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Why do women hardly compliment men?
Andrzej JFeb 23, 25
The answer is simple, a lot of women think guys take compliments as more than what they are intended to be. If a woman complimented a guy on his nice haircut or a pair of jeans, then it's a good chance he could take that the wrong way. What would you say? Why do women hardly compliment men?
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  • Furnishing compliments to strangers isn't at all necessary, except as an opener to whatever the responses are. Complimenting the males/females closest to you can be endearing and highly appreciated.....makes for warm family gatherings with even more meaningful conversations and less flattery.
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    • women might hesitate to compliment men, feeling it could be misinterpreted as flirting. Especially in professional settings. It takes few women who are bold to compliment men.
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      • all people both genders need compliments, receiving positive feedback for a job well done, a good haircut, whatever the reason gives positive feedback and raises self-esteem, im a trackies /t-shirt and thongs guy, losing my hair and gaining wrinkles,, the only compliments I get are what a cool t-shirt, but back in the day if i received a compliment I was embarrassed, I have always noticed changes [male or female] in peoples appearances, I think if you ignore them people get offended, so I have always acknowledged haircuts or dress styles, whatever the case, it doesn't mean I want to meet you behind the canteen, i once bought a dress for an employee because she had nothing to wear to one of her kid's graduations i went to the shop with her told it looked gorgeous paid for it, she was miserable not wanting to work we finished our work in no time she had a great night and according to everything im reading it was a sexual proposition,far from it i am married to my family and being nice to people isn't a crime
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        • Yes Robert ,but you are a one in a million salt of the earth type .Don't ever change 🥰
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        • boy blunderLiane H
          thank you bud im a little embarrassed, but you take compliments for what they are, you don't assume anything do you☺️ I've been brought up with rules and morals a lot of things are coming back into fashion perhaps they will, along with common sense and intelligence,
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        • Liane H boy blunder
          Most females with any intellect can tell a slimebag from a diamond .l wouldn't worry! ;)) lt's all in the delivery ain't it ?! 😀😉
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        • boy blunderLiane H
          exactly, i mean Kacey and her mates were all here getting dolled up to go to a concert i said I think they all looked killer [smiles all round]
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        • Liane H boy blunder
          Haa :) We had a neighbour growing up..she was like our adopted sister . Her dad always used to greet us with calling us a "bevy of beauties " . We never took offence ! Bless him, he just passed last year .
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      • Thank you Danielle R
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        • I have had some nice ladies compliment me. I don't know about the other. I say just please say thank you and it should make you feel good. I had a nice lady compliment me on holding the door open for her and she gave me the loveliest compliment that I have never had before, wow did it make me feel great and it made my day.
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          • because most of the men out there have swollen heads already!!!
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            • Because we have a man-hating culture now :(
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              • that is life!
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                • Because men have ego 's bigger that jupiter
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                  • I do. If I like what I see I say it.
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                    • I like getting compliments
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                      • Possibly because most women complimenting a guy might be perceived as flirting or trying to manipulate to some extent.
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                        • Men and women think so differently, but I’ve never noticed a lack of compliments from either side
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                          • Because they are selfish.
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                            • My husband makes brief compliments but not very often
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                              • Yes, men usually take a compliment the wrong way.
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                                • what if the "wrong way" as you describe it was what was intended?
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                                • The wrong way wouldn't be made by me.
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                              • Who said, as I like to tell men what I like and encourage them
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                                • Men think that when women compliment it is a come on. They constantly think about sex. They'll look for every opportunity to get it - at least I think most men are like that.
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                                  • oh dear
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                                  • I think you should have started that statement with most men maybe?
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                                • Usually if I am complimenting a guy who is not related to me, even I have in the back of my mind a flirting neon light flashing in my subconscious, even if that's not my intention
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                                  • I have compliment from women, quite regularly. But then I complement women on a regular basis.
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                                    • I compliment men that are family or friends all the time. I compliment other men much more carefully and usually in the presence of my husband so there is no misunderstanding. I think most everyone likes to be respectfully complimented.
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                                      • because he probobly wants to show love or friendship to bf or boy mate to see if he looks good or just complimeting him
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                                        • I compliment my husband all the time, and he blushes.
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                                          • Because it is a rare man who will compliment a woman, unless there was an ulterior motive.
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                                            • B/S
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                                            • gosh, look at all the sad comments coming in. Is the man/woman thing really this bad?
