I hope the cars go in the garage. It never ceases to amaze me how many people keep $2000 worth of rubbish in their garages and leave $40,000 plus cars on the driveway or the road., to be depreciated by weather and sunshine.

and theft - joy riders - or smashed into......Edited 30-Aug-24 12:30pm

He has a large dresser and the walk in closet, all full.

It sounds by the look of things scrolling down .. your man actually has too much room! And that is the problem. After watching quite a few hoarding shows and being a semi one myself haha , a lot of it's based around anxiety or purely sentimental values. You sound like you've done an amazing job so far and as he's 81 now it's tricky to let his old habits go. But if something or someone had to move into the garage per say .. or you had to downsize to another place ,he'll have no choice but to make a few decisions . Tread gently ..go through the memory of the items with him .. have in mind someone in particular who may love it ? I know you've probably most likely done this before !! I spent a full year helping a 70 yr old woman clear her 5 bdrm house for sale . Each item i wrapped up or put in a box she had a story for ! I listened ..we laughed ... then it went to its proper place ..either gone for good or up on a new display shelf etc .. Once we could see the floor in one room ,l swear I would come back the next day and she'd have pulled out a box or 2 and taken things out again to use! We got there eventually . 🙃Edited 01-Sep-24 16:01pm

seriously I don't know how or why I put up with the maggot for 40 years!!! Been divorced for over a decade, anything that is still here that he had his a$$ on or in is going OUT!!! I am seriously considering sage cleansing

lol.

Yes, I don't mind him having a lot of things, however, it is adding up each year and as it adds up it piles up too, and something has to go to make room, i throw out a lot of my things when I clean, and i refuse to throw out his things, however, I had him help me with the cleaning, so he could decide what he could do without and wouldn't be so hard on him.

good way☺

It was so neat, one item my husband had for years and refused to wear was a really nice heavy vest. He and I went to the senior center, and gave it to a homeless man, it was such a blessing to us all. What my husband had refused to wear, this homeless man cherished as his greatest possession.

I agree with you about womens shoes and handbags fully, you are totally correct on this one. And......I had him help me, so he chose what should stay or go. I didn't force him, and he was so happy seeing how clean everything is now.

"Forced", "coaxed" ... "potayto", "potarto" ... every husband or child knows what it means when their wife / mother "suggests" they do something. 😉

I had let this go on for over 28 years, some things had to be out of here, and I let him keep what he wanted to keep.

He’s a lucky man! 🌸

I am cleaning out my closets getting rid of anything I do not think I will ever wear also.

What I took out of there was actually nothing important and nothing that was his, what I did was make room to move his 4 guitars, banjo, keyboard etc underneath his clothes. Now, he can walk to the back of the walk in closet to get to his clothes much better. No, I think he was actually relieved to make room next to his bed, on his dresser, and in his closet. We even took the time to put him out new socks, T-shirts, and underwear, I told him to take out some he feels is stretched or worn. He did it, and this is so much better now, he loves it too. We have been married for 28 years now, and things just built up. I am getting a lot of things out that belongs to me also. Edited 28-Aug-24 00:22am

I agree totally and I have been getting my things moved out all along that I do not need, donated a lot to our church, gave to many different things, etc.

He has so many medical items everywhere and he has to have those, but some were papers he had from years and years ago. He has all kinds of guitars, banjo's, keyboard, fiddle, music all kinds of things, stacks and stacks.

No one is picking on anyone Paul, hey, I let my husband keep all his 4 guitars, his banjo, his keyboard, his music, his fiddle, everything just tidy up and put some off the dresser on the top walk in closet shelf. Hey, I even gave him the only walk in closet, how many wives would do that????? But see now, we have his oxygen, his inhalers, his multiple medication, his knee braces, his compression socks, all kinds of new things to add to the other. He is 81 years young now. Things change as we get older. He had probably 200 billed hats, he didn't need that many. And........I am responsible to make sure he doesn't fall.Edited 28-Aug-24 00:30am

At my husbands request, we are getting rid of all his pants, and getting him new ones that are shorter and strechy as the others are honestly too long now and also too baggy. I got him a couple pair of the stretchy blue jeans last Christmas and he loves them, they fit him better and so we will go with new blue jeans that are not so baggy on him. He has lost a lot of height due to his age and having cancer. He has to wear suspenders, I remember when he got so upset when I got the suspenders, he now knows he has to wear them, he has lost weight. I am ordering him inseam of 28 this year which is hard to find. He still is 34 around the waist, however, with the stretchy bluejeans, they look so much better on him.Edited 28-Aug-24 00:35am

My wife tells me to clean up. It even feel like I have to tell her she is so obsessed with cleaning she is telling me to clean the mess before it is even made. it is irritating.

A garage sale might help?

And what about your abundance of clothes and shoes and make up stuff.!!!. Give the guy a break...

After 28 years of marriage, I believe it is time, don't you?????????????????????????????????????????????????? Time to clean out our things.

And for the record...........................I AM cleaning out my things too.

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Yes, TOOLS go in the storage shed or garage, not in the KITCHEN. LOL.

We have double sinks and half has his things my half has my things, I share.

Nope,but you are mire patient than me .I would have either bought something with a shelf by now or finished it myself.

My husband is the same way, and I did not throw out his things, I let him decide what to throw away and what to keep. I throw out my own things.

Defineately not.

No, my husband is 81, I am 68.

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You can keep everything ... you just need to buy bigger and bigger houses to keep it all in. 😉Edited 27-Aug-24 08:07am

or a storage shed and man cave like mine has

At least your honest about it..sort of in a funny but equally annoying way

By the time he'd spent the energy putting on his gloves and writing things Rochelle ,he could have darn well done the dusting himself!!!

LOL! Thanks! ;-D

It has been this way over 28 years, time for me to go back to a clean living life. lol.

and then u brag your poor hubby

Everyone's different,my rule for myself is if it doesn't have a place/ spot where it belongs then I don't need it/ buy it/ keep it. As I am the one doing all the cleaning.

I think you are right Linda, and honestly, I let it go till it got so bad it was a fire hazzard, like the older he got the worse it got.

I did this, he came back there and threw fits about anything I wanted to get rid of and to put up on a shelf, so I let him make the decisions on what he wants to throw away or to keep

Like me! Anything for a quiet life eh? 😉

Yes, after 28 years, is definately time.