More insanity. what selfish idiot thought this up??? some guy/girl who wanted sex without the responsibility???? and what country was this in. I seem to be blessed I havent been around selfish people

not

I guess I should add that it's been around 25 or 30 years that they've had this arrangement.

It works really well for someone close to me and her husband. She lives and works close to family in Ontario, while he lives and works in Alberta near other family members. Visits are regular throughout the year and neither has any plans to change this arrangement. I'm twice divorced and maybe this would work for me???

crazy, why get married then

I very much doubt it 🤔

Karen I hear you

no

I know my wife would love this now after 26 years of marriage but I also know that I will not.

No

No

It is actually better for the woman and not the man. Married men who live with their wives live longer whereas it is the opposite for women. But whatever floats your boat, is okay I reckon.

A couple in America bought the house next door to set up more Christmas lights. I don't think that this is the same.

Different strokes, for different folks

No, I think the whole point of marriage is to learn to live in harmony and peace and put one another's needs in front of your own. Marriage isn't foolproof. But living apart certainly isn't going to teach you how to be happy or content living together. Bypass marriage if it's going to lived out separately.

No

no not a good idea

I really don't know. What about their kids and pets? They split them like in a custody arrangement? It's crazy 🤪 And the costs are double!! Really, it seems more like a boyfriend-girlfriend arrangement Edited 03-May-23 06:26am

works great for me and the ex 😁

Nope Nope Nope and Nope. 😅

This would work for me. Can the other house be in the Gold Coast or Hawaii?

So do the kids and pets have their own house as well?

Yes. I knew a lady that I worked with. She and her husband bickered every day in a house they shared. They ended up divorcing after 35 years of marriage. They both live down the hall from each other in an apartment block and now are getting along amazingly well. She calls her ex-husband her new best friend. Life can change for the better!

My parents had lived in separate houses for several years until my stepdad got fired from his job and end up moving back in with my mom.

My husband and I love living together. We have so many more opportunities to laugh at one another and bring joy, more chance to see what that person goes through in their day to day so you're more likely to be compassionate if you see they've been working on a big project for example. It's more opportunity to communicate, share meals, share moments. Absolutely cannot even consider why you would want to marry someone you don't want to share life with.

Novels are just that, a little bit of fantasy to relieve you from the mundane of runny noses ,piles of dirty laundry and a sink full of dishes so take a deep breath put the kettle on have a tea or coffee and finish your novel.

Try jobs where you spend 9 months out of 12 at sea. Very similar

Only if you could meet up each night for play.😇

Depends. If they are young and children are involved, then no. If they are older and each has their own residence that they don't want to leave, then possibly it could work. But, really why marry in the first place?

I don’t think so.

Building materials and Housing shortages not to mention the homeless

It’s a brilliant idea Why didn’t I think of that?

If you are making enough money to afford a mistress and a wife (other words making money (legally) was neither an issue for you) - then you can financially afford to operate two different, distinct, and expensive households (without having to cutting back on household expenses - PERIOD)! Therefore (in theory) - this concept SHOULD (happy ever after, but still lived in separate houses) WORK(?). Since you already have the experience (know how) and money (it is going to be expensive) to make it work! Bon Appetit! JOUIR!Edited 03-May-23 06:28am

I disagree 100%

No but i do plan on buying one in Texas. He doesn’t want to go with me…

Say no I'd want my husband with me why get married if going live in separate houses

Simply disagree. Couple owe to stick together for better or worse.or else there no marriage

If you travel a lot for business, you may a defect arrangement like this already. I know some folks that are away most of the week and come back on weekends. Or they meet somewhere else.

yes summer cottage for wife&kids,castle for the king and business get togehter on weekends

What happens if you have kids?Edited 03-May-23 01:24am

GOOD IDEA. COULD HAPPEN.

No, people are meant to be together. We need it, for those who don't have it, they want it.. Once you get married that is like winning the lottery.

I know people who do it and it works for them. Now those folks are past 60 and they are set in their ways and sharing space at this point would be difficult as is combining households. Speaking personally, we are more loving, avoid fights, relish our time together which is everyday, cook for each other, and show and say I love you frequently. Stress levels are lessened. We focus on what is important rather than get caught in the little irritations that morph into larger ones.

It is a good idea as I end having to pick after my ex-husband. We miss each more when we were living in different homes. When he moved in with me, he took me more for granted.

No, the idea of getting married is to live together.....

As kids can get caught in the middle of both parents. I did my best to remain impartial, but I was on my mum's side more. I felt she was the more innocent of the two.Edited 03-May-23 00:59am

possibly....not at first perhaps....but as you grow older...each does things that really annoys the other...and each gets set in their ways...it is always nice to have a break from "living on top" of each other...

It wasn't in any way my mum's fault, it's just some people have trouble with adjusting to families and responsibilities. It never seemed to affect us later on as we got older, besides, a couple of older siblings had left home by then. There was still some tension but not as much.

It happened to my family...similar to what you mentioned . My parents decided to live apart and it was a amicable agreement. They never really broke up, as dad was still visiting us, and he was still working, supporting us financially. It was good for both parties. Less stress and arguments. Family Life got him down a bit and he liked to drink and gamble a bit. He seemed more calmer after he moved. He went to live with his mother who was alone after her husband, my pop died. She had health issues so it worked out fine. He still visited and I was going to school when it happened.

Who can afford one house never mind two these days?

If the houses were next door it would be ideal! If he doesn't like the mess, he can head home! If I don't want to watch the hockey game, I can head home. Also be fun to spy on him when he's in the garden from my second floor window. 😃