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                                            • no faith anymore, I know I am 1 guy and I am sure there are plenty more who treat women the way they should be treated, i am beginning to understand political correctness a bit more
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                                            • I DID say rare.... NOT NO MEN.
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                                            • boy blunderrobyn m 1081749
                                              I compliment women all the time even if my compliment is false as in I don't think the change suits, it is better to acknowledge the person's effort to change for the better, and i am sure there are a lot of others think the same maybe i am wrong this is my opinion only
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                                          • Boy oh Boy! Since I come from a family that was equal in sons and daughters, we felt that it was right to compliment our brothers when they achieved various goals in there life, including getting their first girlfriend. I don't remember too many compliments but I'm sure they told us if we looked good in our new jeans or first dress up suits and they gave there judgments on our boyfriends. I know that many of the members here both male and female have bad times during their lives which has influenced how they respond to both their own and the opposite sex. However a casual compliment should not stir such deep hurts as what I have noticed on this rather trivial question.
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                                            • Guys aren't good at taking compliments or don't care what they look like
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                                              • i like a guy, we are not in a relationship, though i would like that, but i compliment him all the time
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                                                • He's obviously not into you or he would make a move. Lol
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                                              • I wonder if maybe many men already think of themselves as wonderful so therefore the women who know them don't think they need to have their morale boosted any further. Anyway that seems to be my experience - but I endorse the mistaken "come on" that may be taken if a woman compliments a man she's not related to.
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                                                • this should be done in an open forum more then four to five in the group in that way there no question of the intent.
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                                                  • I compliment almost as many men as I do women, but it is tricky with strange men, because yes sometimes they do take it as more. A shame. We raised our son to be understanding and appreciate it.
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                                                    • Most men, in my opinion don't need another woman to compliment them
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                                                      • I disagree with the premise entirely. Women - I know - do compliment the men in their lives. As I do aswell. As a mother, it is essential that I highlight the positive things (behaviour, achievements, disposition, attitudes etc…) my two adolescent boys display. As their primary female role model and mentor, I am (in part) responsible for the ‘making of men.’ My hope is, that compliments, praise and ongoing celebrations of all things - no matter, the size or scope, will reinforce their own positive sense of self. I too compliment my partner: Firstly, because he is - as I am, deserving of these goodwill gifts. We all enjoy (regardless of, perhaps a little shyness at times). It can lift our spirits to hear something nice about ourselves. Secondly, it mindfully reaffirms for each of us, what we like in the other. It may only be a nice comment about how he is dressed, or the enjoyable scent of a cologne he decided to wear. All of it makes the difference. Spoken with sincerity, these brief interactions become the cumulative strength of a healthy relationship. It is intimacy, spread over the entire day. To suggest - as a general rule - that women rarely compliment men, does not equate (at all) to any of my lived experience or settings. I wonder who, and where this notion was founded? The evidence I see, and align myself with, says quite the contrary. As I am not considered marginalised, or a significantly unique demographic in our population’s majority, my values and expectations (familial and social) would be considered particularly generic. Instead, I propose that in fact, we do compliment the men in our lives. Perhaps, it be better looking at why we can’t see or hear them?
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                                                        • In case they think you're coming on to them.
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                                                        • I have not noticed that.
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                                                          • Men take a compliment as if it's a pick up line.
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                                                            • I don't think that is true....maybe you are hanging out with the wrong women?
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                                                              • Cause men are ignorant and would assume you was up to something
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                                                                • yet another sweeping generalisation
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                                                              • Yes, always tell my grandsons and sons that they look nice & thank them for being polite and remembering their manners or helping with things I can no longer do around the house🥰
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                                                                • I compliment my husband often on how he looks and the things he does when he is repairing things, he is very handy to have around. I also compliment my son on what he has achieved in his life.
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                                                                  • And he being then valued will do even more.!!!.
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                                                                • Yeah if the man says some thing nice sure why not, I always tell my hubby he's doing a great job, he looks good after a hair cut etc etc. Gosh we can't compliment them too much - They get big heads HAHAHAHA I also said when the electricians were here they smell good so hubby got some nice smelling deodorant so he now smells good too.
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                                                                  • That’s not true I compliment my husband all the time more then he does me for sure .
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                                                                    • They are always far too busy looking into a mirror
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                                                                      • Not sure but it is a two way street
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                                                                        • I compliment men.
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                                                                          • Confidence may be a reason, but mostly women have the wrong idea about me. Men come across more confident or dominent in many ways, and as women I believe we don't think our compliments matter or make a difference to a man, or we don't want them to get the wrong idea. I'm not saying this for everyone, but generally speaking. I think we should start complimenting men more in general.
