up with excuses to delay meeting face to face they are scammers. 5) Based on my own experiences on those sites I have met a lot of scammers and a lot of people who are not what they seemed, met many crazy people PLUS met one who broke into my home and tried to kill me, and met 2 who robbed me. I gave up using dating sites years ago because of those reasons but I am now 65yo, single, and looking and living in country Victoria, Australia

I don’t do anytime dating site for I am not looking forward to any relationship

I've never used a dating site, but my niece met her fiancé through one - their wedding will be in June.

Nup. Divorced at 42 and stayed single since and now 72. Never wanted to get back into a relationship again. However, dating sites are a bit iffy at the best of times. Yes some people find a partner and even marry but not often. I suppose friends, work, yes church and clubs you might meet someone. It is harder for women though.

Married (with no kids) - once (I don't make the same mistake twice in a row) - if I re-married - I will lose my generous alimony check (monthly) from my ex-wife. After being married, I got into fun and one-night stands - till the pandemic made an appearance. I grudgingly took a "vow of sexual abstinence" till the pandemic is over (looks like the pandemic is never going to end) :-))!Edited 26-Apr-22 07:29am

Once you reach 50 you are entering a "twilight zone" I think...the earlier rush of partners disappeared a long time ago...now you have mainly divorcees or widows...maybe others who didn't fit in possibly many of them just need some love and affection...not a new full on relationship...when you were 18 you probably wanted fun and one-night stands too?...a woman's sex drive can work in the opposite direction to a man's... Edited 26-Apr-22 00:17am

Good luck with your search Rennie, but you're behind the eight-ball there, with that one. I have a few friends in similar situation to you, who have found success looking in other areas instead of dating sites... the name may say it all - dating sites. If you're a Church-goer maybe start there. Same interest in at least one regard there, right? Personally, I'd avoid 'singles' clubs like the plague, to meet anyone for long term relationships, but that's just from someone who has no interest in such a quest. But another friend was actually engaged to someone she met at a bushwalking club - again, that similar interest thingy is handy! Look at your hobbies/interests and see if there are like minded clubs near you. Or, think about starting a club yourself: bird-watching, nature photography/walking, cake decorating, wood-working, card playing, scrabble clubs May get kudos points if it's a little more unusual - painting, art - ie sculpting/clay work, Rock hounding.(collectors), exercise clubs like early morning walking. Your local council/Church may be a good place to visit for ideas/clubs for you to join/start up in your area. Councils will help in providing info on anything you need to do re safety/council regulations in starting a club of your own. Bon Chance!Edited 26-Apr-22 14:01pm

It is very hard to meet people. A lot of women do not want a guy with kids...sorry to say. Try looking at the grocery store or church.

I won't use a dating site, 52 and tried it last year, just briefly, and it's nothing but a meat market in my opinion. I wouldn't want a relationship with anyone unless I knew some things about them. There is so much mental illness going on nowadays until you really need to get to know someone and I feel that you would need to know something about them before considering even dating. Dating apps may work for some, not all. It's very hard being able to gather things(emotions, mental illnesses and etc.) unless you really ask questions and dedicate some time into it, especially if you are utilizing the "online" method, people are very deceptive nowadays. I find truth, integrity, discipline and spirituality to be my main factors in looking for a relationship with a man and I haven't ran across it yet, and I'll be single until I do.