I have to agree with Roger on this one.... I am 54, bring up 6 kids and 1 grandson on my own. I've only ever had part time or years ago, under the counter jobs so I have not one cent for retirement. My kids told me if I tried to get any of my ex's super they wouldn't speak too me again so I didn't and now regretting it. I still have my grandson as he is autistic and needs me so been his carer for 16 years. Only a year ago got a small part time job and now I'm thinking of starting to put away for superannuation so I get something on retirement. I think this happens to lots of women to be truthful

making the same silly mistakes I made

Nothing

Not setting aside for retirement. I always had minimum wage jobs and now looking at retirement and it is going to be tight financially.

Also thinking about the past, but my thoughts always go to things I've lost, things I did, or didn't do, and all of my regrets that only cause the pain to repeat itself over and over. It's a work in progress to Let Go, and Let God! ;-D

Procrastinating. This is my bad trait!

In this life, there are only two things possible, Good deeds and bad deeds. So you can not have one or the other. you have both. You are not good all the time, and you are not bad all the time. The Bible says -No one is perfect, but Jesus the Son of God. We teach our children to do what is best for them, but temptation is strong

I hear what you are saying Andrzej as sometimes I reflect on things I could have done or not done said or not said. That is how we learn to be better as we mature and get older. My qualities such as anger and/or stubbornness are gone now and I am so thankful I learned from those experiences. Let me say, however, those traits came in handy to defend myself and others who were being picked on when I was young. As far as my adult children go, they have their own work to do on themselves as they see fit. P.S. I witnessed my grand son displaying his anger at his mom at the skating rink when he fell on the ice with no mitts on. He had initially asked for his mitts from his mom. She replied the mitts were very wet and that we were just going to the car and so did not give them to him. When he fell, he shouted in anger, “See Mom I told you so, I did need my mitts.” He was right and so was his Mom. lol Tread as lightly as you can in life and do not beat yourself up over the past. Learn from them and then let them go. We are born with qualities either we want to work on or not. It is up to us. Best wishes.

I don't want my children to give up on things they find too hard I use to when I was younger now I am more into giving things a go turns out alot of things I gave up on I'm actually good at wish I hadn't given up years ago I tell my children never give up on your hopes and dreams and if you don't understand anything ask for help

OCD

Not to avoid confrontation. To be able to speak up and present a good arguement.

i encourage my child to keep going

I don't want my child to have a low opinion of him or her self growing up.

Self-doubt.

Caring too much for others before caring for myself. If I am not well, both mentally and physically the quality of caring deminishes for others.Edited 14-Jan-25 01:27am

Andrzej J, if it's something in your past that cannot be changed or that you have no power to fix, please accept it has happened and forgive the other people. You only give them more power to hurt you by giving them the time that you spend thinking about them, when that time could be spend reading or walking or visiting a friend or something else that you enjoy. And forgive yourself for being taken advantage of and not knowing what would happen. Sometimes we trust and bad people take advantage of that trust. There is light in this world and there is darkness. If you believe in God, ask Him to help you focus on your future. I'm praying for you to find peace.

I am very sentimental, and I do not want either of my kids (grown adults now), to be like I am in thsi regard. I hold onto alot of childhood memories and material things because I am not able to let go, and it causes great pain to me at times. I don't want them to be like this and to have to deal with this sort of emotion all the time. Often it sneaks up on me, comes out of nowhere, and I find myself in tears (from triggers I guess). I want them to be more resilent that I am. I'm 66.

I wouldn't want my kids to get so angry at bad drivers. Not road rage but I sometimes say things I know I shouldn't and the little birdies have flown out my window more than a few times. I'm ashamed of myself and am working on it.

A moot question for me as I don't have a child, and I never wanted to have a child; any undesirable characteristic trait(s) - verbally and physically cannot be passed down (or inherited on a DNA level) to my child from me (because none exist)!Edited 14-Jan-25 13:51pm

Can't think of a thing; I'm perfect!😀😊😍🤩

Not to be so trusting of others.

Non-trusting. I trust no one!

I am a Gael/Celtic/Irish by descent- 4th generation and with it I have a violent temper to match my moods. If I ever did have a kid even an adopted kid, I would want him or her to have a violet temper where one must hit things or people to quell his or her rages.