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                                                                            • I always compliment my husband and son especially when they get a hair cut. If they have done something I wanted done, it actually takes them a while to do it, I more often than not tell them thank you and aren't you wonderful or you are fantastic, all words to that affect. I have even complimented males, young and old, when I go shopping and they have helped me. It really isn't that hard escpecially if they deserve it.
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                                                                              • Maybe some women think that they're the prize.i would compliment any that keeps his appearance on point.
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                                                                                • It’s the way you express it & mean it!
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                                                                                  • Grommie gets "what a good boy" more often than I do.
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                                                                                    • My wife said that she only gave compliments when they were deserved. It has been a quiet year so far.
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                                                                                      • Haha
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                                                                                    • its not a one way street
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                                                                                      • i think women have the wrong idea men love a compliment just as a woman does but it all depends on which men they are talking about
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                                                                                        • I went to Church Today and I was shaking hands with my female Friends who wished me well this week .Michael
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                                                                                          • ndrzej may be on to something. a
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                                                                                            • I find these days in the workplace people rarely make any comments about other peoples appearance or behaviour because they are afraid it will be taken the wrong way and they will be reported to HR for harassment!
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                                                                                              • HI, TY Robert T ,,,,797718
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                                                                                                • I compliment my hubby on how nice he looks or when he cooks a nice meal but he never compliments me.
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                                                                                                  • Some people like to be fluffed and some just like to be ... you can guage in general in your friends who loves a compliment so give it , male or female. In others if it is genuine and delivered correctly, I mean it shouldn't really cause any problems I find anyway. Men will always be on the lookout for a sideline so regardless I just tread carefully haha! God luv em .
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                                                                                                    • Women think they will be complimented all the time by men to make them happy.
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                                                                                                      • very few are anjels
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                                                                                                        • It isn't just some men who "take it the wrong way". Many women do as well. I gave up a LONG LONG time ago being anything more than simply polite with people, partly because so many silly women went nutso ... even simply saying happy birthday caused some women to act like I had just asked them to marry me. 🙄
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                                                                                                          • Don't agree. Today women would rather criticise and complain. The criticise men becaus, according to them, men cannot multi-task. Its not that they can't but that they would rather, at least, TRY to do each job as well as possible so that they don't have to go back and do it all again. Today people are not promoted upon Merit, Experience they are appointed to the top jobs because and only bercause they are women and as a result they have become arrogant and look down on all men, some of whom deserve it but the vast majority do not. Today even glance at a women and you are accused of either abusing or stalking them, hold a door open to a women and the most likely scenario is you get verbally abused by them. Compliment them and they will accuse you of attempted sexual abuse or, at best, of trying to pick them up.
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                                                                                                            • I don't understand this issue of holding a door open for a woman ..This isn't the first time I have seen a post similar. If a male walked in front of me without holding the door I would think it rude of him ?! Unless of course it was a fairly busy place and I wasn't directly behind him or next to him .. As for accepting a compliment I can do that too without claiming sexual abuse ,they are two very different things . It's all in the delivery of the compliment now isn't it and exactly what is being complimented?
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                                                                                                            • I think you may be hanging around the wrong women mate. Though with this attitude I would imagine they are mostly avoiding you.
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                                                                                                            • well said bud but gee im thinking I might keep my compliments to myself in the future,im really bad with terms of endearment i thought i was being nice obviously I am heading for trouble
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                                                                                                          • Women see men as a competitive influence in many areas. They wish to see men as less than women, plus they do not want adverse sexual attention as they wish to stay in control at all times.
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                                                                                                            • Where do you live? Shot seems like there is a crazy world out there, We never had that problem SOME women and Men take compliments wrong way... But why stop. Our women dont have your problem
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                                                                                                              • I do compliment my man but he doesn't in return soooo.......
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                                                                                                                • Men need to be able to take a complement, be humble and move on as there is more than likely no flirting intended. I have had women compliment me, being a reserved person, I just be polite and thank the person who complemented. Gender equality must be acknowledged in this day and age.
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                                                                                                                  • Yes agree because some men take as if you are flirting with him
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                                                                                                                    • some men,, not all,, well said not all bravo to you young lady
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                                                                                                                  • Do not want to come across as flirting
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                                                                                                                    • I do compliment men I just preface it with….. I am not trying to crack on but your eyes are amazing blue for eg
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                                                                                                                      • you've already answered the question. in a world that is striving for equality, then yes, women and men should be able to compliment each other without fear of a negative response, but reality is, we are overthinking and analysing everything that is being said today.
