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What s the thought on a female getting pregnant at a young age?
Kimberlyq1979$28-Jan-25 10:39 pm
I would say that if I was in that situation I would just be there for my daughter or son and support them in anyway I could.
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  • I was the eldest in my friend group to get pregnant,. I was married and had my first at 23. The youngest was 14. She struggled. She committed suicide at the age of 30. I would encourage all young women to wait beyond 18 as your body is still growing and it's financially tough on a junior wage or government hand outs to support yourself and the child. Frank talks about relationships and birth control are important,many young girls know they want children at a young age,whether they are emotionally strong enough and mature enough to have them is another thing entirely.
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    • Everything happens for a reason. If it were my Children/Child,I would support their decision. Us as our Family unit would help raise the baby.
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      • I feel there is a reason. Perhaps, later on in life that same person would be unable to have a baby. God knows best.
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        • The best example I can think of is a classmate who got pregnant in High School before graduation. She married the baby's father and...so far...they are living happily ever after. That might not be the case for most people; she turned out to be smarter and further along than most her age.
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          • Also just want to add, I wouldn't mind being a young grandma! I'd happily look after my kids kids while they went to work. Kids being raised by family is really important for their emotional wellbeing and development withing the first 1000 days of their life. Career wise it doesn't matter if you have kids earlier. Example I done the career thing then had kids in my 30's and done OK. But my little sister on the other hand was a teen pregnancy at 15 but she developed her career later and done REALLY WELL now and is a millionaire developing AI systems. She went back to study after having baby and went to uni etc and all our family supported her as much as we could. So there ya go, depends how you work later if you have kids early. I understand this is a good scenario though and it doesn't always turn out that way for other people so it's a good idea to see other opinions as well and life experience to get a rounded opinion. In a nutshell I think if you know the young mum has a lot of potential and you have a close and caring family then the young mum will not be held back from having a child early. Time can be on your side in this case. Supporting a young pregnancy doesn't have to be hard if everyone in the family chips in - example my job was to drop off and pick up little sister and baby nephew from college and kindi, my big sister helped babysit nephew when little sis worked part time in the weekends, my big brothers wife loved babies and used to shower nephew with gifts. Everyone played a part.
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            • How young is your definition of young? Age group specifically. Last time I was pregnant my midwife told me there are two age groups that are higher risk pregnancies: those aged under 21 and those aged over 35 therefore physically those are our limitations. She explained that under 21 our bodies are still growing alongside the baby so both mum and bub are competing for resources. Over 35 fertility issues, genetic problems, miscarriages and dangerous childbirth etc. So perfect age group according to physical readiness is 21 - 35. Financially people are better off from late 20's to early 30's as this age group has had time to settle career wise, understanding budgeting and responsibility, having a nest egg if they started saving when they started working etc. as raising a child is expensive all of this is useful and ideal. Genetically it's best to have kids before 32 however. Our bodies become less efficient at filtering out bad genes as we age and risk starts to increase after age 32. Studies are showing this also applies to men, they have a biological clock as well as after age 35 men tend to father children who have higher risk of developing mental illnesses such as schizophrenia, adhd, autism spectrum disorder etc. Family size is another consideration. If you want a larger family you need to start earlier as people often don't consider recovery period after childbirth - if you conceive within 18 months after your last childbirth then you go into high risk category for dangerous labour and miscarriage. In terms of societal expectation it doesn't matter. I noticed that when I first became a mum in my 30's people looked down on me more like I was just some young mum that just got pregnant. I'm 37 now and still treated the same way (my youngest right now is 1 years old). So that tells me that people don't care about age, they'll just judge because they feel like judging. You can't escape it no matter what age you are. Hope this helps!
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              • nothing more to add to such a brilliant answer.
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              • Age isn't always the cause of those illness you describe. There are more younger parents having unhealthy kids . It's not about age, it's about health genes, and that can happen at any age.
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            • Go away! You sound like a 14 year old.
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