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                                                                                                                        • A lot of guys feel that the compliment is a 'flirt'....
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                                                                                                                          • Husband or partners are different, but generally men like work mates or friends then yes I would agree. Some men would take it the wrong way some wouldn’t
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                                                                                                                            • My husbands love language is words of affirmation a hard one as its not mine but I have learnt over the years that all it takes is to tell him what a great job he is doing looking after his family, if he makes me a cuppa tea I thank him and tell him is lovely. Sounds over the top but if its what they need to hear that's what you give. Or someone else will and then you lose them.
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                                                                                                                              • I always compliment my husband goes both ways
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                                                                                                                              • Don't know.
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                                                                                                                                • Maybe sometimes men will misinterpret the compliments of a women.
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                                                                                                                                  • Many with compliments cannot be trusted honestly.
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                                                                                                                                    • Now what do you think a woman is thinking if a man compliments her ? Is she not thinking the same thing? No it doesn't have to be anything ore than someone making a comment on how nice someone looks.
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                                                                                                                                      • Because they think they should be complimented first. It is the wrong thing to do. Men deserve it also
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                                                                                                                                        • One does not necessarily need to compliment on physical attributes. People are open to compliments on kind actions, words, "that was a great meal", ir 'I really enjoy your company ".
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                                                                                                                                          • Most men have little to be complemented about - women are not short of handing out compliments when there's a reason to do so.
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                                                                                                                                            • I had a job walking the streets and would see someone dressed nicely and as I passed them I would say good morning, you look nice today. With a smile. Some took it for what it was and others were confused. It takes all types to make this world. I have made 3 great friends.
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                                                                                                                                              • It's an uncomfortable " grey " area,especially in the workplace. Especially today. Comments about others appearance especially can be construed as sexual harassment. So all comments about the opposing sex should be well considered and relevant. I have long term friendships with males. We can compliment each other without it feeling weird. I wouldn't do that with a stranger.
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                                                                                                                                                • I have a different take on it. I have been hurt more than I can count. I don't deserve it. I don't treat anyone badly at all I have a good heart. I am just a very broken woman. So I don't get compliments and how are you supposed to give one to a man when there so many that already have bad egos? Yes, I met them too. It's a cruel world out there but I am a romantic and still hope for the best cuz I have a huge heart.
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                                                                                                                                                  • You've already answered the question. That is exactly why women don't compliment men as much.
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                                                                                                                                                    • I still do once in a while, but it's true that usually a man will instantly brighten up and start hitting on you!
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                                                                                                                                                      • time and place, thanks for opening the door, letting me go first...
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                                                                                                                                                        • Probably because we don't catch it if we are tired from our daily activities.
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                                                                                                                                                          • Truth is women don't want to be thought of as coming on to a man. Women do compliment men on a job well done but rarely on appearance for just that reason.
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                                                                                                                                                            • TY JANN R
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                                                                                                                                                              • I do I like telling men they are dress nice they look good and in a way that's appropriate only
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                                                                                                                                                                • “What you give out you get back” compliments, gratefulness, acts of kindness are all positive energy! Gender should not matter, just be aware of what you say and who you say it too…
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                                                                                                                                                                  • Totally agree men have one thing on their mind!
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                                                                                                                                                                    • I dont know I never compliment anyone so to me makes no difference
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                                                                                                                                                                      • I paid a compliment to my nephew once as it was the first time I'd seen him in a suit. He was about 17 at the time. His slicked blonde hair all combed back. At first I didn't really recognise him. He was going to some place, I forget what it was now.
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                                                                                                                                                                        • Idt all men take things the wrong way at all. I've complemented both sexes, and not to suck up to them, just because I was impressed. If you are sincere then praise them, if not don't say anything . Why do women praise men less? Maybe the men think that the women are trying to chat them up, tho more women do these days. Or it could be😐 that some women are more selfish when it comes to praising the opposite gender. Some women aren't very charming so less likely to praise, and instead prefer backhanded insults. Lol
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                                                                                                                                                                          • Thats a loaded question, no matter how I answer it....ITS A TRAP!!!!!
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                                                                                                                                                                            • Because they are thinking of how to compliment themselves
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                                                                                                                                                                              • You are smokin hot. Thank you but you're not you're first to tell me that nor will you be the last
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                                                                                                                                                                                • keep your thoughts to yourself, don't say it
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